He Likes to Make Me Angry Because He Finds it Attractive

Drained Wrote: i love my boyfriend so much but we argue everyday over little unimportant things. i also feel verbally and emotionally abused by him. he says he likes to make me angry because he finds it attractive when im stirred up. it's taking a toll on me and draining me out. i love him a lot and i don't want to leave him.what do i do?

Response: Every relationship has disagreements but it’s not healthy to have them everyday, especially if it’s for someone’s amusement. If you feel verbally and emotionally abused, you have to break away.

Abuse by definition is
1. to use wrongly or improperly; misuse: to abuse one's authority.
2. to treat in a harmful, injurious, or offensive way: to abuse a horse; to abuse one's eyesight.
3. to speak insultingly, harshly, and unjustly to or about; revile; malign.

Is this something you think God wants for you? No!! God wants to bless your life! A blessing is God’s love, thoughts, and desires for you to become all that you are meant to be. You are a blessing.

“Taste and see that the Lord is good." (Psalm 34:8)

Isaiah 30:18
"Yet the LORD longs to be gracious to you;
he rises to show you compassion."

Psalm 16:8-11
"I have set the LORD always before me.
Because he is at my right hand,
I will not be shaken.
Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices;
my body also will rest secure,
because you will not abandon me to the grave,
nor will you let your Holy One see decay.
You have made known to me the path of life;
you will fill me with joy in your presence,
with eternal pleasures at your right hand."

God does not intend for relationships to endure hardships like abuse. What He intends for you is a life of love, unconditional love… first with Him, our Lord and Savior, then with others. In finding and strengthening your love with Christ, you will also strengthen your self-love. And, with that, you will realize that what you’re dealing with from your boyfriend is NOT love.

Pray for God’s strength to help you with this. God will give you the tools you need to see yourself out of this dysfunctional relationship.

Psalm 18:35
"You give me your shield of victory,
and your right hand sustains me;
you stoop down to make me great."

“Bring my soul out of prison, that I may praise your name." (Psalm 142:7)

Remember that God cares about your life and wants the best for you… don’t let vicious words break you away from that.


With Love,

Saved By Faith

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Pt 2 Cont. from I'm Worried He Still Has Feelings For Her

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Anonymous responds..Well I didn't get to read this until me and him broke up guess God answered me ...I am very hurt and betrayed I found out he had sex 2x and made out with his ex with kids and cheated on me. I feel very hurt by this. Pray for me and God bless.

Trophy of Grace responds..

I know your hurt, but you're right, God did answer your prayer. He sees your pain and He knows the betrayal you feel. He hurts when you hurt.

Romans 8:28 says, "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him,who have been called according to his purpose."

I want you to know that God has a plan for your life and a purpose. His plans for you is good not for evil or to harm you. You have got to learn to trust Him with your life and allow Him to be your Guide. He will guide you and lead you down the right path for your life, if you will allow Him to.

When we make decisions for our life on our own without seeking His counsel and direction we are bound to make a mess out of our situations. We can't see the future. We can't see the intent of people's hearts. However, God is all knowing, all powerful, and He is all present. When we put our life in His hand we can not go wrong.

If you want to learn to make better decisions for your life seek Wisdom. The wisdom that comes only from knowing the Word of God, Jesus Christ. His is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. He came that we may have life and freedom. Not freedom to do what we want, but freedom from anything that would try to keep us in bondage or lead us to eternal death and seperation from Him.

Not only do we need Him because we need direction and wisdom, but because we are sinners. We are guilty of violating God's laws. When we sin it is against God that we sin. So we need salvation from God's wrath. That salvation is found through faith in Jesus Christ, believing that He dies for our sins.

Romans 10:9-10

That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved.

1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

If you have already accepted the Lord as your Savior then you are a new creation.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! 2 Corinthians 5:17

As a new creation then you need to renew your mind by reading the Word of God which will give you wisdom and direction for your life. It will help restructure your thought process so that you can make decisions that will help you prosper and be successful.

Ever since I have surrendered my life to the Lord and daily reading His Word I found peace and hope. My life has been changed. I was mess, trust me.You can read my story (the short nicer version) http://weused2bu.%20blogspot.%20com/2008/05/tropy-of-graces-testimony.%20html

I know this was long..but I just want you to know that Jesus loves you and in trusting Him you don't have to settle for these fake lovers. Jesus is the Lover of your soul and He will never betray you or forsake you.

God bless you. You are in my prayers.

In Christ Love,

Trophy of Grace

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He Verbally Abuses Me

Question Asked: here is a question...wat if u r in a relationship and u verbelly abuse almost every time...and he cheat...and everytime u break withh him he give u the sweet word u take him bak...everytime...so wat is that..

Response: Honey you said it yourself. It's abuse. Don't allow anyone to abuse you. You are a beautiful treasure that is to be loved and cherished. Our God desires for you to be cared for, adored, and treated gently. You don't need to allow yourself to be in are relationship where the person is tearing you apart with their words and actions. The more you listen to the abuse the more you will begin to believe that you are what they say you are. You are not those negative things. You are God's wonderful creation.

Psalms 9:9 The LORD also will be a refuge for the oppressed, a refuge in times of trouble.

The Lord wants to deliver you from this situation. He has something better for you. He has good plans for you. My favorite scripture is Jeremiah 29:11-13 which says "For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. In those days when you pray, I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me."

I share it with people so often because I have found freedom and hope in knowing that God has good plans for my life. So I chose not to settle for second best. I no longer allow myself to be a victim to others or life's circumstances. No matter what happens or who comes against me I know that I can seek God and He will help me. My faith in Christ has made me victorious.

He wants to do the same thing in your life. He wants you to be strong and confident in Him. His desire is to see you rise above any drama and persecution. If you will trust Him with your life and your circumstance he will give you wisdom and discernment to make better decisions.

Get away from this abuser. Draw close to God and allow Him to heal you from this pain and betrayal. He will lift you up and get you back on the right path if you will allow Him to.

Psalm 40:1-3
1 I waited patiently for the Lord to help me,
and he turned to me and heard my cry.
2 He lifted me out of the pit of despair,
out of the mud and the mire.
He set my feet on solid ground
and steadied me as I walked along.
3 He has given me a new song to sing,
a hymn of praise to our God.
Many will see what he has done and be amazed.
They will put their trust in the Lord.

I will be praying for you.

Sincerely,

Trophy of Grace

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This Is Not the Life I Want For Myself

A Friend Wrote: Going through some crazy drama and don't even know why. Everything is too much for me that I'm gonna start going to church every sunday starting this sunday coming up, I come to realize that I need god in my life and just need to start my life fresh. This is not the life I want for myself... Been doing a lot of thinking to myself and need to just do and stop thinking so much about it but at times I just feel like given up on myself...

Reply: ... I can understand why you're tired of that way of life. There are so many factors that will rot away at your heart... drinking, sex, surrounding yourself with bad company, to name a few.

I can definitely say that God's made such a big difference in my life and I'm positive He will do the same for you. Knowing that HE loves you unconditionally and accepts you as you are is an incredible feeling! There's no need to feel ashamed or be down on yourself with Christ. Going to church, building a relationship with the Lord is the 1st step towards starting fresh.

I think you have to reconsider how you're spending your free time. Drinking as much as you've been is not good for you. Alcohol may mask your worries, fears & troubles for a little while but it doesn't make them go away. Once you sober up, they are still waiting for you... and you may have a couple of more issues like not remembering what you did while you were drunk. or having to ask other people what you did or didn't do. Or regretting your actions or words.

1 Thessalonians 5:4-8
“You are all children of the light and of the day, and do not belong to darkness and night. So be on your guard not asleep like the others. Watch for his return and stay sober. Night is the time for sleep and the time when people get drunk. But let us who live in the light keep sober..”

About sex... You body is as sacred as a temple. You should preserve it and not give it to whomever gives you the most attention at the time. Men will say what they can in order to fulfill their desires, it doesn't mean that they care for you or will be there for you. Multiple partners (especially in only a few months) is not healthy, physically or emotionally. Do you realize how many diseases/illnesses you're opening yourself up to? You're not sleeping with just that person... in a sense, you're sleeping with everyone they've laid down with. And emotionally, how is that effecting your self esteem? self worth? You are a valuable treasure. YOU are a wonderful person, beautiful inside and out and should be treated with respect and honor.

Psalm 139: 13,14
He shaped us in our mother’s womb, and we are marvelous inside and out!

Deut. 7:16
We are His cherished treasure

Song of Solomon 1:15
He thinks we’re beautiful

I value you as a friend and I pray for you all the time. I pray that you will build a relationship with God and He will direct you down the right path. I pray for your happiness. I pray for you to be blessed 10 times over, as God intended.

I'm glad to hear you say you want to seek God and I'd like to invite you to my church's service on Sunday. But please, whether you make it to service this week or not, please think about your lifestyle. Begin by dropping communication with those that hinder you and stop the drunken partying. It will only widen the darkness in your heart.

I love you and am praying for you.

Saved By Faith


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It Hurts That He Has Another Girlfriend

Hey Ladies A little Advice Please

Hey..I want to know why does it hurt to see your ex-boyfriend with another female or when he talks about her. I cried for about 2 hours yesterday cause he has a new girlfriend and it really bothers me. So much that I said off the wall stuff to him, even though he was doing me wrong. He was cheating on me and starting alot of drama. I still have love for him. Why is that? How can I get over him? Cause I feel like it can hurt my future relationships with the next guy?

Response: Why does it hurt? You have not healed yet. The wound is still open. It’s hard to just shut off our feelings towards someone we have broken up with. We may have spent lots of time with them and possibly even have given ourselves to them sexually. If the break up is fresh then of course it’s going to hurt really bad when you see him with someone else and to hear him talking about her may hurt even more. It’s like throwing salt in your open wound.

When that hurt comes up to torment you don’t allow it to mislead you into thinking that you are missing out on something good. Don’t be deceived! You know the truth with this man. He is unfaith and a drama starter. So what are you really missing out on? Instead thank God that this man has been removed from your life. God wants good things for us. He wants us to be with someone who is going to love and respect us. He wants to send us a man that is going to love Him and because of His love for God he will love us too. If we will only be patient and wait on the Lord to send the right guy for us we will be much better off. The Creator of Heaven and earth knows all to well what we need better than we do.

There comes a time in our life when we need to just stop and reevaluate the direction of our lives. Do we like where we’re going? Is this what life is really all about? Are my ways of doing things really working?

When we begin to seek God and desire to have a relationship with Him our lives and our purpose in this world becomes clear. Putting Him first will help us to make wiser decisions for our life. He will guide and lead us all the days of our lives. He will be found by us if we will only seek Him with all of our hearts.

Forget about this man..Let all of this roll of your shoulders. It really will be all good if you will allow the Lord Jesus to heal your heart. Forgive him and let it go, or else it will affect your future relationship. Not all men are the same. There are some good men out there. So don’t lose hope. You just need to seek God first and all of these good things will be added to you.

One of our contributing writers wrote an article called Love Potion #0

You should read it..I believe it could help you understand why it still hurts so much. I will be praying for your broken heart to heal quickly and for there to be no room there for anger, bitterness, and resentment.

Jeremiah 29:11-13
11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

Matthew 6:33
33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

Sincerely,

Trophy of Grace

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Roots

Written by: Blessed and Highly Favored

As I was walking in my business the other morning, I looked down and noticed a little ant trail along the front window. Darn IT! I spray and spray and still they come back! OK, with all the rain, they just want to be in a safe place near some food; BUT NOT IN MY SHOP!

I walked in, set down my bag, turned on the lights, and grabbed the bug spray. I sprayed from one end of the store to the other, along the windows and to my neighbors’ store. As I was doing this, I made a mental note to get some weed killer. There are not a lot of them, just a few in the hairline cracks in the cement, but enough to make it look, well, not like I want it.

Then the Lord spoke to me, “See that little weed that is pushing its way out of that little tiny crack? It looks like it would be impossible for anything to grow there, but there is enough of an environment to allow the tiniest of a weed seed to thrive. Sin is like that. The seed of sin lies dormant until the right conditions allow it to grow. You passed by it everyday, not giving it a second thought, but I knew it was there growing, pushing its’ way out, not satisfied with being in darkness any longer. Sin in one area of your life will ALWAYS push its way into other areas. What is hidden will ALWAYS come to the surface. Your sin will find you out – Numbers 32:23.”

What’s the big deal about a little weed an inch in length??? It won’t stay that way!!!!! It’ll continue to grow until something stops it. Allowed to flower and bloom, it’ll give way to more seed affecting the environment around it.

It’s the cracks in our character that allows the sin weed to grow. We may fool the world, but inside the roots of unforgiveness, hatred, confusion, perversity, pride, etc., strangle our hearts and stunt our growth. So much so, we start to pull away from G-d because of our sin. And don’t think for a moment that once you’ve removed the evidence of the “sin weed” that it’s gone! NO! The root has to be dealt with, and pulled out of you. That’s where the Holy Spirit opens your heart (imagine open-heart surgery), and gets to work removing it inch by inch. But only if you allow Him to do that in that dark place.

We always have to guard our hearts not to allow the same stupid “sin seed” a chance to grow again. We are so much worse off when we deceive ourselves into such nonsense. Jesus said in Matthew 12: 43-45, “When an unclean spirit goes out of a man (or woman), he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none. Then he says, “I will return to my house from which I came.” And when he comes, he finds it empty, swept, and put in order. Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man (or woman) is worse than the first. So shall it be with this wicked generation.”

Sin seed is always being thrown at us. Shake it off and give it no place in your life for it to grow. Allow the Lord Jesus Christ to fill you, and show you the kind of person He wants you to be. Walk free, live free, and be free.

You Are Forgiven!

Have you ever beat yourself up for something you’ve done? Ever remember a past experience and say, “I wish I hadn’t done that!” or asked yourself, “What if?” Are you meditating on your past sins (lying, alcohol, drugs, premarital sex, etc.). There may even be people who talk about the old you. I know that hurts. You do not have to be under condemnation. One very important thing we must remember as Christians is that God has forgiven us for our sins when we excepted Jesus Christ as your Savior. Sometimes we may fall but continue to lay your wrongdoings down at His feet and ask for his mercy and our Merciful Lord will give the gift of forgiveness! Look at the scriptures below:

Psalm 79:9
Help us, O God our Savior, for the glory of your name; deliver us and forgive our sins for your name's sake.

Psalm 65:3
When we were overwhelmed by sins, you forgave our transgressions.

Jeremiah 33:8
I will cleanse them from all the sin they have committed against me and will forgive all their sins of rebellion against me.

God gave his only begotten son for us. We are made right with God by Jesus Christ’s suffering and death. And His resurrection was God's seal of approval of the fact that His precious blood was sufficient to pay for our sins. You have peace with your Creator! You have found everlasting life! Always remember, God will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). He has brought you this far and He will complete the wonderful work He has begun in you. God knows your every thought, your every care and your deepest concerns. Your concerns will fade if you believe, trust and honor Him.

Continue your journey with Christian values. Always to live life in a godly manner, making Him #1 in your life. (Titus 2:11-13)


Please take a moment and read Psalm 103:8-18 & 1 Corinthians 10:13

Saved By Faith

Happy moment, Praise God
Difficult moments, Seek God
Quiet moments, Worship God
Painful moments, Trust God
Every moment, Thank God
(excerpt from ‘Company You Keep’)

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My Cheating Ex

Confused Asked: I'VE BEEN WITH MY EX FOR THREE YEARS ON AND OFF AND WE FINALLY BROKE UP CUZ HE WAS CHEATING ON ME. OUT THE BLUE HE CALLS AND SAID THAT HE WANTS TO TAKE ME OUT FOR HIS BIRTHDAY IT DOESN'T SOUND RIGHT WHAT SHOULD I DO?


Answer: A major factor in relationships is trust:

Trust
1. reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence
2. confident expectation of something; hope

On again/off again relationships are always difficult because the trust usually slowly fades with every break up. Cheating shows a lack of a couple of things… lack of respect, trust, and of communication. I was in an on/off relationship for 10 years and we struggled with these same issues due to his infidelity. Truth of the matter be told, we weren’t able to get back the trust we had. Your ex’s invitation to celebrate his birthday with you might be him looking for a window of opportunity. He’s seeking you out at your weakest moment and this kind of manipulation or seduction is not God’s intention.

The enemy boasted, 'I will pursue, I will overtake them. I will divide the spoils; I will gorge myself on them. I will draw my sword and my hand will destroy them.’ (Exodus 15:9)

Pray. Ask the Lord to show you what He would have you do (Philippians 4:6-7).Ask God to give you wisdom (James 1:5). God promises to grant prayer requests that are asked according to His will (1 John 5:14-15). God wants you to make good relationship decisions. God desires you to be happy from your relationships. If you ask God with an open heart, He will give you the advice you need.

Saved By Faith

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Trusting Him Anyways!

Cross Post From ConscratedToHim.com Posted June 4, 2008

As I sit here thinking about how my sister is going to have a major heart surgery tomorrow morning I am comforted knowing that my God is Faithful. There will be times when we will or someone we love will experience sorrow or terrible hardship. We have got to remember and meditate on the fact that Jesus loves us and for that reason He will work EVERY situation out for our good, if we allow him to.(Romans 8:28)We can rest in His hands.

His ways are not our ways. (Isaiah 55:8-9)Often times it is hard to understand what he is doing in our lives while we are going through difficult times. However, we have got to trust Him anyways! Blessed are those who don’t doubt Him. (Matt. 11:6) He will give us hind’s feet so that we can go over the mountains of life. He will be our strength. (Habakkuk 3:19)

My mother died when I was just sixteen. I have been a slave to drugs and the world. I was sentenced to prison at just 20 years old leaving behind a fifteen month old daughter. I have experienced sorrow and drama in my life, but I know that that our Lord allowed it for such a time as this.

Today those same experiences that caused me so much sorrow makes me want to comfort others who are facing difficult situations. He has put a desire on my heart to tell everyone I meet and know that they are not alone. It is through our tough times that we are molded and purified so that we can be used by Jesus to bring glory to God.

PLEASE trust God! He IS with you! Let Him comfort you. Let Him be your strength. He will hold you up with His victorious right hand. Who better to understand your suffering, heal your emotional wounds, and give you peace than Jesus Christ our Savior? (Jeremiah 30:17, Jeremiah 33:6) I truly love you with all of my heart and you all are always in my prayers.

Trophy of Grace

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