A Guy Is In Love With Me But I Don't Feel the Same

Anonymous said...
What do I do when a guy is in love with me but I don't feel the same way with him? He is a Catholic, but I don't want to waste my feelings for him and not on God. I still want to be able to talk to him but I don't want to be his girlfriend. He calls me his love and his life and his girlfriend, but I know that he's not the one and that I'm just not ready for that kind of love. God is saving me for something better, but I don't want to hurt this guy in search of it.
I'm really not ready for love. How do I tell him?

Beloved by Him said...
First of all, praise God that you are so dedicated to your walk with the Lord! It’s always a wise choice to pursue our relationship with God, instead of prematurely turning our affections toward the wrong person. You’ve got a head start on a very important truth: God must always take first place in our hearts. It doesn’t matter if you’re young and single, or grown and married with children. If we move our commitment to Him to a lower priority, everything else will be out of whack. Matthew 6:33 compels us to “Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.” You’re doing the right thing by guarding your heart and waiting on God’s timing—because His way is perfect (Psalm 18:30).

With regard to your friend, he is professing some very strong feelings for you, but it sounds like he’s confusing attraction for love. Real, God-given love does not insist on its own way, but is gentle and patient (I Corin. 13:4-5). Unless you have sent him some mixed signals, he should not be calling you his girlfriend. If he is saved, then he is a brother in Christ, and he needs to treat you with the same respect as he would treat his mom or his sister! If he’s not saved, then you really have to reconsider your friendship with him, because he is not filled with the Holy Spirit (Gal.3:28), and we as Christians are not to be friends with the world (James 4:4). Either way, while you can still be kind to him, you are probably going to have to maintain a healthy emotional distance from him, until his feelings start to cool.

Before you talk to him, look at some of the above scriptures, and pray and ask God to help you say the right thing. This is a good time to make a stand for your faith, and for yourself. You have every right, as God’s beloved young woman, to let him know that you are not going to compromise your beliefs for anyone. You might even be bold enough to let him know you already belong to someone—Jesus! Be respectful when you tell him these things, but don’t feel like you have to go out of your way to make him feel better. You might find yourself (innocently) trying to flatter him, which will make him confused. Your number-one priority is to please God (Gal. 1:10). If he is a friend worth keeping, then he will understand and back off. But if he doesn’t respect and accept what you say, then you will be able to see more clearly what he’s all about, which is himself, not God, and not you. Hopefully, he’s a true friend. If not, then you can feel confident that the Lord doesn’t want this person to have a prominent place in your life, and you need to move ahead without him.

I Feel So Lost and Confused

Anonymous said...
I need advice on a subject that everybody keeps telling me to just simple move on from its better said then done i was in a relatinship with this guy and i really loved him i mean i really did to the point where my relationship with god faded everyday.He later broke up with me because he said that we had nothing in common long story short the day that me and him broke up he was already trying to get with this girl who he said he had more in common with from what i hear she is in 12th grade and i already knew he was in 11th but after he graduates they are surpose to be getting married this was about 3 months ago that we had been brokenup i fill so bad like i drove him to her i see him and her together down the hall holding had all the time its as if we never had anything at all and the worst part about it is i gave him my first kiss i was saving it for my future husband but now its gone and we almost slept together to but the holy spirit would not let me .i fill awful i find myself constantly thinking about him and her and how stupid i was for falling for him .as you are reading this please stop and pray for me .i fill so lost and confused

Trophy of Grace said...
Ok..As you requested..

My Dear Lord,

You see my sister’s heart here. She is hurt and confused. Help her to heal from these feelings of betrayal and abandonment. Let her realize in her heart that she is a special child of God born with a purpose and destined to serve you. I thank you Lord that you have removed this young man from her life. I thank you that she did not follow through with giving herself to this young man. Help her to stay completely pure. Pure in her mind, heart and body. Use this situation to draw her closer to You. We know that you work every thing out for our good and I know that you are doing a wonderful work in her. Help her to forgive this young man and move on with her life knowing without a shadow of doubt that you have the right man out there for her. A man that loves you and will love her too. In Jesus name I pray..Amen.

My Dear sweet sister,

This break up was the best thing that could have happened for you. Anything that draws us away from God is never from God. Always remember that..You said that this relationship caused your relationship with God to fade. You can not ever put your eyes on man. Your eyes have to remain on God. You have to learn to fear Him and love His Word. Seek Him again and He will heal your wounds. (Psalm 30:2)

There is a comment that we have on our MySpace that says, “A woman’s heart should be so lost in God that a man needs to seek God in order to find her.” You have to turn around and start really seeking God’s face. Allow Him to make your crooked paths straight and do a new thing in your life. Forget the past and look ahead because He has a wonderful plan for you and He wants to help you become a mighty women of God. So trust Him when He allows people to be removed from your life, especially when those people become a wedge between you and your Savior.

The scripture that keeps coming up in my mind is Matthew 6:33 “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”

You have to seek God’s will and His way in your life. He will be your Guide. His Holy Spirit living in us gives us the ability to make wise decisions based on the Word of God, but you have to know the Word of God. The more you read the bible you will see that your mind will be renewed and you’ll learn to have respect for God. Respecting or fearing God will give you a desire to live a righteous Christian life and you will see that this will result in many blessings. Blessings like a godly man who will want to serve you and respect your desire to want to serve God. In fact He will help you in your walk of faith and encourage you to persevere in Christ Jesus.

It’s time for a change sister. Come back to the One who truly loves your and never leaves you and forsakes you.

Sincerely,

Trophy of Grace

P.S.

Forgive this young man and find healing. If you do not forgive him you will not be able to move on. Just accept this as a blessing and remember what Romans 8:28-30 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. And those he predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he justified, he also glorified.”

I Want To Make Sure This Love Doesn't Turn To Lust

Anonymous said...
Hi...I'm 20 years old and I'm in love with someone. We have been friends for a while and we both are FULLY devoted to God. But there's a problem...we have been through so much in our pasts and I know he just might be afraid of getting into a relationship because he wants to serve the Lord with no distractions (which I also agree with)especially since we have a ministry to look after. I've prayed to God and He tells me to wait...I just wanted to know what are some things I can do to ensure I stay patient and to make sure this love doesn't turn into lust.Thank you so much!!!

Trophy of Grace says..

The first thing that came to mind when I read this is she needs to get away from him for right now. If you each want to be able to focus on your ministries and your relationship with the Lord right now then perhaps you need to take some time apart from each other. A break may be needed while you take some time to pray and build yourself up with the Word of God.

If being around each other causes lustful feelings that are distracting then you really need to RUN from this temptation, until you are able to control your emotions.

"Run from anything that stimulates youthful lust. Follow anything that makes you want to do right. Pursue faith and love and peace, and enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts." 2 Timothy 2:22

"If you keep yourself pure, you will be a utensil God can use for His purpose. Your life will be clean, and you will be ready for the Master to use you for every good work." (2 Timothy 2:21 NLT)

These are times that you must draw close to the Lord. He has to be the one that you call on to give you the strength and self- control to do the right thing. It is in His strength NOT IN YOUR OWN that you will overcome. The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure. (1 Corinthians 10:13)

Just be patient and wait on the Lord. He has the right person for you and He will bring him in His timing. You just have to trust Him. It may or may not be this young man.

Always remember that our Lord does not tempt us.

James 1:12-15 God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. And remember, when you are being tempted, do not say, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to do wrong,[and he never tempts anyone else. Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.

I love you sister…May our Lord give you the strength and the power of the Holy Spirit to help you overcome and resist this temptation. You can do all things through our Lord who gives you the power to overcome. It is that same power that raised Him for the grave. Glory to God for the victory..God bless you..

My Mind Is Playin Tricks On Me

Anonymous writes: Hi. I'm new to this site, I came across while searching the web for scripture. It seems like a miracle, because just minutes ago I was praying for someone to talk about my problem.

I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. He is so amazing, a Christian, our relationship is wonderful. We rarely fight and we respect each other and share in our love of the Lord. We planned to get married after college.

However, I've been struggling recently. Three nights in a row I've had the same dream about my ex-boyfriend, and I wake up feeling like I'm in love with him. As the day goes on I realize it was just what I was feeling in my dream, but it's made me question my relationship with my current boyfriend. I don't feel special to him anymore, and often I feel like I've been given the backseat to his new friends here at college. I don't know if my feelings and dreams are the devil playing with my head or God trying to tell me it's time to end my current relationship. I've been praying over this, but I still feel depressed and confused. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. God bless.

Saved By Faith responds: The enemy is very cunning and deceitful and will come at you every way possible. He knows your ties with the Lord are strong and that you and your boyfriend are both committed to God’s work… so the enemy attacks at your weakest… while you sleep. He is using your recent feelings about your relationship against you.

"The enemy boasted, 'I will pursue, I will overtake them. I will divide the spoils; I will gorge myself on them. I will draw my sword and my hand will destroy them.' Exodus 15:9

Don’t take heed to his distractions. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. (James 4:7) You said you don’t feel special to your boyfriend anymore. You said you feel like you’ve taken the backseat to his new friends… have you spoken to him about this? Relationships flourish with communication. Speak with your boyfriend. Be honest with him; let him know how you’ve been feeling lately. It could be something that he did unintentionally and didn’t notice. But the only way you’ll know is by talking with him. The bible says ‘the tongue has the power of life and death’ (Proverbs 18:21). NOT talking about something is just as harmful as hateful words.

2 Corinthians 6:7
in truthful speech and in the power of God; with weapons of righteousness in the right hand and in the left;

Relationships go through different avenues at times. As long as you keep the avenue of communication open, you will both be able to brave the journey successfully, together. Continue to pray for peace of mind. Also pray for the words to speak with your boyfriend, to conquer this obstacle in your relationship.

I will be praying for you.

Your sister,

Saved By Faith


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I'm Gonna Give Her A Piece of My Mind

Anonymous’ Situation: long, long story short. I've been married for over ten years now, together we have four children a one son from his ex-girl. my step-son his 12 1/2 yrs old. for years there have been many situations where his ex has tryied to make life with me & my husband hell, But the most damaging is what she has done to her own son. She tells her son lies about me his father and his half brothers and sisters, so when ever he comes over he would give problems. I hold back a lot of feelings inside and try my very best to be loving towards him but its so hard at times. I have a lot on my plate (we all do) and my husband is just as drained I am. Most time he pretends that everything is fine, but when ever it comes down to the weekend you could see the fustration in his spirit. when will it ever end.

I am sooo upset. As a matter of fact, I stay in a complete state of fustration when ever his son comes to stay for the weekend, There always some horrible after math that follows his stay. the baby mama calls tries despratetly wanting to speak to me (out the side of her face) but i will never allow this, I simply let my boy friend handle her with all her false accusations. This is BAD very bad! I know ! for years now I have taken my fill of all the crap. but the fact remains she will allways be around. Sometimes I really feel like my boyfriend could do more to shut her down but , I guess his is doing the best he can. I just wish she would respect me and mines, I allways maintain my composure but I cant help but to feel that ONE fine day I'm going to give her a piece of my mine. Enough is enough. Somebody please pray for me!

REPLY: Everyday family life is difficult as it is and having family drama outside of the home can make it overwhelming.

I know having step children is difficult at times, especially when the other parent is difficult to deal with. I know someone that’s going through a similar situation and I hear the frustration and despair in her voice sometimes.

I think you’re making a wise choice by handing the phone over to your husband. Considering he and she had the child, it is their responsibility to raise him together. Another words, any issues, events, etc. that involve their son should be discussed between the two of them, not you. I’m not saying that you don’t matter in this situation but you have to remember that the boy’s child care is their responsibility and the final say comes from them.

Being supportive and loving with your husband and your step son is very important, and I applaud you for doing so. Your husband might have an uphill battle with the child’s mother and he should have the reassurance that you are there for him AND his son, regardless of circumstance. It’s also vital that the child know that you love him and are there for him as well. Having parents argue is a harsh reality. If you show and tell him unconditional love, it will make things less pain staking. Let him know that he isn’t just a “step child.” He is just as important in your household as someone that’s there full-time.

In the long run, all this back and forth will affect HIM. He is old enough to see things for himself and draw his own conclusions. It might not be something you see right now but he’s analyzing the situations just as much as you, your husband and the ex are. The only difference is that the 3 of you are ADULTS and he, being a child, will process everything differently. There’s a good possibility that he’ll see the arguments and the complaints as a form of rejection, especially since he only visits on the weekends. This can widen a gap in their relationship.

I know it’s difficult and you feel like you’re on the verge of exploding but stay firm. Pray for the mother… that she and your husband begin communicating on friendly terms. Pray for your step son… that he isn’t affected by these adult problems and sees that he is loved. And pray for yourself… for patience and a continuously open heart.

Psalm 55:22
Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.

1 Peter 5:7
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

Matthew 5:43-44
But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven.

Stay strong. I will be praying for you.

Saved By Faith

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Pt4 Cont. From I'm Worried He Still Has Feelings For Her

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- Pt2 Cont. from I'm Worried He Still Has Feelings For Her
- Pt3 Cont. from I'm Worried He Still Has Feelings For Her

Anonymous Responds: you remember my problem with the boyfriend who cheated with the two babies my parents didnt like him rember me asking you for advice well he crys to me everynight on the phone i feel so bad for him its hard watching someone try hard knowing what you know that no matter how bad i feel my parents will never approve of him and He spent 50 dollars on red roses to send to me tommarrow around 3:30 and a bouqet usually cost 12 dollars so spending 50$ i dont know how to handle this anymore................what to do please .....he said that he has been praying more i dunno i feel like super bad but he cheated but yeah i dunno what to do i really really dont i know i still have love for him but its so omgosh i need help badly

Response: For some reason you did not get my response and I can't find it any where in my sent box..

You have to be strong about this. Don't take him back. He is on the rebound and still unsure of what he wants. Even though he seems to be convincing don't fall for it. He is too fresh out a long relationship. Don't get yourself into a situation that you will regret.

Stop communicating with him and let him move on with his life. These are times where you have to draw close to God and trust Him to help you and give you strength. He promises that if you will draw close to Him then He will draw close to you, but you really have to surrender your will to God's will.

You saw your prayer answered, don't doubt what God is showing you. He doesn't want you settling for this relationship.

Don't forget that this young man just recently was initmate with his children's mother. His ex who he was with 5 years. If he didn't have some feelings for her then he would not have been with her recently.

Don't allow yourself to be used and abused. That is not God's will for your life.

Be strong..

Trophy of Grace

Anonymous Replied: thanks :)

Mission For Mr.Right

Written by: Trophy of Grace

I remember when I was desperate for love. I chased love and attention from any guy that was willing to pretend to even care. I sold myself short all the time dating guys that just wanted one thing from me. I have always been a pretty intuitive chick so it was no surprise to me when I found out that they were just using me, so I told myself that I was just using them too. In a sense I really was. We did not love or respect each other.

“I love you” was muttered to those guys that I thought could possibly be the one, but I quickly learned that love isn’t cheating, sex, lying, and manipulating. However that was the love I got and that was the love I learned to give.

Deep down inside my heart was hidden underneath layers of denial, hurt, betrayal, loneliness, and sadness longing to have a love that was something special and different from the rest. I needed someone to love and cherish me. I wanted to be some man’s everything. My mission for love and Mr. Right only lead me to lust and infatuation in the arms of Mr. Wrong every time. When would I finally be someone’s wifey?

I wish I knew then what I know now, that we don’t need to go around looking for Mr. Right. He will come and find us when the time is right and appointed by God. All we have to do is leave it in God’s hands and change our focus in life from searching for love in all the wrong places to receiving love from the One who gives True Love.

Instead of desperately seeking a relationship with a man we are to first diligently seek a relationship with the One who loves us more than words can say. He is the lover of our souls. He is the one who can give us the desires of our hearts. He is the one that we can depend on and cast all of our cares on. He is the one that has good gifts to give us because He cherishes us with all of His heart. He will not leave us or abandon us. He will not lie, deceive, and hurt us. He sacrificed His son on the cross for us so that we can be saved and live life more abundantly. God Almighty has us constantly on His mind. He longs to have an intimate relationship with us.

Matthew 6:33 “But seek (aim at and strive after) first of all His kingdom and His righteousness (His way of doing and being right), and then all these things [taken together will be given you besides.

Having a real personal relationship with God before searching for our soul mate is the wisest thing we could ever do. The Lord will teach us about real Love. Receiving His love and spending time with Him will teach us how to love others. Our minds will be renewed and changed. We will be healed and equipped to be the helpmate to the man that God has ordained for us.

While you are being taught and renewed by the Word of God the Lord will also be molding and preparing your future husband. At the same time our Lord will be making a way for your paths to cross one day, if they haven’t already. He is the best match maker because He knows what you both want and most of all what you need.

Abort your mission to find your soul mate. Start pursing a romance with the Lover of Your Soul. He will make you feel cherished, adored, beautiful, and loved. Then when Mr. Right comes you will be ready to serve each other the way God intended. Seek first God’s will for your life.

Everything Happens for A Reason

MySpacer Writes: I have belived everything happens for a reason my whole life... if I wouldn't have went with my ex to the lake for his birthday and ended up being ditched by him, I would never have meet the guy I like right now. But why did I meet him if all we do now is argue??? I think it's me that starts it. I want to call him and apologize for the way I have been acting but I don't know what to say to let him know that I really do like him and that I am really sorry for everything.

Response:Your are right..Everything that happens in our life does happen for a reason.

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose." (Romans 8:28)

Nothing happens that God did not know was going to happen to us. Even if God was not the one who caused it to happen, He may allow certain things for reasons sometimes that we will never know or understand until we stand before Him one day.

Regarding this relationship..Hooking up with someone too soon after a break up can be disastrous because we may be on the rebound. It is not good to enter into a new relationship when we haven’t had time to heal from our previous one. A lot of times we are not really over our ex and we hook up with the next person just using them as a temporary replacement. You may really like this new guy, but you may need to give yourself some space and try being alone for awhile.

Before you go to apologize to him, take a moment close your eyes and pray. Ask God to show you if you should even be in this relationship. You see God is all knowing. He can give you insight and wisdom into your situation so that you can be lead by Him to make the right decision for your life. Also, you want to ask God for His will to be done, not yours. It is always better for His will to be done in our lives because He knows what’s best for us and can prevent us from trouble that we are unable to see or predict.

Then ask God to give you the words to speak to this young man and to touch his heart with understanding. Then go and apologize for how you have been acting. You will see that if you trust God to help you and you allow Him to lead you, everything will work out the way it’s supposed to.

Allow God to lead you..

"I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them."(Isaiah 42:16)

Put your trust in Him..

As the Scripture says, "Anyone who trusts in Him will never be put to shame." (Romans 10:11)

He will help you..

This is what the LORD says-- He who made you, who formed you in the womb, and who will help you... (Isaiah 44:2)

I will be praying for you.

Sincerely,

Trophy of Grace

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Garbage In Garbage Out

Written by: Conduit of Truth

Do Not Destroy Your Heart With Your Own Eyes

Be careful of what you intake through the eyes; such as looking at immoral magazines, indecent pictures, bad ideas and immoral movies and stories. There are some magazines, books, and movies that will instill doubt about your beliefs. There are some that will create images that can lead one astray. When faced with such reading material and movies ask yourself, “Will the information in this book/movie/magazine help me to be a better person? Will it help me to reach my goals? Will it draw me closer to Jesus?” If your answer is no, then why waste your time?

Use your time to read positive stimulating books. Read your bible often. It has an example of every life experience that you hope to go through and more.

Do Not Destroy Your Heart With Your Own Mind

One tends to become what you feed your mind. If you eat junk food all the time your body will soon show it. The mind works the same way. If you feed your mind with thoughts of evil, then it will produce evil actions. Immoral stories or movies will lead to immoral actions. This is a situation of garbage in and garbage out. In the bible in the book of Philippians it speaks of how your mind set should be. It says finally brethren what so ever things are true, what so ever things are honest, what so ever things are just, what so ever things are pure, what so ever things are lovely, what so ever things of good report, if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise think on these things. (Philippians 4:4-8)

Do Not Destroy Your Life With Friends That Will Pull You Down

It is said that birds of a feather flock together. Be careful of those you call friends. Do not hang around with ones that display bad attitudes, gives wrong advice, speaks against authority, and those with thoughts of evil and not of good. If you run with losers then you will become a loser on the run.

On the other hand associate yourself with the doers, achievers, and the positive life wires and you will stay motivated with love and peace of mind to do good for yourself and for others around you.

Words

Whatever your mouth says the most,
Whatever your eyes see the most,
Whatever your ear hears the most,
Will be what you heart stores the most.

The words stored in your heart will be your life.
Your life is in your heart.
So be careful about what goes in your ear,
Or, what comes out of your mouth.

What you hear
What you see
What you say
Is that what you are right now?
Are you really who you are?

By: PJ Schloss

How Can I Tell My Parents About My Boyfriend? Part 2

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Girl’s Reply: thanx for the advice but i dont if u understand..i like him alot i think i might even love him and i dont DO NOT want to break his heart and i no he feels the same.its not like my grades r slippping im just as focused on school as i waz when i didnt have a boyfriend.ok ill admite that my conshents is bother me about it and i hate keepng stuff from me parents because it always comes out ugly.how do i NOT break the boys heart and tell my parents its impossible =[ =[

Response: Why would you prefer to break your parents’ hearts as opposed to his? Knowing that they want the best for you, why do that to them? I know when I was younger I swore my parents didn’t understand what I was going through or what I wanted, especially if I liked a boy. But it wasn’t that at all… it’s that they’ve been there. They had the same questions and confusions when they were younger. And even if it seems like they don’t understand, they really do. And they’re speaking to you out of experience.

I know it sucks sometimes but you should really respect your mom & dad’s word. You’ll see a few days, weeks, or even years from now that they gave you good advice. They love you with all their hearts… they wouldn’t allow you to do anything that’s damaging to you.


Ephesians 6
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise—"that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."

Colossians 3:20
Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

I hope you take the time and really think this through.

Lovingly,

Saved By Faith

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How Can I Tell My Parents About My Boyfriend?

Anonymous Wrote: i really need ur help i have a big situation...i think im falling in love with a boy =] =[ the problem is im not allowed 2 have any boy friends but i made an exception for him. i just wish my parents would no that im wise enough to have and handle a boyfriend i really want to tell them and my boyfriend want me to 2 but i just cant so that. Its like when i talk to them about boy or even try to they dont listen to every thing. all they listen to is the boyfriend part i say… they may not no that but i no...plezz help what do i do!!

Answer: I think there are two topics that should be covered with your question… one being the relationship and the second being the deception with your parents.

Relationships should not be taken lightly and require a lot of the people involved. For this reason, I believe dating should wait until you’re older, more mature. There are so many situations that come up by being in a relationship and waiting until you are more seasoned in life, and in the word of God, will help you handle them better. Give yourself time to grow physically, mentally and spiritually. Allow God to work in your life and in God’s time, He will bring you a relationship that will be undeniable to anyone.

Your parents are well aware of what goes into a relationship and how important it is to mature before getting into one. They also understand the importance of focusing on school and preparing for a career. But most importantly, communication with your parents is very important. Having parents that love you and are by you is such a great gift. And understanding that they have your best interests at heart is something you should realize and respect. Even though you don’t necessarily agree with them, you should honor and respect your parents’ wishes. Trust in the Lord and pray for His help in obeying your parents.

Galations 6:9
2 Thes 3:13


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He Said I'm Ugly...

QUESTION: ok in 6th grade i met this boy... mi first boyfriend who treated me bad... ithought... he never wanted to be around me wit his friends n called me names but i relly like him.. he was my first kiss n so i thought at the time love.... we went on n off datin about a year... n then he just dumped me... i was heartbroken.... for nights i cried myself tosleep he hurt me that bad... i thought that this was the way all relationships are... i have garded my heart ever since... then next year this guy liked me so i let him do what he pleased.. i kissed him when he wanted me to n i let him fill me up... i was hurt n confused... i tryed to use him to get over this guy... i dated a many guys since him... once i made the biggest mistake n stayin wit a guy who beat on me... just becasue he made me feel beautiful... i dumped him when i couldnt take it n e more... i dated many guys since him...but i gaurged my heart not to get attached...i even got to the point where i didnt want a guy to tuch me... i wanted a boyfriend but i was afraid if i kissed him or somthing hed say i was wrong or i was ugly or not good enough... recently my first crush from 6th grade got back intouch wit me... he told me that he thought i was ugly back then so he dumped me... n he still thinks that... i dont no y but i give him so much power.... help... i told him it doesnt bother me but it does

ANSWER: I think you should take some time for yourself. Really get to know you and accept and love yourself exactly as you are. God created you as a beautiful treasure. In His eyes, you are more precious than anything on Earth. And that is something you should always remember. Surround yourself with positive friendships. I suggest you go on a “no boyfriend” fast and just take time to draw closer to the Lord. The word of God tells us that if we seek the things of God first… His righteousness, His peace, His direction, His comfort, His will for our life, His kingdom… everything else we want & desire will be given to us b/c as a result of seeking him, our desires will line up with His will for our life.

I would suggest that you reexamine your commitment to Him. He does not desire that you spend your time looking for love from ungodly men that are just going to use and abuse. You are a child of the most High God. Your body is the temple of God and is meant ONLY to be shared with the man that God has for you, your husband. If you keep on this path, you may end up pregnant, unequally yoked with some guy that’s never going to love and appreciate you or your child. You don’t need baby daddy drama. Focus on your studies. Forget about boys for now. Take this time to allow God to help you develop into a beautiful Godly woman, secure with herself & her faith because of what Christ Jesus has done for us.

James 4:8
Hebrews 10:22
1 Corinthians 3:16
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
1 Thessalonians 4:1-8
Ephesians 5:3
Song of Solomon 1:15
Zechariah. 2:8

Sincerely,

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My Heart Skipped A Beat

QUESTION:
Hey do me a favor and go look at my profile at my latest blog. It's all about this guy I meet this weekend and I want to know what you think. Like am I falling way to fast for him or is it just a summer fling??? I really really like him though!

ANSWER:
I read your blog. God gave us feelings and they should be influenced by the Spirit of God who lives within us (1 Corinthians 3:16; 6:19). When our emotions are in charge of us it means that the Lord is not in charge. God never asks us to deny our feelings, just not be led by them.

Finding the right person is very important. Knowing when we have found the right person sometimes takes time and experience. It’s very easy to get caught up in the idea of a relationship and not carefully consider whether or not that person is suitable in the long run.

Your relationship should be built on Christ and not feelings. Important questions to think about for the both of you:

“Are you both saved?”
“What is your understanding of who Jesus is?”
“Do you live according to God’s will?”

You need to be on the same page because if you’re not, it will only lead to misdirection and frustration.

Take your time in getting to know him. Build a friendship first.

We need to maintain faith and trust in God, praying for His provision. Be practical about finding a partner. God knows our needs and wants the best for us.

Psalm 37:4
“Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart”.

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