A WeUsed2bu Woman's Testimony-Melissa's Story

My New Year's Resolution was for me to do whatever it took to be closer to God this year. The other day I went from searching different websites to being saved last night. For some reason God brought me to your website and gave me the strength to take me out of my comfort zone and contact you. I am so blessed that he did.

I am truly blessed and grateful for you (Lisa) walking up there with me and sharing that moment with me. I admire the both of you and what you guys are doing. I was raised in a Catholic home. Although, I never understood his word I always believed in God. He has truly been my Savior throughout the years.

At 18 my father shot and killed my mother and then pulled the gun on himself. At 19 I was in an abusive relationship with a drug addict. I was beat pretty much every other day. I used to cry to God and ask why was He putting me in this type of a situation when I had lost my parents? I felt hopeless. I went from having everything to losing everything, to losing everything including my dignity.

What I didn't realize is that I had him. God was always there. For some reason I had to go thru what I went thru to become the strong woman I am today. God didn't make my life easier He made me stronger! He gave me the strength to leave that relationship in the middle of the night with 2 bags to my name and never look back. It wasn't easy having no one to turn to but Him.

I went from living house to house and having my closet in the trunk of my car. I saved up enough money and purchased my first home at the age of 21. I worked all day and went to school every night. He gave me the strength to get up every morning and accomplish everything I have. I have everything because of Him. I am truly blessed that I had Him there every step of the way. He never left me. He was next to me the whole entire time. I could have strayed but He kept me moving forward.

With everything He has given me I hadn't thanked Him until yesterday. I know in my heart I was destined to meet you guys. I want to thank you so much Lisa for giving me that courage to walk up there last night and be saved and to finally say thank you from the bottom of my heart to God. For I have everything now. I am grateful that Jesus has brought you to me. If this website was to touch one woman, well then the job has been accomplished. Thank you so much ladies! I hope we stay in contact. Keep up the good work! May God bless the both of and your families.

Love Always,
Your new sister
Melissa

Together for 2 Yrs and I Can't Trust Him

QUESTION: HEY LADIES HOW ARE YOU LONG TIME NO SPEAK WELL HERE I GO

WELL THERE IS THIS I BEEN WITH FOR 2 YEARS ON AND OFF AND WE FINALLY ARE TRYIN TO GIVE A CHANCE FOR THE LAST TIME BUT HE DOESN'T TRUST ME AND I DNT TRUST HIM. WHEN WE TRY TO HOOK UP THERE'S ALWAYS A EXCUSE ABOUT HIM BEING BUSY. I'VE SEEN HIM TALK TO GIRLS AND GIVE HIS NUMBER OR TAKIN NUMBERS FROM THEM AND I'M GOIN THRU A LIL DOWN FALL BUT WHEN I CAN ALWAYS HELP HIM WHEN I CAN BUT I CAN'T SAY I CAN RELY ON HIM SO WHAT DO U THINK I SHOULD DO

ANSWER: Trust and communication is important in a relationship and it sounds like your relationship is lacking both. I know you’ve invested 2 years into something with him but I don’t think it’s healthy and sound. A couple of pointers that you should tell yourself everyday:

* You are a cherished treasure. (Deuteronomy 14:2) You are a wonderful creation in our Father’s eyes and should be blessed beyond measure. His intention is for His children to be filled with the Holy Spirit and happy. Strengthening your relationship with Christ will help accomplish this.

James 1:17-18
“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. He chose to give us birth through the word of truth, that we might be a kind of firstfruits of all he created.”

Jeremiah 29:11-13
“God has a wonderful plan for your life if you will only surrender your will to His.“

* God has designed someone to be with you and in His time, He will bring you together. It is so easy for us to react based on our emotions but be careful… emotions can be very deceiving! Pray and be patient. Allow God to place your intended partner in your life, a man that loves God and will love and honor you.

* Trust is pivotal in every relationship…family, friends and love. Without trust and communication, there is no foundation for that relationship. God intended us to have healthy, sound relationships with Godly people. People whom put God first, read the bible, and follow his commands. Establishing these kinds of friendships will have you realize day after day, how important trust and honesty is. You need uplifting relations! Friendships that draw near to God and praise Him… rejoice in His delights… and value you as you are.

Leviticus 19:11
"… Do not lie. Do not deceive one another.”

Hebrews 10:22
”let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water”

Deuteronomy 7:12
If you pay attention to these laws and are careful to follow them, then the LORD your God will keep his covenant of love with you, as he swore to your forefathers.

I hope that you take some time to yourself, get to know YOU again. Realize that you are so precious and deserve so much more than mistrust and deception. Pray. Draw closer to God. He will deliver you from this and bring you to a love that you will cherish forever.

James 4:8
Proverbs 3:5-6
1 Chronicles 16:34


With Love,

Saved By Faith

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Seeking Godly Relationships

Recently I have been asked for advice on relationships. I just felt so much sorrow for these women and young women involved in unhealthy and ungodly relationships. It has been weighing on me to write about strong healthy relationships with Christ as your foundation.

God created a perfect match for you. You don't have to worry about finding him. First you need to seek out God and He will do the rest. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33) A womens heart should be so lost in God that a man needs to seek Him in order to find her.

We need to know what kind of person we are getting into a relationship with before making a commitment. The most important thing is to find out if the person has been born again in the Spirit of Christ. God wants you to have a man that loves and serves Him. Does he have evidence of being a follower of Christ or does he act like the rest of the world? Why is this so important when finding a partner? This man will be so in love with God he will do everything that pleases God. He will honor, respect, cherish and adore you. He WILL NOT cheat, lie, hurt, and leave you abandoned. He will lift you up and hold you in your time of need. He will help strengthen your relationship with Christ. Also just think if you have children with an unbeliever or person of a different belief how confusing will it be for that child. Will your child be raised to love and fear the Lord? Or will your child repeat, suffer, or inflict the same hurt and pain that you once were in?

When you are in a committed relationship with someone, it is so important to remember to love the Lord above anyone else. When you say or believe that your “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” is your "everything" or the most important thing in your life, this is called idolatry. Your committing a sin. God tells us to put him first in everything we do. Jesus himself reinforced that when the disciples asked Him, "Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?" Jesus replied: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind." This is the first and greatest commandment. (Matthew 22:36-38)

I just got married almost two weeks ago. In this marriage there is three of us. My husband, myself, and Jesus Christ. We both know that this would fail if we did not both share in our belief, faith, and trust in Him. We did not always have smooth sailing. We had our ups and rock bottoms. We both committed sins against each other and hurt one another constantly. My husband surrendered to the Lord and he is a new creation in Christ. We love, honor, respect, each other. We are now more kind, patient, and understanding. We have learned the importance of listening and praying together. Now our love for one another shines for everyone to see.

I believe whole heartedly that this is the best way to secure a foundation for a healthy godly realtionship. It will benefit you greatly. If you do decide to marry make sure that Jesus is the foundation of your relationship. When two people marry, they cleave to one another and become one flesh, which should be permanent and inseparable through Christ.

Written By:
Daughter of Destiny



Jeremiah 1:5, Jeremiah 29-11, 2 Peter 2:20, John 3:3-8, Philippians 2:5, 2 Corinthians 6:14-15, Matthew 10:37, 1 Corinthians 6:9-13, 2 Timothy 2:22, 1 Corinthians 6:18, Romans 12:9-10, Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5

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My Heart Skipped A Beat

QUESTION:
Hey do me a favor and go look at my profile at my latest blog. It's all about this guy I meet this weekend and I want to know what you think. Like am I falling way to fast for him or is it just a summer fling??? I really really like him though!

ANSWER:
I read your blog. God gave us feelings and they should be influenced by the Spirit of God who lives within us (1 Corinthians 3:16; 6:19). When our emotions are in charge of us it means that the Lord is not in charge. God never asks us to deny our feelings, just not be led by them.

Finding the right person is very important. Knowing when we have found the right person sometimes takes time and experience. It’s very easy to get caught up in the idea of a relationship and not carefully consider whether or not that person is suitable in the long run.

Your relationship should be built on Christ and not feelings. Important questions to think about for the both of you:

“Are you both saved?”
“What is your understanding of who Jesus is?”
“Do you live according to God’s will?”

You need to be on the same page because if you’re not, it will only lead to misdirection and frustration.

Take your time in getting to know him. Build a friendship first.

We need to maintain faith and trust in God, praying for His provision. Be practical about finding a partner. God knows our needs and wants the best for us.

Psalm 37:4
“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart”.

Saved By Faith

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