Together for 2 Yrs and I Can't Trust Him

QUESTION: HEY LADIES HOW ARE YOU LONG TIME NO SPEAK WELL HERE I GO

WELL THERE IS THIS I BEEN WITH FOR 2 YEARS ON AND OFF AND WE FINALLY ARE TRYIN TO GIVE A CHANCE FOR THE LAST TIME BUT HE DOESN'T TRUST ME AND I DNT TRUST HIM. WHEN WE TRY TO HOOK UP THERE'S ALWAYS A EXCUSE ABOUT HIM BEING BUSY. I'VE SEEN HIM TALK TO GIRLS AND GIVE HIS NUMBER OR TAKIN NUMBERS FROM THEM AND I'M GOIN THRU A LIL DOWN FALL BUT WHEN I CAN ALWAYS HELP HIM WHEN I CAN BUT I CAN'T SAY I CAN RELY ON HIM SO WHAT DO U THINK I SHOULD DO

ANSWER: Trust and communication is important in a relationship and it sounds like your relationship is lacking both. I know you’ve invested 2 years into something with him but I don’t think it’s healthy and sound. A couple of pointers that you should tell yourself everyday:

* You are a cherished treasure. (Deuteronomy 14:2) You are a wonderful creation in our Father’s eyes and should be blessed beyond measure. His intention is for His children to be filled with the Holy Spirit and happy. Strengthening your relationship with Christ will help accomplish this.

James 1:17-18
“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created.”

Jeremiah 29:11-13
“God has a wonderful plan for your life if you will only surrender your will to His.“

* God has designed someone to be with you and in His time, He will bring you together. It is so easy for us to react based on our emotions but be careful… emotions can be very deceiving! Pray and be patient. Allow God to place your intended partner in your life, a man that loves God and will love and honor you.

* Trust is pivotal in every relationship…family, friends and love. Without trust and communication, there is no foundation for that relationship. God intended us to have healthy, sound relationships with Godly people. People whom put God first, read the bible, and follow his commands. Establishing these kinds of friendships will have you realize day after day, how important trust and honesty is. You need uplifting relations! Friendships that draw near to God and praise Him… rejoice in His delights… and value you as you are.

Leviticus 19:11
"… Do not lie. Do not deceive one another.”

Hebrews 10:22
”let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water”

Deuteronomy 7:12
If you pay attention to these laws and are careful to follow them, then the LORD your God will keep his covenant of love with you, as he swore to your forefathers.

I hope that you take some time to yourself, get to know YOU again. Realize that you are so precious and deserve so much more than mistrust and deception. Pray. Draw closer to God. He will deliver you from this and bring you to a love that you will cherish forever.

James 4:8
Proverbs 3:5-6
1 Chronicles 16:34


With Love,

Saved By Faith

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He Parties All Week & Has No Job

QUESTION:
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3months but we have known each other since elementery school. I just broke up with him last week because he goes out 7days a week and gets drunk, he dont have a job but he goes out every night. I told him from the begining that i didnt like that he goes out every night, that he should get up and look for a job, he has been looking for a job and he is a great person, he has a great personality, hes a faithful man and i havent found anybody else like him thats the only problem we have he just goes out too much. I told him to get things together and prove to me that he can do what he has to do and get a job because i wasnt taking care of no man. I told him we would sit down and talk this weekend face to face and maybe take it slow this time but that he has to prove to me that he loves and get his stuff together because i wasnt getting back with him to just waste my time. Do you think i was wrong for breaking up with him, should i take it slow this time..... Im confused and dont know what to do

ANSWER:
I think breaking up with him was for your best interest. You know in your heart that he’s not living his life how God intended (Galatians 5:18-21). Pray about it; trust the feeling God has given you. God is leading you towards Him, steering you away from the temptations of this world. Take this time apart to draw nearer to God. Take into consideration that God may have put this break up in your heart because He has to work on your ex… refocusing his life on more righteous living.

My ex and I had a very similar problem. It took me years to realize that I couldn’t change his ways… that was a battle that he & the Lord had to work through together.

Be there for him as a friend, as you’ve been since elementary school. Pray for him everyday. God willing, he will be able to refocus and get his life back on track. If he is who God intended for you, the Lord will lead you back together. In the meantime, work on building your relationship with the Lord. Through His word we find love, hope and joy.


Sincerely,

Saved by Faith

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Seeking Godly Relationships

Recently I have been asked for advice on relationships. I just felt so much sorrow for these women and young women involved in unhealthy and ungodly relationships. It has been weighing on me to write about strong healthy relationships with Christ as your foundation.

God created a perfect match for you. You don't have to worry about finding him. First you need to seek out God and He will do the rest. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33) A womens heart should be so lost in God that a man needs to seek Him in order to find her.

We need to know what kind of person we are getting into a relationship with before making a commitment. The most important thing is to find out if the person has been born again in the Spirit of Christ. God wants you to have a man that loves and serves Him. Does he have evidence of being a follower of Christ or does he act like the rest of the world? Why is this so important when finding a partner? This man will be so in love with God he will do everything that pleases God. He will honor, respect, cherish and adore you. He WILL NOT cheat, lie, hurt, and leave you abandoned. He will lift you up and hold you in your time of need. He will help strengthen your relationship with Christ. Also just think if you have children with an unbeliever or person of a different belief how confusing will it be for that child. Will your child be raised to love and fear the Lord? Or will your child repeat, suffer, or inflict the same hurt and pain that you once were in?

When you are in a committed relationship with someone, it is so important to remember to love the Lord above anyone else. When you say or believe that your “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” is your "everything" or the most important thing in your life, this is called idolatry. Your committing a sin. God tells us to put him first in everything we do. Jesus himself reinforced that when the disciples asked Him, "Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?" Jesus replied: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind." This is the first and greatest commandment. (Matthew 22:36-38)

I just got married almost two weeks ago. In this marriage there is three of us. My husband, myself, and Jesus Christ. We both know that this would fail if we did not both share in our belief, faith, and trust in Him. We did not always have smooth sailing. We had our ups and rock bottoms. We both committed sins against each other and hurt one another constantly. My husband surrendered to the Lord and he is a new creation in Christ. We love, honor, respect, each other. We are now more kind, patient, and understanding. We have learned the importance of listening and praying together. Now our love for one another shines for everyone to see.

I believe whole heartedly that this is the best way to secure a foundation for a healthy godly realtionship. It will benefit you greatly. If you do decide to marry make sure that Jesus is the foundation of your relationship. When two people marry, they cleave to one another and become one flesh, which should be permanent and inseparable through Christ.

Written By:
Daughter of Destiny



Jeremiah 1:5, Jeremiah 29-11, 2 Peter 2:20, John 3:3-8, Philippians 2:5, 2 Corinthians 6:14-15, Matthew 10:37, 1 Corinthians 6:9-13, 2 Timothy 2:22, 1 Corinthians 6:18, Romans 12:9-10, Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5

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My Heart Skipped A Beat

QUESTION:
Hey do me a favor and go look at my profile at my latest blog. It's all about this guy I meet this weekend and I want to know what you think. Like am I falling way to fast for him or is it just a summer fling??? I really really like him though!

ANSWER:
I read your blog. God gave us feelings and they should be influenced by the Spirit of God who lives within us (1 Corinthians 3:16; 6:19). When our emotions are in charge of us it means that the Lord is not in charge. God never asks us to deny our feelings, just not be led by them.

Finding the right person is very important. Knowing when we have found the right person sometimes takes time and experience. It’s very easy to get caught up in the idea of a relationship and not carefully consider whether or not that person is suitable in the long run.

Your relationship should be built on Christ and not feelings. Important questions to think about for the both of you:

“Are you both saved?”
“What is your understanding of who Jesus is?”
“Do you live according to God’s will?”

You need to be on the same page because if you’re not, it will only lead to misdirection and frustration.

Take your time in getting to know him. Build a friendship first.

We need to maintain faith and trust in God, praying for His provision. Be practical about finding a partner. God knows our needs and wants the best for us.

Psalm 37:4
“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart”.

Saved By Faith

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