Twilight's Blood-Soaked Romance

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Twilight’s Blood-Soaked Romance
by Melanie M. Cogdill

In the dappled sunlight in the clearing of a meadow on the edge of a forest, 16-year-old Bella Swan’s heart races as GQ-model-handsome Edward Cullen draws near to her. Edward, in love with Bella, musters every ounce of self-control not to kill her. Killing’s his first instinct—because he’s a vampire. This scene, a vivid dream of author Stephenie Meyer, sparked her imagination to write Twilight, the first book of a bestselling young-adult series.

The Phenomenon
From that original dream, Stephenie, a 30-something housewife and mom of three young boys, has birthed a four-novel series that has sent teen girls and women of every age swooning over the star-crossed love story of Bella and Edward. In fact, a movie based on the series, starring Kristen Stewart (Into the Wild) as Bella Swan and Robert Pattinson (two of the “Harry Potter” movies) as Edward Cullen, opens Nov. 21.

The series has certainly appealed to a wide audience, but just because everyone’s reading it, should you? Despite the series’ surface appeal as a romance, it communicates many messages that are contrary to the Christian faith, and that’s not something you should be filling your mind with.


Truth and Relationships
God created us as relational beings, and girls in particular are created to be relational (Genesis 2-3). We tend to focus on relationships, but sometimes we make an idol out of them or fantasize over our desire for a relationship with that “perfect” guy. No guy can ever live up to the way Stephenie portrays Edward. He’s the fantasy creation of a woman writer.

Bella’s obsession with Edward is wrong. She’s even willing to become a vampire herself so she can “live” forever with Edward. But how can a human ever be yoked to or be in a serious relationship with a vampire? And what’s dangerous about Stephenie’s series is that the reader, too, enters into Bella’s obsession with Edward.

If we believe in God and believe the Bible guides how we live our lives, then we know our highest priority is our love for God and our relationship with Him. God should be the driving force of our lives and not a guy, no matter how attentive, respectful, cool and loving he appears to be. The “Twilight” books don’t communicate God’s truth about relationships.

The “Twilight” series also teaches unbiblical attitudes toward authority. Bella doesn’t respect her parents. She loves them, but they come across as clueless and out of touch with what’s going on in her life. Edward sneaks into Bella’s room every night to sleep next to her, and Bella lies to her dad about it.


Talking About God
Every part of culture (books, movies, music, art and fashion) communicates the belief of the writer, musician, designer or director. The “Twilight” series is no different. It conveys specific beliefs about God. Statements about God and salvation are peppered throughout the story in a subtle way. But are they biblical?

Good and evil in Twilight. Edward and his family are supposedly a different kind of vampire. The Cullens think killing humans is wrong. Even though they thirst for human blood, they abstain and instead hunt bears and large game for their blood. Stephenie’s story communicates that even though Edward is technically an evil being—he is, after all, a vampire—he tries to be good by not killing humans for food. But can an evil being ever be “good”? If he repents and reforms his ways—Beauty and the Beast, anyone?—yes, but the vampires in this series do not. They remain vampires.


Good and evil in the Bible. The Bible teaches the opposite of what “Twilight” does about goodness and salvation. Human beings are sinners. We cannot know God apart from faith in Christ’s death on the cross for our sins. Romans 3:22-24 states, “This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”

Many people believe that when they die, God will allow them into heaven because they tried to live a good life and do good deeds. That is basically what the vampires of this series do; they believe that by doing “good” deeds (e.g., not killing humans), they can be saved.

But the Bible clearly teaches no one can be redeemed by good deeds. It’s only through faith in Christ that we can enter heaven and into the presence of the God. Yes, the “Twilight” story is only fiction. It’s not the Bible, but Christian readers need to be on guard to discern if spiritual statements in books, films or music match the truth of God’s Word.


An Entry to the Occult
The final book in the series, Breaking Dawn, makes a hard turn from romance into horror and the occult. Bella and Edward get married and have sex.

In one extended, very disturbing scene, Bella dies and is transformed into a vampire. She gives birth to a half-human, half-vampire baby, which tears its way out of her belly with torrents of blood.


What Do You Believe?
It’s easy to think it’s no big deal to see the latest hip movie or read the books everyone else is reading and not pay attention to what those media are saying.

We’re to love God with every fiber of our beings, and that includes loving Him with our minds (Matthew 22:36-38). We need to think about what fills our minds. Does it reflect biblical truth? The “Twilight” series does not. Just because the culture loves these books does not mean you should. As Scripture tells us, “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will” (Romans 12:2).


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This article appeared in Brio magazine in December 2008. Copyright © 2008 Melanie M. Cogdill. All rights reserved. International copyright secured.

I Decided to Stay Pure... the Girl Offered Him Sex

Anonymous commented:
Hi....I need some really good advices...I've been going out with my bf for 5 months...everything was doing good until when I found flirtatious messages on his phone... I asked what was it about? After lying so much to me, it admitted that he met an old friend of his and it happened that they kissed and he said that was the only thing that happened. I beleived him and I told him that next time he does something like this ..I'm gonna break up with him...yesterday I found out that he had sex with the same girl that he kissed 6 weeks ago...I asked him why did he do that ? he told me since I decided to stay pure until mariage... the girl offered him to have sex, it found it as an opportunity..he said that he's sorry and he's willing to change but I don't know if he is really sincere...I wanna leave him so bad but deep inside I wanna give him a second chance .i dont know what to do..please give me some Godly advices.

Saved By Faith answered:
Dear sister, I’m glad that you’ve chosen to remain pure until marriage. That is a very difficult and yet responsible decision. Although 5 months seems like an eternity, you and he are still getting to know one another. And the fact that he’s lied and cheated doesn’t help the situation.

Proverbs 20:17
Food gained by fraud tastes sweet to a man,
but he ends up with a mouth full of gravel.

Proverbs 12:22
The LORD detests lying lips,
but he delights in men who are truthful.

God’s intended partner for you will have the same beliefs and will respect your decision to live a Christian life, as he will be following the same lifestyle. Your intended partner will not use your beliefs as a crutch or excuse to disrespect your relationship. He will love Christ, be honest and will genuinely care for you. That is the person that God has for you.

Psalm 15:2-3
He whose walk is blameless
and who does what is righteous,
who speaks the truth from his heart
and has no slander on his tongue,
who does his neighbor no wrong
and casts no slur on his fellowman,

I think you should take into consideration the length of the relationship and how long into it that he violated its sanctity. He was so quick to have an excuse to stray… you have to be able to fully trust your partner.

Knowing the word of God should make your decision a little clearer. Pray that God gives you the wisdom (James 1:5) and strength to make a sound, healthy decision.

I will pray for you.

Your sister,

Saved By Faith

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Saved By Faith said...
I've returned to your question because it's been weighing heavy on my heart...

I don’t think you should continue a relationship with this guy. He’s violated the relationship and, in a sense, has tried to belittle your obedience to God for his own satisfaction.

Keep your focus on the Lord and He will bring you your life partner.

Galatians 6:9
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.

In God’s time, you will have a man who:
- shows you respect
- makes you feel safe
- demonstrates his faith in God

Here are a couple of resources that you might find enlightening:

10 Ways to Practice Purity by Ron Hutchcraft

Christianity Today, Ignite Your Faith

He Cheats But Keeps Sayin All the Right Stuff

MySpacer Wrote: hey its me again well im going through a crazy brake up and i kno that i shouldnt go back with him because he cheated on me 2many times its just hard not to u kno i dont kno wat to do i love so much we have a kid 2getther but i dont want to go back to him he keeps sayin all the right stuff to me and i think im fallin 4it

Response: Hi. I know it's hard to break away from someone when you've invested so much emotion and time into him, especially if you have a child together. I was with my children's father on & off for 10 years. In that time he cheated almost constantly, we'd break up, he'd say all the right things and we'd get back together - for him to do the same thing again.

It takes courage and self control to break this cycle. One of the realizations that helped me see what I had to do was this... how can you make your child happy if you're not happy? God's blessed you with a child and it is your responsibility to provide a loving environment for him/her. Have the father's infidelities and all the arguments that come with that is not healthy, for anyone (you, him or the baby). Even at a young age, children can sense others' emotions.

Aside from being strong for your child, you also have to be strong for yourself. You are a child of God. You are more precious than gold. God's intended for you to be with someone that respects and loves you. You and your partner should have a monogamous relationship.

~ 1 Corinthians 13 ~
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.

Can you build a support chain with a couple of your friends or family members? Like, instead of calling him you call your specific friend instead. Pray for strength. Pray for endurance. Pray for God to help you make the right decision. Whether you're together or not, the both of you have the responsibility of raising your child. Now is the time, especially during hardships like this, when the TWO of you have to take your child into consideration first... before the "You" or "Me" comes into play.

I know it's a difficult time. I will pray for you in your time of need.

Dear Father God, please give her the strength and clarity she needs to make it through this situation. Please provide her with the means and motivation to make the right decisions for her and her child. Give her the opportunity to raise her child in a loving home with both parents active in his/her life.

Your Sister,

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How Can I Tell My Parents About My Boyfriend? Part 2

(Continued from How Can I Tell My Parents About My Boyfriend?)

Girl’s Reply: thanx for the advice but i dont if u understand..i like him alot i think i might even love him and i dont DO NOT want to break his heart and i no he feels the same.its not like my grades r slippping im just as focused on school as i waz when i didnt have a boyfriend.ok ill admite that my conshents is bother me about it and i hate keepng stuff from me parents because it always comes out ugly.how do i NOT break the boys heart and tell my parents its impossible =[ =[

Response: Why would you prefer to break your parents’ hearts as opposed to his? Knowing that they want the best for you, why do that to them? I know when I was younger I swore my parents didn’t understand what I was going through or what I wanted, especially if I liked a boy. But it wasn’t that at all… it’s that they’ve been there. They had the same questions and confusions when they were younger. And even if it seems like they don’t understand, they really do. And they’re speaking to you out of experience.

I know it sucks sometimes but you should really respect your mom & dad’s word. You’ll see a few days, weeks, or even years from now that they gave you good advice. They love you with all their hearts… they wouldn’t allow you to do anything that’s damaging to you.


Ephesians 6
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise—"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."

Colossians 3:20
Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

I hope you take the time and really think this through.

Lovingly,

Saved By Faith

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How Can I Tell My Parents About My Boyfriend?

Anonymous Wrote: i really need ur help i have a big situation...i think im falling in love with a boy =] =[ the problem is im not allowed 2 have any boy friends but i made an exception for him. i just wish my parents would no that im wise enough to have and handle a boyfriend i really want to tell them and my boyfriend want me to 2 but i just cant so that. Its like when i talk to them about boy or even try to they dont listen to every thing. all they listen to is the boyfriend part i say… they may not no that but i no...plezz help what do i do!!

Answer: I think there are two topics that should be covered with your question… one being the relationship and the second being the deception with your parents.

Relationships should not be taken lightly and require a lot of the people involved. For this reason, I believe dating should wait until you’re older, more mature. There are so many situations that come up by being in a relationship and waiting until you are more seasoned in life, and in the word of God, will help you handle them better. Give yourself time to grow physically, mentally and spiritually. Allow God to work in your life and in God’s time, He will bring you a relationship that will be undeniable to anyone.

Your parents are well aware of what goes into a relationship and how important it is to mature before getting into one. They also understand the importance of focusing on school and preparing for a career. But most importantly, communication with your parents is very important. Having parents that love you and are by you is such a great gift. And understanding that they have your best interests at heart is something you should realize and respect. Even though you don’t necessarily agree with them, you should honor and respect your parents’ wishes. Trust in the Lord and pray for His help in obeying your parents.

Galations 6:9
2 Thes 3:13


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Together for 2 Yrs and I Can't Trust Him

QUESTION: HEY LADIES HOW ARE YOU LONG TIME NO SPEAK WELL HERE I GO

WELL THERE IS THIS I BEEN WITH FOR 2 YEARS ON AND OFF AND WE FINALLY ARE TRYIN TO GIVE A CHANCE FOR THE LAST TIME BUT HE DOESN'T TRUST ME AND I DNT TRUST HIM. WHEN WE TRY TO HOOK UP THERE'S ALWAYS A EXCUSE ABOUT HIM BEING BUSY. I'VE SEEN HIM TALK TO GIRLS AND GIVE HIS NUMBER OR TAKIN NUMBERS FROM THEM AND I'M GOIN THRU A LIL DOWN FALL BUT WHEN I CAN ALWAYS HELP HIM WHEN I CAN BUT I CAN'T SAY I CAN RELY ON HIM SO WHAT DO U THINK I SHOULD DO

ANSWER: Trust and communication is important in a relationship and it sounds like your relationship is lacking both. I know you’ve invested 2 years into something with him but I don’t think it’s healthy and sound. A couple of pointers that you should tell yourself everyday:

* You are a cherished treasure. (Deuteronomy 14:2) You are a wonderful creation in our Father’s eyes and should be blessed beyond measure. His intention is for His children to be filled with the Holy Spirit and happy. Strengthening your relationship with Christ will help accomplish this.

James 1:17-18
“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created.”

Jeremiah 29:11-13
“God has a wonderful plan for your life if you will only surrender your will to His.“

* God has designed someone to be with you and in His time, He will bring you together. It is so easy for us to react based on our emotions but be careful… emotions can be very deceiving! Pray and be patient. Allow God to place your intended partner in your life, a man that loves God and will love and honor you.

* Trust is pivotal in every relationship…family, friends and love. Without trust and communication, there is no foundation for that relationship. God intended us to have healthy, sound relationships with Godly people. People whom put God first, read the bible, and follow his commands. Establishing these kinds of friendships will have you realize day after day, how important trust and honesty is. You need uplifting relations! Friendships that draw near to God and praise Him… rejoice in His delights… and value you as you are.

Leviticus 19:11
"… Do not lie. Do not deceive one another.”

Hebrews 10:22
”let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water”

Deuteronomy 7:12
If you pay attention to these laws and are careful to follow them, then the LORD your God will keep his covenant of love with you, as he swore to your forefathers.

I hope that you take some time to yourself, get to know YOU again. Realize that you are so precious and deserve so much more than mistrust and deception. Pray. Draw closer to God. He will deliver you from this and bring you to a love that you will cherish forever.

James 4:8
Proverbs 3:5-6
1 Chronicles 16:34


With Love,

Saved By Faith

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Insults, Rumors & Gossip

Written by: Saved By Faith

“Did you hear? ...”
“You didn’t hear it from me but…”
“Someone told me that….”

We’ve all been there before, either saying it or listening to it. Gossiping, exchanging stories, talking about someone, whatever you want to call it. But what exactly did you get from it? Do you still see that person the same way, without judging them? Can that information be used to lift them up? Or did it damage their reputation? Hurt them? Or maybe hurt you?

… Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me…

We’ve all been here before too but how true is this statement? Let’s break this down:

Sticks and stones may break my bones… very true. That pain fades and the wounds eventually heal.

… but names will never hurt me… not true. Name calling or negative comments affect someone much longer than a cut, scrape or bruise. All it takes is for someone to say something negative, a sarcastic remark, discouraging word for us to be knocked down. It only takes one word to put a hole in your heart. For example, Karen Carpenter (from the popular 1970s duo, the Carpenters) died from anorexia at 32. Her obsession with her weight started after an article called her “Richard’s chubby sister.” 1 word had impacted her life and brought her to an early death.

What a lot of people don’t realize is that speaking badly to/about someone and gossiping, are sins. The bible clearly states that one of the steps we must take in order to stay rooted in His word is watching what or how we speak.

Proverbs 10:19
“Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.”

Proverbs 15:4
“Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.”

Our mouth is a weapon to be used with God’s intention – to uplift one another! To speak the Word, give Him praise, and share our testimonies with others. He did not intend for us to use our words to hurt one another, rather as a sword to cut at the enemy’s attacks. In this time of battle we must choose our words wisely. As Christians it is our responsibility to uplift our brothers and sisters, sharing in the joys that our beloved Father has given us. Rejoice in the Lord! Speak of His goodness! Help bring others to Him, leaving all insecurities, negativity, and problems at His feet.

Proverbs: 16:24
"Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones".

Please read: Psalm 34:13, Psalm 39:1, Proverb 13:3, Proverb 15:4, Proverb17:20, Proverb21:23, 2 Timothy 2:16

How Do I Know If My Man Is Cheating?

J Wrote: Hi my name is J i have a boyfriend that loves me to death but i keep getting messages from other girls that are telling me that they are dating him.i want to believe him but i have no idea if he is telling me the truth or not what should i do???

How do I know if my man is cheating??

Answer: This is a hard question to answer. It’s hard to base decisions on gossip but your doubts are obviously there.

I don’t know what the girls’ motives are in telling you that they’re dating your boyfriend; only he and they know the truth. When I was with my ex, I dealt with the same situation. I had the same doubt, the same questions but I also had a gut feeling that something was happening. Some signs that raised my suspicions were his cell phone always on vibrate, late night calls, girls calling, excuses to be out late and wondering eyes.

I think you should pray about it and ask God that you not be deceived. God guides us and leads us into truth, especially when we ask him to reveal the truth to us. Do not ignore the signs. If you ask God, expect to receive an answer:

James 1:5-8
“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does.”

Whatever is in the dark will come to the light. Don’t make any rash decisions. Wait for the truth to be revealed.

Sincerely,

Saved by Faith

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He's Dating 2 of My Friends

Helplessindahill wrote... Ok so i have this friend,best friend, and she was talking to me on the phone. We were planning to go see Batman this friday. Ne way she says "u kno i GO OUT with _______ now?" I was kind of bothered by this because this guy also goes out with my god sister.(my friend doesn't know about her) I had just seen them 2gether the day b4. B4 he got saved and started playing drums and keyboard for my church, he was known to be a player...my question is should i say ne thing to ne body or should i jus sit back and watch him play my god sister like that. She really REALLY likes him and has given up an education at a very well known HBCU in order to stay home closer to him, and he's tryin to go back to his old ways and play her. I want to kno what to do because my old self would of just put him on BLAST so every one would kno what he was doin. But now that i'm saved, i dk how 2 handle the situation!!!! HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! I can't just sit here and watch him play my best friend and my god sis....HELP!!!

Answer... I think the best way for you to handle this situation is by speaking with him directly. Let him know that you’re aware he’s dating both girls and give him the opportunity to handle the situation. If he doesn’t address it in a timely manner then speak with you’re best friend and God sister.

Remember not to address him with a judgemental attitude but remind him that, as part of the Praise and Worship Team, he is called to set an example.

Make sure you pray before you speak with him, that God will give you the words to speak and that He will touch his heart to receive your words.

1 Corinthians 5:12

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Tiny Voice Telling Me To Let Go

Anonymous said...
I need advice… I am 23 years old and have been with my boyfriend for two years; he is my best friend and we have so much fun together when we aren’t fighting. We are both Christians and go to church every Sunday. He has a 4 year old son with another girl (which was upsetting for me because of her behavior towards me but we have gotten past that). He is satisfied with his relationship with God, even though he doesn't keep in His word (God's word) and only goes to church when I ask him to. I have trust issues with him because of what we went through with his ex in the past and the longer that we are together the harder it is for me to trust being so far from him (he lives an hour away). I know he loves me, he says he wants to marry me but we aren't obedient to God and although I am in charge of my own actions he does influence me a lot. On top of all that he doesn’t have his priorities straight, instead of paying off his bills he wants to put more money into his car. I wish he was more concerned about his career and his walk with God than tattoos and his car. I love him so much but I want to be with someone that loves God with all his heart. The fights we have tell me that maybe God doesn’t want us together but then again we have so much fun together. Should I stay in this relationship and trust God will help work things out or should I trust the tiny voice in my head telling me to just let go and move on?

Answer..My sweet sister in the Lord.. That tiny voice in your head is the Holy Spirit. He loves you so much. He has seen all you've gone thru in this relationship and like you said He is telling you to just let go and move on.

I would say based on everything that you have said you know what the right thing to do is. Be obedient to the leading of the Holy Spirit. He will never lead you the wrong way.

You know not everyone who says they are Christians are truly Christians. We are called to test the spirits. As Christians we are suppose have a personal relationship with Jesus, spend time with Him, read the Word, be doers of the Word, and go to church. Not because of a religion but because spending with Jesus reading the Word brings us knowledge and wisdom. This is how we become prepared for helping others and we become equipped to live a successful Christian life. We go to church because we need to be around other believers. Not only because they share the same faith, but because we need accountability. We need other strong believers to help us become strong too.

With all that being said..if the man you love is not doing the things above and claims to be a Christian..then he probably is not. God does not want us to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. He wants us to be with True Christians that love and serve Him.

Don't be lead by your emotions. Be lead by the Spirit of God. He knows what is best for you and has already put in your spirit what you should do. He will help you heal from this relationship. Trust me..the hurt won't last forever.

When you get a chance go to this link...

http://www.seekgod.org/bible/spiritguides.html

There are many scriptures there on the Guidance of the Holy Spirit...read them and be encouraged.

In Christ Love,

Trophy of Grace

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Relationship In Jeopardy

Anonymous ask.. My fiance is in the army and he says he loves me but the other night he invited a girl over to his place to watch movies alone on his bed. I found out about it and i asked him and he said that he planned it to hurt me but he loves me and doesn't want it to end. Is our relationship in jeopardy? I love him to death and I told him. I have been honest with him I just haven't been open with my feelings because he keeps lying to me. What do I do? Please can you help me?

Answer..I know how hurt you are. It is a terrible feeling to be betrayed by someone you love and are contemplating spending the rest of your life with. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

Marriage is a serious commitment that too many young people take lightly. I urge you to really seek God's face about whether or not this man is for you. If he is going around watching movies on beds with other women, could he be sleeping with them too? If so, what if he brings you a venereal disease or worse Aids?

Sometimes God will shed the light on our circumstances so that we can see the Truth. He does not want us to be deceived. He wants to guide us and lead us if we will let Him, but the choice is ours. We can trust God or continue following our own deceitful hearts and ever changing emotions.

Please..please..before marrying this man. Pray with a sincere heart for God to help you make the right decision.I will be praying for you.

Sincerely,
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I can't trust him. I'm tired of his lies.

Anonymous said...

Okay, so my question is:
What should I do about a boyfriend that I question all of the time? He's a sweet guy, but he lies to me all of the time. We've been together for 3 years and he is the one who got me into Church, thankfully, but when we met he used to constantly tell me
what I should and should not be doing in terms of how God sees thing. This is a good thing, but then I've caught him lying to me on several occasions about other girls. I don't believe he has physically cheated, but I have caught him red handed lying to me about sending flirtatious messages over myspace to girls that he knows. He's a sweet guy, a gentlemen, but every time he apologizes and says it won't happen it happens again and now I constantly second guess everything he tells me. He's also a youth leader and keeps this information about his lies hidden from his own friends and family.

Answer:
Not everybody that says they are a Christian is a Christian. If he is a man of God he would be living his life in a way that is pleasing to God. Maybe your boyfriend has served his purpose, by bringing you to church to find God.

If your boyfriend is lying to you, you should reconsider your relationship. Allow God to place in your life a man that’s going to love God first. Because of his relationship with God he will love and honor you. It sounds like you have some trust issues with him and that’s not your fault. Don’t blame yourself for questioning him. Its natural you feel that way. He has abused your trust.

Honestly, I think you should just forgive your boyfriend and move on. Allow God to place the man in your life that He wants for you in His timing. Trust him. He has this all planned out.
(1 Corinthians 13:4)
With love,

Daughter of Destiny

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