denay said...
Hi this is my first time ever being on this site and I need advice bad i mean really bad I have been in a relationship with God EVERY since I was 12 and I am now 18.Well i have just gotten out of this relationship with my ex boyfriend he broke up with me we were going out for almost two years he was my first love.he broke up with me for another girl and this girl is very how can i say this freaky he is a virgin and now he goes with her . the bad thing about it is that he dumped me and the same day i saw him walking with her down the hall way he even went to the extreame of telling me that she was about to get married and after the chrismas brake they came back holding hands now that really hurt. Well anyway i need advice my sister and my friends keep telling me i should say hi to them or him when i see him well i did. and i think it kind of blew up in my face now i think he thinks that i want to go back with him. OK this is what happened today i saw him talking to this girl thats not his girl friend so i walked over and taped him on his shoulder and said hi was that a little to much and if so pleeeeeeeeas tell me and tell me how i can fix this mess please give me a response i and freaking out
Trophy of Grace says..
I know that this break up has to be super hard on you since you were together for two years. For him to all of a sudden break up with you and then to be with another girl so soon has to leave you feeling betrayed and used. I am sorry for what he has done to you. I know that you are hurting deeply. This is the time to keep your eyes on Jesus.
The first thing and most importantly is that you have to forgive your ex-boyfriend. You will need the help of the Holy Spirit for this. It is not easy and you will not be able to do this in your own strength. You will have to choose to forgive him every time you see him or hear about him and her until finally it does not bother you any more. Forgiveness is the first step to healing. If you do not forgive him then you will not be able to get over this. It will consume your mind and heart.
“But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,” Matthew 5:44
You don’t need to go out of your way to talk to him or her. Just allow him to move on. You don’t have to be nasty or mean. If he greets you then respond kindly, but there is no need to go looking for him. He made his choice and you should respect his decision regardless if it was right or wrong. One of my favorite scriptures in the bible that brings me so much comfort is Romans 8:28. I remember this promise when I have hard times; when I am confused, get bad news, or when my life starts going a different direction then what I thought. It says,
“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them.”
You have to hold on to the Lord promises. He does not lie to us. This situation will work out for your good. Trust our Lord. This is a time for you to draw closer to the Lord. If you are not already reading the Word daily then you need to. The Word of God will be the source of your strength, wisdom, and comfort. Look at this as an opportunity for you to find yourself in Christ Jesus. Consider that perhaps this relationship was not God’s will for your life.
Take this time to fall back in love with Jesus. Put on some good Christian praise and worship to lift that spirit of heaviness and depression off of you. Learn to praise our Lord no matter what is happening in your life. That is the way to breakthrough to victory. I promise you that this hurt will not last forever..Leave this situation in God’s hands. Don’t worry and meditate on it. Focus on forgiving him and moving on. Don’t devise plans and schemes to try to get back at him or win him back. Don’t do anything..just let it go.
May our Lord give you the determination you need to move on from this relationship and draw closer to Him.
