He Believes He is His Own God & Supports Satanism

Anonymous Writes... please help me sister. I have this friend who also happens to be an ex-boyfriend of mine. We didnt talk for ages and only started talking again this year? (broke up last year) He is VERY opinionated and believes that he is his own God and supports satanism. Being christian I wanted to help him and i've been trying to tell him about God. However he brings up hard questions like about how the kids in Africa are suffering and keeps saying why doesn't God save them. I try to answer but I'm not too sure myself. Me and him are only friends and I have boyfriend of 10 months. My boyfriend is willing to accept God and has tried to understand christianity. However when I see my ex-boyfriend (we have the same afterschool activities) we flirt. Does him picking me up and throwing me over his shoulder count as flirting? I have confesed to my boyfriend that I may like my ex and we tried to work it out. It worked until i went on a camp with my ex in the weekend. At night I went to a spare unit it get some sleep and he followed me an we slpet in the same bed. We did not have sex but we did french kiss around 5 times. I feel guilty and unGodly. I told my boyfriend today and he was very upset. He is also leaving to go overseas today and is coming back the day I leave to go overseas so we will not see each other for a month. How can I help my ex so he will get to know God? Was what I did very wrong? What should I do about me and my boyfriend? What should I do in general? Please help me

Trophy of Grace said...
I am soooo sorry for the delayed response. We have been inudated with the Christmas and family. Please forgive us..

Also, I am standing in for Saved by Faith today. My name is Trophy of Grace.

I pray that our Lord will give me the Words to help you. The first question I want to address is ‘How can you help your ex come to know God?’ I don’t believe that this is your job. This is the job of the Holy Spirit to give revelation to us of God’s love, mercy, and grace. You can not make anyone get to know God. You can only plant the seed or water it.

It seems to me that your ex has a blinder on His eyes and he is being stubborn and hard hearted. He does not want to know God. You said that he is into Satanism. This is the stronghold that is keeping his mind and heart captive.

2 Corinthians 4:4 Satan, who is the god of this evil world, has made him blind, unable to see the glorious light of the Gospel that is shining upon him, or to understand the amazing message we preach about the glory of Christ, who is God.

I think that you should stay away from him. This friendship is a tool in the hands of the enemy to try to confuse you and bring doubt in your mind about your faith and why you believe the way you do. He is trying to get you to question our Lord and His existence. This has always been the devil’s method of operation.

Colossians 2:3 Don’t let others spoil your faith and joy with their philosophies, their wrong and shallow answers built on men’s thoughts and ideas, instead of on what Christ has said.

Regarding the suffering in the world and why a loving God would allow is:

The suffering the world is the result of a falling world, sin is the reason for suffering, sickness, death. The wages of sin is death and sorrow. All of us are sinful, even babies are born with a sinful nature and will eventually grow and sin like everyone else. So no one is innocent. The only that was innocent and suffered was Jesus Christ and our All Knowing God allowed His own Son to suffer and cruel death for us all to have an opportunity to come to Jesus and be saved. He sacrificed His own Son for us. To deliver us from the consequences and final judgment that is coming upon this sinful and rebellious world.

I choose not to question our Lord and His ways, instead I trust Him and take Him at His Word which says that He works EVERYTHING out for our good. (Romans 8:28) No one likes suffering but I have seen our Lord change me and many others through the sufferings in our lives. These sufferings can bring us closer to God. At least they have for me.

One day all this sorrow will end and there will be no more tears and that is the day that all believers await. Until then we must trust our Lord and not allow foolish men to get us to doubt our Lord. Remember that God’s thoughts are so much higher than ours, His ways are not our ways.

Regarding your new boyfriend:

You said that he is not a believer but that he is willing to learn more about Christianity. That is good for him, however may I remind you that our Lord has told us not to be unequally yolked with unbelievers. He is not a believer yet..it seems to me that you are dating men that are not Christians. You are only going to find yourself with division in your relationships regarding your faith.

You have to first build your house on the Rock, Jesus Christ. Draw closer to Him. Read the Word constantly and go to church so that you are with other believers that believe the same as you do. Then once you are really rooted in the Word of God and He is your first love you can expect the Lord to bring you your mate. The one that is to be with you till death do your part. You are messing with all Mr.Wrongs.

Seek first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added to you sister..

God bless you.

Trophy of Grace’s

Also read this article Why Does God Allow People to Suffer?

He Likes to Make Me Angry Because He Finds it Attractive

Drained Wrote: i love my boyfriend so much but we argue everyday over little unimportant things. i also feel verbally and emotionally abused by him. he says he likes to make me angry because he finds it attractive when im stirred up. it's taking a toll on me and draining me out. i love him a lot and i don't want to leave him.what do i do?

Response: Every relationship has disagreements but it’s not healthy to have them everyday, especially if it’s for someone’s amusement. If you feel verbally and emotionally abused, you have to break away.

Abuse by definition is
1. to use wrongly or improperly; misuse: to abuse one's authority.
2. to treat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive way: to abuse a horse; to abuse one's eyesight.
3. to speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about; revile; malign.

Is this something you think God wants for you? No!! God wants to bless your life! A blessing is God’s love, thoughts, and desires for you to become all that you are meant to be. You are a blessing.

“Taste and see that the Lord is good." (Psalm 34:8)

Isaiah 30:18
"Yet the LORD longs to be gracious to you;
he rises to show you compassion."

Psalm 16:8-11
"I have set the LORD always before me.
Because he is at my right hand,
I will not be shaken.
Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices;
my body also will rest secure,
because you will not abandon me to the grave,
nor will you let your Holy One see decay.
You have made known to me the path of life;
you will fill me with joy in your presence,
with eternal pleasures at your right hand."

God does not intend for relationships to endure hardships like abuse. What He intends for you is a life of love, unconditional love… first with Him, our Lord and Savior, then with others. In finding and strengthening your love with Christ, you will also strengthen your self-love. And, with that, you will realize that what you’re dealing with from your boyfriend is NOT love.

Pray for God’s strength to help you with this. God will give you the tools you need to see yourself out of this dysfunctional relationship.

Psalm 18:35
"You give me your shield of victory,
and your right hand sustains me;
you stoop down to make me great."

“Bring my soul out of prison, that I may praise your name." (Psalm 142:7)

Remember that God cares about your life and wants the best for you… don’t let vicious words break you away from that.


With Love,

Saved By Faith

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Pt 3 Cont. from I'm Worried He Still Has Feelings For Her

(Continued from posting 'I'm Worried He Still Has Feelings For Her')

Anonymous Responds..

Well he says he made a big mistake. My family don't want me taking him back. If I do I get kicked out of my home. I feel bad b.c what if he is sincerely sorry? I told him to prove himself and his love and he doesn't know how. I said well apolizing to them is a start. He told me I prayed for the first time in a long time to get you back. I was like ya did cuz I pray all the time and so ....yeah but I don't know if he still trys to get with her too ya know :) It's hard to tell so...I know I am in love with the guy but its been hard cuz my family is all GRAAA at me b.c they said I would be stupid to take him back so for now me and him are just waiting it out and seeing how things go...he still wants to get back but I think he needs to show how much he loves me and not just say it WHAT DO YOU THINK!? thanks

Trophy of Grace Responds

I know that this is all so confusing to you but you have to leave this guy be. You prayed about this and God has showed you in more ways than one now that this is not for you. Do not reject what God is telling you. When God warns us and tries to lead us down a different path than the one we want we should not despise His leading. Do what He tells you. He knows what's best. He will never lead you wrong. Trust Him and lay down your will for your life and ask Him for His will.

I've told you how I feel. I agree with your family. Leave him alone. I think that you are his rebound. He may just not want to be alone because he is used to being with someone. He was with this girl for 5 years. That's a long time. You may be his fall back. Sometimes people think that if they get involved with someone else that it will help them get over their ex.

Ask God to give you strength and courage to accept His will and to move on with your life. Ask him to take away the lust (cause you may not know it now, but it's not love) that you have for him.

I will still be praying for you.
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Anonymous responds..

well thanks you ...it is hard for me to move on because i always have a tendancy to rebound everytime....thats not good either but i think i do love him but i did have lust for him too but thanks you for praying i am glad your here for me too :)

Trophy of Grace says..

You are welcome. We are here for you no matter you chose to do. We are not here to pass judgement or to critize you. Jesus has put a love in hearts to young women. We have desire to help try to guide and lead you down the right path.

God bless you young sister,

xoxo's Trophy of Grace

Anonymous says..

well thanks i will continue to talk to ya'll i am so lucky i came across this

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- Pt4 Cont. from I'm Worried He Still Has Feelings For Her

Mission For Mr.Right

Written by: Trophy of Grace

I remember when I was desperate for love. I chased love and attention from any guy that was willing to pretend to even care. I sold myself short all the time dating guys that just wanted one thing from me. I have always been a pretty intuitive chick so it was no surprise to me when I found out that they were just using me, so I told myself that I was just using them too. In a sense I really was. We did not love or respect each other.

“I love you” was muttered to those guys that I thought could possibly be the one, but I quickly learned that love isn’t cheating, sex, lying, and manipulating. However that was the love I got and that was the love I learned to give.

Deep down inside my heart was hidden underneath layers of denial, hurt, betrayal, loneliness, and sadness longing to have a love that was something special and different from the rest. I needed someone to love and cherish me. I wanted to be some man’s everything. My mission for love and Mr. Right only lead me to lust and infatuation in the arms of Mr. Wrong every time. When would I finally be someone’s wifey?

I wish I knew then what I know now, that we don’t need to go around looking for Mr. Right. He will come and find us when the time is right and appointed by God. All we have to do is leave it in God’s hands and change our focus in life from searching for love in all the wrong places to receiving love from the One who gives True Love.

Instead of desperately seeking a relationship with a man we are to first diligently seek a relationship with the One who loves us more than words can say. He is the lover of our souls. He is the one who can give us the desires of our hearts. He is the one that we can depend on and cast all of our cares on. He is the one that has good gifts to give us because He cherishes us with all of His heart. He will not leave us or abandon us. He will not lie, deceive, and hurt us. He sacrificed His son on the cross for us so that we can be saved and live life more abundantly. God Almighty has us constantly on His mind. He longs to have an intimate relationship with us.

Matthew 6:33 “But seek (aim at and strive after) first of all His kingdom and His righteousness (His way of doing and being right), and then all these things [taken together will be given you besides.

Having a real personal relationship with God before searching for our soul mate is the wisest thing we could ever do. The Lord will teach us about real Love. Receiving His love and spending time with Him will teach us how to love others. Our minds will be renewed and changed. We will be healed and equipped to be the helpmate to the man that God has ordained for us.

While you are being taught and renewed by the Word of God the Lord will also be molding and preparing your future husband. At the same time our Lord will be making a way for your paths to cross one day, if they haven’t already. He is the best match maker because He knows what you both want and most of all what you need.

Abort your mission to find your soul mate. Start pursing a romance with the Lover of Your Soul. He will make you feel cherished, adored, beautiful, and loved. Then when Mr. Right comes you will be ready to serve each other the way God intended. Seek first God’s will for your life.

Waiting, Dating & Mating

Written by: Daughter of The King

Have you ever wondered who invented dating? It’s such a common thing now a days that it seems like everyone is dating and those who are not are dying to start. That got me wondering about the purpose of dating, so as a Christian woman I went to the Bible to see what it had to say about dating, do you know what I found? NOTHING!

The Bible has a lot to say about marriage but not on dating. We think that dating is something that has always existed but it is an invention of the 20th century. The real purpose of dating is to help us select our future husband, back in Bible times you did not select your husband, your father did that for you. Now personally I’m glad our parents don’t chose our husband for us anymore but on the other hand dating the way its done today has gotten out of hand.

The problem is that dating has shifted from something we do to find our future husband to something we do just for fun and now the age at which girls start dating is getting younger and younger. And how about the actual date; back in the day when you were dating a guy he would take you on a picnic or to a carnival, he would buy you flowers, stuffed animal and maybe even write you a poem or love letters. It saddens me when girls tell me that guys don’t do those things anymore. There are two reasons why they don’t. The first reason is that since we’re starting to date so young they simply don’t have the money or skill to do them. The second reason is that they don’t have to; since it’s so easy to get a girl to out with you, make out with you, and maybe even have sex with you why would you bother spending money on flowers?

So, here’s what I’m suggesting ladies; take it slow. What’s the rush? You have a long life ahead of you and if you would just wait until the right time to do things you would enjoy them much more.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-5 says”There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain…”

Get the idea? If you’re no where near ready for marriage this is your time to wait but while you’re waiting you should be thinking about what kind of man you need your husband to be, do you want a man that is faithful? Respectful? Honest? Funny?

During this waiting time you should also be working on your own character, do you possess the qualities that you’re looking for? Also, the waiting period is a great time to get out there and have some fun with your group of friends; observe the guys, scope out who can potentially be a good boyfriend in the future.

The time for dating is when you think marriage could be in your near future (and 10 years is not the near future). I looked up “dating” in the dictionary and this is what it said “to make a date with; go out on dates with” well, it simply means to make an appointment with someone and that doesn’t sound very romantic me.

But, back in the day “dating” used to be called “courting” and that means “To try to gain the love or affection of someone, to seek to marry” isn’t that definition much more romantic? Another word that was used in the past for “dating” is “wooing” it means “to seek to achieve the affection of someone with the intent to romance” the way we date today robs us of good old fashioned romance and what girl doesn’t want to be romanced?

If you rather be courted or wooed instead of just dating there are a couple of things you can do. First don’t start dating too young and second don’t give yourself away. If a guy has access to your body (making out or any type of sex) romance goes out the window because there’s nothing left for him to achieve. But when you don’t give yourself away the right guy, a godly guy will respect and love you more then he will seek to earn your affection and that’s when the romance comes in.

The time for mating (having sex) is when you are married; ALL forms of sex should be kept out of dating and saved for marriage only. That’s what God commands and what’s best for us; sex outside of marriage clouds our judgment, burdens us with emotional baggage and can lead to unnecessary hardships like an STD or an unplanned pregnancy. God created sex to be sacred and when we do it his way (in marriage) it will be amazing!

Ladies, decide you’re worth waiting for; don’t’ get swept up in the dating craze
and don’t let past mistakes keep you from making a fresh start. You can do it!

Together for 2 Yrs and I Can't Trust Him

QUESTION: HEY LADIES HOW ARE YOU LONG TIME NO SPEAK WELL HERE I GO

WELL THERE IS THIS I BEEN WITH FOR 2 YEARS ON AND OFF AND WE FINALLY ARE TRYIN TO GIVE A CHANCE FOR THE LAST TIME BUT HE DOESN'T TRUST ME AND I DNT TRUST HIM. WHEN WE TRY TO HOOK UP THERE'S ALWAYS A EXCUSE ABOUT HIM BEING BUSY. I'VE SEEN HIM TALK TO GIRLS AND GIVE HIS NUMBER OR TAKIN NUMBERS FROM THEM AND I'M GOIN THRU A LIL DOWN FALL BUT WHEN I CAN ALWAYS HELP HIM WHEN I CAN BUT I CAN'T SAY I CAN RELY ON HIM SO WHAT DO U THINK I SHOULD DO

ANSWER: Trust and communication is important in a relationship and it sounds like your relationship is lacking both. I know you’ve invested 2 years into something with him but I don’t think it’s healthy and sound. A couple of pointers that you should tell yourself everyday:

* You are a cherished treasure. (Deuteronomy 14:2) You are a wonderful creation in our Father’s eyes and should be blessed beyond measure. His intention is for His children to be filled with the Holy Spirit and happy. Strengthening your relationship with Christ will help accomplish this.

James 1:17-18
“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created.”

Jeremiah 29:11-13
“God has a wonderful plan for your life if you will only surrender your will to His.“

* God has designed someone to be with you and in His time, He will bring you together. It is so easy for us to react based on our emotions but be careful… emotions can be very deceiving! Pray and be patient. Allow God to place your intended partner in your life, a man that loves God and will love and honor you.

* Trust is pivotal in every relationship…family, friends and love. Without trust and communication, there is no foundation for that relationship. God intended us to have healthy, sound relationships with Godly people. People whom put God first, read the bible, and follow his commands. Establishing these kinds of friendships will have you realize day after day, how important trust and honesty is. You need uplifting relations! Friendships that draw near to God and praise Him… rejoice in His delights… and value you as you are.

Leviticus 19:11
"… Do not lie. Do not deceive one another.”

Hebrews 10:22
”let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water”

Deuteronomy 7:12
If you pay attention to these laws and are careful to follow them, then the LORD your God will keep his covenant of love with you, as he swore to your forefathers.

I hope that you take some time to yourself, get to know YOU again. Realize that you are so precious and deserve so much more than mistrust and deception. Pray. Draw closer to God. He will deliver you from this and bring you to a love that you will cherish forever.

James 4:8
Proverbs 3:5-6
1 Chronicles 16:34


With Love,

Saved By Faith

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We Broke Up But Now He's All Alone

Anonymous said...
My boyfriend and I just recently broke up and I’m taking it pretty hard. Our all too frequent arguments got the best of our relationship which ended in a terrible way. I know that it was something that was going to happen sooner or later because we weren’t obedient to God and we weren’t putting Him first in our lives. I know now that I want to live for the Lord and be obedient to him but I can’t get my now ex-boyfriend out of my head. What really is hurting me is that I know my ex doesn’t have anyone right now. He has no family and no one to encourage his walk with the Lord. I feel that I want to stay in his life to encourage him to seek the Lord but I also think that will make the break-up harder on the both of us and possibly bring us back together when we might need some time apart to develop a closer relationship with the Lord. What should I do?

God's Trophy of Grace said...
I know that what you are going through is hard. So I will be praying for you to recover quickly from this break up. The Lord is merciful and is always ready to comfort us. You are right..this is a time for both of you to draw closer to the Lord. If you haven't already, be sure to increase your prayer time and bible reading time. The Word will be your source of comfort and strength. Put on alot of praise music so that your spirit will be encouraged and uplifted. You will be putting on the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.

Regarding your ex-boyfriend. You must leave him in God's hands. The Holy Spirt will be ministering to him too. You've already received a revelation that trying to comfort and encourage him may not be a good idea. So be obedient to what your spirit is telling you. It is the Lord's job, not yours to care for your ex-boyfriend.

As long as you have a repentant heart and a contrite spirit you are on the right path. The Lord can work with that..

So stay focused and don't let yourself be contaminated by your contacts with the world. Be strong and courageous and in everything put God first.

Praying for you always..

Trophy of Grace
Psalm 51

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My Friend Doesn't Understand

Anonymous Wrote:
My best friend and I have known each other for over 10 years; we know each other very well. Although we are best friends I'm not much of a phone person and our work schedules are so hectic that we only go to dinner about once a week. She always gets mad at me for not calling her enough, etc. We went away this weekend w/ our boyfriends and I sensed she was mad at me the whole time. My boyfriend and I don't drink or go to clubs and I feel she was upset about that. I feel that she is really demanding of my time and doesn’t understand that I don’t want to fall back into the world. I don't know if it's me being a bad friend or if it’s something on her part. She is catholic but doesn’t go to church or anything, I am Christian and want a closer relationship with the Lord. What should I do?

Response:I don’t think you’re being a bad friend. I think this is more about friends understanding one another and accepting them as they are. For example, I work and go to school and am raise my children on my own, so my time is extremely limited… and aside from that, I only like to be on the phone when it’s something important. Most of my friends understand that and respect it. On occasion, there’s one that wants more time or asks why I “never” talk to her (I think her phone is surgically attached to her ear! lol). If I know it’s something that’s important to my friend, I will try to make a call here & there just to say hi (keeping it short) or I’ll send a text message. But they also have to accept my schedule and understand that they cannot be my main focus… but the occasional call or text shows them that, although they aren’t my main focus, I thought of them and am here for them. I think the difference in how you & she are living your lives now might be what’s really hardening the friendship though.

Having friends that don’t go to church or don’t really understand what it means to live as a Christian is very difficult. It is very easy for them to get mad or offended because you don’t want to party with them anymore. Being of the flesh, it’s hard for them to accept that you’ve changed your ways and are trying to live your life according to God’s will. This is when we have to determine who our friends really are. I would love to say that eventually they’ll accept it and you’ll still have the same wonderful friendship but it doesn’t necessarily work that way. A lot of the time, in my experience, they will distance themselves or I will distance myself, because it’s too much of a conflict of interest. Your main focus is strengthening your relationship in Christ and should not… cannot… compromise your salvation. Talk to her, let her know you value the friendship and you would like her to be more understanding and accepting of how you’re living now. Pray before speaking with her; make sure you speak with her out of love. You should also keep her in your prayers. Pray that she finds her way to Christ and turns her sinning ways around. Continue to stand strong and set the example for others. Your testimony will impact others.

Please read this article, it’s about Christian living and fleshly friends.
Jesus Freak

Your sister is Christ,

Saved By Faith

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He Said I'm Ugly...

QUESTION: ok in 6th grade i met this boy... mi first boyfriend who treated me bad... ithought... he never wanted to be around me wit his friends n called me names but i relly like him.. he was my first kiss n so i thought at the time love.... we went on n off datin about a year... n then he just dumped me... i was heartbroken.... for nights i cried myself tosleep he hurt me that bad... i thought that this was the way all relationships are... i have garded my heart ever since... then next year this guy liked me so i let him do what he pleased.. i kissed him when he wanted me to n i let him fill me up... i was hurt n confused... i tryed to use him to get over this guy... i dated a many guys since him... once i made the biggest mistake n stayin wit a guy who beat on me... just becasue he made me feel beautiful... i dumped him when i couldnt take it n e more... i dated many guys since him...but i gaurged my heart not to get attached...i even got to the point where i didnt want a guy to tuch me... i wanted a boyfriend but i was afraid if i kissed him or somthing hed say i was wrong or i was ugly or not good enough... recently my first crush from 6th grade got back intouch wit me... he told me that he thought i was ugly back then so he dumped me... n he still thinks that... i dont no y but i give him so much power.... help... i told him it doesnt bother me but it does

ANSWER: I think you should take some time for yourself. Really get to know you and accept and love yourself exactly as you are. God created you as a beautiful treasure. In His eyes, you are more precious than anything on Earth. And that is something you should always remember. Surround yourself with positive friendships. I suggest you go on a “no boyfriend” fast and just take time to draw closer to the Lord. The word of God tells us that if we seek the things of God first… His righteousness, His peace, His direction, His comfort, His will for our life, His kingdom… everything else we want & desire will be given to us b/c as a result of seeking him, our desires will line up with His will for our life.

I would suggest that you reexamine your commitment to Him. He does not desire that you spend your time looking for love from ungodly men that are just going to use and abuse. You are a child of the most High God. Your body is the temple of God and is meant ONLY to be shared with the man that God has for you, your husband. If you keep on this path, you may end up pregnant, unequally yoked with some guy that’s never going to love and appreciate you or your child. You don’t need baby daddy drama. Focus on your studies. Forget about boys for now. Take this time to allow God to help you develop into a beautiful Godly woman, secure with herself & her faith because of what Christ Jesus has done for us.

James 4:8
Hebrews 10:22
1 Corinthians 3:16
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
1 Thessalonians 4:1-8
Ephesians 5:3
Song of Solomon 1:15
Zechariah. 2:8

Sincerely,

Saved by Faith

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My Heart Skipped A Beat

QUESTION:
Hey do me a favor and go look at my profile at my latest blog. It's all about this guy I meet this weekend and I want to know what you think. Like am I falling way to fast for him or is it just a summer fling??? I really really like him though!

ANSWER:
I read your blog. God gave us feelings and they should be influenced by the Spirit of God who lives within us (1 Corinthians 3:16; 6:19). When our emotions are in charge of us it means that the Lord is not in charge. God never asks us to deny our feelings, just not be led by them.

Finding the right person is very important. Knowing when we have found the right person sometimes takes time and experience. It’s very easy to get caught up in the idea of a relationship and not carefully consider whether or not that person is suitable in the long run.

Your relationship should be built on Christ and not feelings. Important questions to think about for the both of you:

“Are you both saved?”
“What is your understanding of who Jesus is?”
“Do you live according to God’s will?”

You need to be on the same page because if you’re not, it will only lead to misdirection and frustration.

Take your time in getting to know him. Build a friendship first.

We need to maintain faith and trust in God, praying for His provision. Be practical about finding a partner. God knows our needs and wants the best for us.

Psalm 37:4
“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart”.

Saved By Faith

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My Lustful Desires

QUESTION: im 18 n im not a virgin ne more n sometimes i get these overwhelming desires to just hook up w/ ppl i start gettin to kno.....is that normal??

ANSWER: Humans were created to have sexual urges and these urges are natural. However, acting upon them is a different story.

God created us to have sexual pleasure in a member of the opposite sex, but not with just anyone… only with a spouse. He didn't make us to satisfy our desires from person to person, stranger, boyfriend or fiancée. Desiring someone who doesn't belong to you in marriage causes frustration and strays away from what the Lord wants for you… true love and true intimacy.

One of the enemy’s goals is to use a cheap imitation of God’s perfect plan of marriage’s true love and intimacy by using LUST. Lust is a longing that is uncontained and uncontrolled. It is the opposite of self-control, which is one of the "fruits of the Holy Spirit" (Galatians 5:23). Jesus wanted to set us free from these fleshly desires. God will allow us to fulfill these desires with a spouse in His good timing. Until that time, we must learn to control our sex drives.

Draw closer to God for the strength and self-control you need. God is our source of strength and the only defense against the enemy's attacks of lust. Building a relationship with God will give you a desire to please Him more than your own flesh desires.

James 1:13 -18

Be strong in the Lord! Study God's word and seek His will. Remember that the devil's temptations are always deceitful: he may offer you pleasure now but it comes with a horrible price to pay sooner or later.

John 8:34-36

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My Cheating Ex

Confused Asked: I'VE BEEN WITH MY EX FOR THREE YEARS ON AND OFF AND WE FINALLY BROKE UP CUZ HE WAS CHEATING ON ME. OUT THE BLUE HE CALLS AND SAID THAT HE WANTS TO TAKE ME OUT FOR HIS BIRTHDAY IT DOESN'T SOUND RIGHT WHAT SHOULD I DO?


Answer: A major factor in relationships is trust:

Trust
1. reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence
2. confident expectation of something; hope

On again/off again relationships are always difficult because the trust usually slowly fades with every break up. Cheating shows a lack of a couple of things… lack of respect, trust, and of communication. I was in an on/off relationship for 10 years and we struggled with these same issues due to his infidelity. Truth of the matter be told, we weren’t able to get back the trust we had. Your ex’s invitation to celebrate his birthday with you might be him looking for a window of opportunity. He’s seeking you out at your weakest moment and this kind of manipulation or seduction is not God’s intention.

The enemy boasted, 'I will pursue, I will overtake them. I will divide the spoils; I will gorge myself on them. I will draw my sword and my hand will destroy them.’ (Exodus 15:9)

Pray. Ask the Lord to show you what He would have you do (Philippians 4:6-7).Ask God to give you wisdom (James 1:5). God promises to grant prayer requests that are asked according to His will (1 John 5:14-15). God wants you to make good relationship decisions. God desires you to be happy from your relationships. If you ask God with an open heart, He will give you the advice you need.

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He's Back, What Do I Do?

Strongatheart Asked... Last summer I went out with this guy and we were close but then he broke it off in a really mean way. Now I have a boyfriend, who I'm not so sure about and I saw that guy the other night and we had fun. It was like nothing had ever happened and he even apologized. Now I can't stop thinking about him and I don't know what to think. I'm very confused about everything. Have any advice on the situation?


Answer... Being in a relationship is serious and should not be taken lightly. A relationship is an agreement between you and another person to support each other emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. In my own experience in situations like this, I realized that it was an opportunity for me to forgive and move on.

Running into an ex is always a doozy because old emotions usually stir up. You remember the good times you had and picture yourself back in that place. But you have to remember that relationship took its path and you’ve moved forward since then. Consider your past relationship(s) as “lessons learned.” What did you learn about yourself from the relationship? As far as your ex… because it had ended on a sour note, you should consider his apology closure for you. One of God’s blessings is forgiveness and He’s given you the opportunity to forgive and forget. Because God forgives us even when we’ve ignored Him, we should forgive others. God gave you the opportunity to see him again in order to forgive him.

• Accept the apology
• Appreciate the friendship you had
• Know that things aren’t left on a sour note now (closure)
• Remember what you’ve learned about yourself through this and use it for future friendships

Something you shouldn’t forget to take into consideration is that the decisions you make not only affect you but they affect the people around you as well. If you seek God and his will for your life first, he’ll send the right person for you. (Matthew 6:33) Pray for clarity - for a clear mind and heart, as we will pray for you too.

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