I Want To Make Sure This Love Doesn't Turn To Lust

Anonymous said...
Hi...I'm 20 years old and I'm in love with someone. We have been friends for a while and we both are FULLY devoted to God. But there's a problem...we have been through so much in our pasts and I know he just might be afraid of getting into a relationship because he wants to serve the Lord with no distractions (which I also agree with)especially since we have a ministry to look after. I've prayed to God and He tells me to wait...I just wanted to know what are some things I can do to ensure I stay patient and to make sure this love doesn't turn into lust.Thank you so much!!!

Trophy of Grace says..

The first thing that came to mind when I read this is she needs to get away from him for right now. If you each want to be able to focus on your ministries and your relationship with the Lord right now then perhaps you need to take some time apart from each other. A break may be needed while you take some time to pray and build yourself up with the Word of God.

If being around each other causes lustful feelings that are distracting then you really need to RUN from this temptation, until you are able to control your emotions.

"Run from anything that stimulates youthful lust. Follow anything that makes you want to do right. Pursue faith and love and peace, and enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts." 2 Timothy 2:22

"If you keep yourself pure, you will be a utensil God can use for His purpose. Your life will be clean, and you will be ready for the Master to use you for every good work." (2 Timothy 2:21 NLT)

These are times that you must draw close to the Lord. He has to be the one that you call on to give you the strength and self- control to do the right thing. It is in His strength NOT IN YOUR OWN that you will overcome. The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure. (1 Corinthians 10:13)

Just be patient and wait on the Lord. He has the right person for you and He will bring him in His timing. You just have to trust Him. It may or may not be this young man.

Always remember that our Lord does not tempt us.

James 1:12-15 God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. And remember, when you are being tempted, do not say, “God is tempting me.” God is never tempted to do wrong,[and he never tempts anyone else. Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.

I love you sister…May our Lord give you the strength and the power of the Holy Spirit to help you overcome and resist this temptation. You can do all things through our Lord who gives you the power to overcome. It is that same power that raised Him for the grave. Glory to God for the victory..God bless you..

Beware Of Anger!

Cross Post From Consecrated To Him
Written By: Trophy of Grace


BEWARE OF ANGER! When we have been hurt, offended, gossiped on, betrayed, or taken advantage of we must not allow ourselves to be consumed by anger. Anger is determined to take over all of our emotions and hinder our thinking provoking us to meditate on the offense over and over again.

It’s a trap! Don’t meditate on the offense!

By constantly remembering the offense we are feeding the anger and prolonging forgiveness and healing. We need to learn to choose to forgive and leave the offense and the offender in God’s hands. Believe me; I know it is easier said than done especially when it hits close to the heart. However, the Word of God tells us that if we do not forgive our offenders than God will not forgive us either. We are also commanded to get rid of all bitterness, rage, and anger in our lives.

“Your heavenly Father will forgive you if you forgive those who have sinned against you; but if you refuse to forgive them, he will not forgive you.” (Matthew 6:15)

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (Ephesians 4:31-32)

I am not saying don’t get angry. There will be times that we all get angry. We just can not allow the anger to overcome us. So what do we do when we have been hurt? How do we not allow anger not to consume us? Below are just some suggestions:

Ø Be lead by the Spirit. Don’t allow your fleshy emotions to take over your mind. Remember there are principalities in the spiritual realm wanting to agitate the situation more and could even be the influence provoking it. We must keep in mind that we are constantly in a spiritual battle.
Ø Control your tongue. Don’t be loose with the lips saying things that you will regret. I know my first reaction is to want to come out of my mouth and start verbally retaliating. I feel the need to defend myself with my tongue. This is not the answer! It will only help to quickly escalate the conflict.
Ø Do not hesitate, immediately begin to pray! Ask God to help keep a cover over your mouth until the Holy Spirit has helped you get control over your emotions. Then try to resolve the situation amicably, in love and with patience.
Ø If your offender is unreasonable and does not care to resolve the conflict then you have got to let it go and leave it in God’s hands. Remember that God is our vindicator. There is no reason to defend yourself or retaliate in anger, trust our Lord to work on both of your hearts and forgive the person right away for your own good.
Ø Refresh yourself by playing some praise and worship music so that you can get your spirit and mind back on the Lord and off the offense. It’s hard to be angry when you are worshipping God.

Lord, we thank you that through the power of the Holy Spirit we can forgive quickly and not allow anger to have its way with our emotions. We pray that You would have mercy on our offenders and draw them closer to You. In Jesus name…Amen.

This Is Not the Life I Want For Myself

A Friend Wrote: Going through some crazy drama and don't even know why. Everything is too much for me that I'm gonna start going to church every sunday starting this sunday coming up, I come to realize that I need god in my life and just need to start my life fresh. This is not the life I want for myself... Been doing a lot of thinking to myself and need to just do and stop thinking so much about it but at times I just feel like given up on myself...

Reply: ... I can understand why you're tired of that way of life. There are so many factors that will rot away at your heart... drinking, sex, surrounding yourself with bad company, to name a few.

I can definitely say that God's made such a big difference in my life and I'm positive He will do the same for you. Knowing that HE loves you unconditionally and accepts you as you are is an incredible feeling! There's no need to feel ashamed or be down on yourself with Christ. Going to church, building a relationship with the Lord is the 1st step towards starting fresh.

I think you have to reconsider how you're spending your free time. Drinking as much as you've been is not good for you. Alcohol may mask your worries, fears & troubles for a little while but it doesn't make them go away. Once you sober up, they are still waiting for you... and you may have a couple of more issues like not remembering what you did while you were drunk. or having to ask other people what you did or didn't do. Or regretting your actions or words.

1 Thessalonians 5:4-8
“You are all children of the light and of the day, and do not belong to darkness and night. So be on your guard not asleep like the others. Watch for his return and stay sober. Night is the time for sleep and the time when people get drunk. But let us who live in the light keep sober..”

About sex... You body is as sacred as a temple. You should preserve it and not give it to whomever gives you the most attention at the time. Men will say what they can in order to fulfill their desires, it doesn't mean that they care for you or will be there for you. Multiple partners (especially in only a few months) is not healthy, physically or emotionally. Do you realize how many diseases/illnesses you're opening yourself up to? You're not sleeping with just that person... in a sense, you're sleeping with everyone they've laid down with. And emotionally, how is that effecting your self esteem? self worth? You are a valuable treasure. YOU are a wonderful person, beautiful inside and out and should be treated with respect and honor.

Psalm 139: 13,14
He shaped us in our mother’s womb, and we are marvelous inside and out!

Deut. 7:16
We are His cherished treasure

Song of Solomon 1:15
He thinks we’re beautiful

I value you as a friend and I pray for you all the time. I pray that you will build a relationship with God and He will direct you down the right path. I pray for your happiness. I pray for you to be blessed 10 times over, as God intended.

I'm glad to hear you say you want to seek God and I'd like to invite you to my church's service on Sunday. But please, whether you make it to service this week or not, please think about your lifestyle. Begin by dropping communication with those that hinder you and stop the drunken partying. It will only widen the darkness in your heart.

I love you and am praying for you.

Saved By Faith


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I Like Him But He's Not Christian

A MySpace Friend Wrote: I'm writing to you because I've read your bulletines and they've helped me...

but now i have this problem&seems harder than what i really thought.

Almost all my life i was raised in the gospel,i know right from wrong. I know that God is our only true love.

We've always been taught, keep yourself pure until the day you get married, do not set eyes on an unbeliever, watch what you do and say at all times and respresent Christ in everything you do. That never really seemed like a problem until now that I started college. The trials have gotten bigger, the struggles are harder and I've come to a point where I feel as if i can't go on anymore....I am so in need of God. I've gotten so caught up in the things of the world and put God to a side without realizing it until now.

I'm broken and in need of a savior. I've always been one to give advice and live by it until it happened to me....not too long ago i met this guy and things were good and he's nice,funny,sweet,handsome but he is NOT a christian. I didn't realize how much time i was giving him and not God.

I really do like him though,but I know that we can't be together because we don't have to same beliefs but when i'm with him its as if nothing matters and i wouldnt rather be in any other place but i know better, i know better than to set eyes on an unbeliever but i dont know whats happened....

I havent forgotten God, i haven't, but I don't feel Him like before. And my soul yearns for him....but my flesh desires worldy things. Though i haven't done anything wrong with this guy...and everything feels right when i'm with him when i go to church or talk to my pastor for some reason i feel ashamed....i feel dirty and i dont know why. I know i'm wrong,i know that God has promised great things for me, i just feel like i cant let go of this guy because he's good to me and doesn't deserve me to break his heart bc i know what that feels like......so i write to you today, asking you for help...asking you for prayer.
I dont know what to do...?????
Can you help me?

Response: Hi. I’m glad our bulletins have been helpful to you and I pray that God gives me the words to help you with your dilemma.

I understand your situation and have been there. It’s so easy to be consumed with worldly things. And it’s also common for people to say they’re not sure if they’re as close to God because they don’t “feel” Him. As Christians we have to remember that serving our Lord isn’t a feeling. It’s a way of being. God knows that we’re full of human emotions and reactions. And for that reason He gives us certain tangible revelations or situations where we can “feel” His presence. But feeling is not what we should go by…we should go by faith and know that our Heavenly Father is with us at all times. Everyday we have to choose to serve Him.

About your friend… Distractions are placed in our lives to steer us away from God. It’s up to us to decide whether or not to do so. Sometimes these distractions are nice, funny, sweet and even handsome… just as someone we pray for our Lord to bring into our lives. But meeting them might not be for what we think. It could be a test of self control, faith, endurance, humility. When you really dedicate yourself to the Lord you have to sacrifice certain things. And at times sacrificing these worldly things seems tougher than we’ve imagined. But you have to stay strong. Take a couple of steps back, even if it’s difficult. When you take those steps back from your new friend, you will see they are actually steps forward… forward towards God again. You know in your heart that you’ve turned away from your true love and the Holy Spirit is ministering to you from within to look for Him again, as in the story of David (please read Psalm 51).

I will pray for your strength and endurance within Christ to steer you back to Jehovah-Machsi, the Lord my Refuge.

Saved By Faith

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Respecting My Decision

Question:
I'm celibate now and I have been for like 4 months (doin my BEST)...is it possible to find a man who will wait til marriage AND remain faithful??? Even a preacher will cheat on their spouse!

Answer:
First off I would like to commend you on your decision to be celibate. That's a difficult decision to make in todays society. I know that it can be difficult at times but it shows that you have a lot of strength and self respect.

Secondly, finding a man who will respect your choice is very possible. All things are possible with God! First you need to find a man that loves and holds God in his heart. A man who knows the Lord will agree with your decision because he also wants to please the Lord. A man that walks with God will understand that sex before marriage is a sin in God's eyes. If he loves the Lord he will love, respect, and support you. I know that God will honor your choice and place a man in your life who will do the same. Together, with God's help, you can develop a healthy relationship that eventually lead to marriage.

I pray that God continues to give you strength, patience, and the man that He sees fit for you. Remember to trust God, He knows what He's doing.

Here is an article that you may find helpful.
It's called 10 Ways to Practice Purity by Ron Hutchcraft. He wrote it for Campus Life's, Ignite Your Faith magazine. I found the suggestions to be very realistic. I encourage you to read this article. I pray you find it helpful.

10 Ways to Practice Purity by Ron Hutchcraft


When you fall in love, it's natural to want to express your love in physical ways. But you also know God wants you to remain sexually pure—in both your actions and your thoughts. Sometimes it's a tough balance, but showing love for another and remaining pure is possible. Here are some suggestions:

1) Keep innocent expressions special. Rather than making the innocent expressions a mere prelude to the "heavier stuff," make the most of them. Let holding hands mean something. Express tenderness by simply putting your arms around each other. Make sure a kiss communicates true feeling and isn't just the first step to further physical involvement.

2) Pace your passion. Every marathon runner knows that you don't use up your energy at the beginning of the race; you need most of it at the end. Pacing your passion means that you realize you're trying to remain pure all the way to your wedding day. It's OK to express your love in little ways, but don't start messing with the package that is sex. To get real practical, avoid French kissing and petting—anything that is sure to ignite the fires of passion.

3) Don't feed your fantasies. It's normal to think about sex sometimes. In fact, with the way advertising and Hollywood exploit sex, it would be impossible not to think about it. So choose your entertainment carefully. Soap operas, certain songs, books, television shows, movies and Web sites only turn up the pressure. Feeding your thought life with junk only makes it harder to remain pure in your actions.

4) Remember whose property you're touching. You do not own the person you're dating. That person belongs to God. Imagine there's a sign on everyone you date that reads: PROPERTY OF JESUS.

5) Make a promise to God, and daily renew your commitment. Decide where you're going to draw the line, and tell God that with his help, you are not going to cross that line until marriage. Don't commit to it unless you mean it, though. The Bible says it's a serious thing to make a vow to God. At the same time, realize that you can't stick to your promise without his help. That's why it's important to renew your commitment daily.

6) Acknowledge Jesus' presence on every date. Before a date, it's normal to spend a lot of time getting ready. After all, you want to look your best. But you also want to make sure you're spiritually prepared. So spend at least as much time in prayer as you do in front of a mirror. As it says in Proverbs 3:6: "Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths."

7) Agree on your standards. Before sex becomes an issue in the relationship, talk about your standards with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Don't dwell only on the negative—what you won't do. Hebrews 10:24 tells us to "encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds." Discuss ways your friendship can help each of you become a better person.

8) Don't always go it alone. Sure, you want to be alone with your date; that's only normal. Yet too much time alone can lead you to do things you'll regret later. Your relationship will be a lot healthier if you spend time with each other's families and friends.

9) Put real love first. Genuine love always respects the other person. It never says, "If you love me, you'll … " Real love says instead, "Since I care about you so much, I will respect you, treat you with kindness, and never ask you to do something you know or feel is wrong."

10) Declare a new beginning. If you think you've already given away too much, don't give up. The beauty of Christianity is that sins are forgiven and erased (see "A Second Chance at Virginity?" on page 38). You can start over today.

With Love,
Daughter of Destiny

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Insults, Rumors & Gossip

Written by: Saved By Faith

“Did you hear? ...”
“You didn’t hear it from me but…”
“Someone told me that….”

We’ve all been there before, either saying it or listening to it. Gossiping, exchanging stories, talking about someone, whatever you want to call it. But what exactly did you get from it? Do you still see that person the same way, without judging them? Can that information be used to lift them up? Or did it damage their reputation? Hurt them? Or maybe hurt you?

… Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me…

We’ve all been here before too but how true is this statement? Let’s break this down:

Sticks and stones may break my bones… very true. That pain fades and the wounds eventually heal.

… but names will never hurt me… not true. Name calling or negative comments affect someone much longer than a cut, scrape or bruise. All it takes is for someone to say something negative, a sarcastic remark, discouraging word for us to be knocked down. It only takes one word to put a hole in your heart. For example, Karen Carpenter (from the popular 1970s duo, the Carpenters) died from anorexia at 32. Her obsession with her weight started after an article called her “Richard’s chubby sister.” 1 word had impacted her life and brought her to an early death.

What a lot of people don’t realize is that speaking badly to/about someone and gossiping, are sins. The bible clearly states that one of the steps we must take in order to stay rooted in His word is watching what or how we speak.

Proverbs 10:19
“Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.”

Proverbs 15:4
“Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.”

Our mouth is a weapon to be used with God’s intention – to uplift one another! To speak the Word, give Him praise, and share our testimonies with others. He did not intend for us to use our words to hurt one another, rather as a sword to cut at the enemy’s attacks. In this time of battle we must choose our words wisely. As Christians it is our responsibility to uplift our brothers and sisters, sharing in the joys that our beloved Father has given us. Rejoice in the Lord! Speak of His goodness! Help bring others to Him, leaving all insecurities, negativity, and problems at His feet.

Proverbs: 16:24
"Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones".

Please read: Psalm 34:13, Psalm 39:1, Proverb 13:3, Proverb 15:4, Proverb17:20, Proverb21:23, 2 Timothy 2:16

Love Potion #O

Written by: Daughter of The King

Weused2bu gets a lot of questions about relationship and that’s understandable because God created us to be relational beings. Of course he wants our relationship to Him to be first and foremost in our lives but he also wants us to have healthy fulfilling relationships with others especially our lifelong spouse. I have read the great responses you received to your relationship questions yet I know that some of you are having a hard time following the advice that has been given to you, especially if the advice was “cut him loose”. Do you wonder why it is so hard to let someone go who is bad for you? Do you wonder why women who are abused keep going back to their abuser? Besides the obvious answer that it is because of sin and/or rebellion there’s another explanation and it’s called Oxytocin.

Before I explain what Oxytocin is and what it does lets see what God says about male and female relationships:

Note: The Bible does not talk about dating only marriage. We think that dating is something that has always existed but it is an invention of the 20th century. The real purpose of dating is to help us select our future husband, back in Bible times you did not select your husband, your father did that for you. I’m going to write more about dating in a future article.

Matthew 19: 4-6 (The Message)
He answered, "Haven't you read in your Bible that the Creator originally made man and woman for each other, male and female? And because of this, a man leaves father and mother and is firmly bonded to his wife, becoming one flesh—no longer two bodies but one…

Genesis 2:24 (KJV)
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Look at the words I’ve underlined; if you looked them up in the dictionary this is what you would find:

Bonded – To join securely, as with glue or cement.
Cleave – To adhere closely, to stay attached.

Isn’t that beautiful? God intended us to get married and bond with our husband in such a way that it would be as if we were just one-person super glued together. That’s where the Oxytocin comes in.

Oxytocin is a hormone that is released by the female brain during three very special events in a woman’s life: sexual activity, giving birth, and breastfeeding.
Scientist have studied this hormone and they have found that it causes women to emotionally bond to their sexual partner and to their babies, scientist have nicknamed it “the super glue hormone”; now that’s great news because that is exactly what God intended if the sexual partner is your husband. But if he’s not now you have a problem because you’re not just bonded to a man that is not committed to you but you also trust him because Oxytocin causes us to bond and trust the person we are sexually involved with.

Ladies let me sum this up; if you are sexually involved with a guy that you are dating you are making a big mistake (not to mention breaking God’s law) because this guy may be bad for you. He may be messing with drugs and other women or he may be mistreating you and you know you should let him go but you can’t and you think that you can’t because you love him but that’s not the case you’re just emotionally bonded to him, not in love. God intended this to happen but with your husband, in marriage only not in a dating relationship when you’re just getting to know the person.

So if you’re in a relationship that is not good for you (emotionally, spiritually or physically) realize that it’s the hormones in your brain telling you not to let go of him, not your heart. Remember you can do anything through Christ who strengthens you (Phil 4:13) and cut him loose.

Love Triangle

ANONYMOUS WROTE: (names are changed for anonymity) I was best friends with Noah for 3 yrs. We dated for awhile but things didn’t work out. Noah & I broke things off because he did some really stupid things at his ex’s and he scared everyone. my brother stopped a lot of bad things from happening that night. Another reason why it didn’t work out is because I still had feelings for my ex, Andrew, and he & I would hang out once in awhile. Even though Andrew calls me b/c he wants to see me, we end up arguing. He’s even called his ex to come over before I would leave his house! Well it was Andrew’s birthday and he wanted me to go out to the lake with him so I did... and he ended up ditching me to go with some other girls. So I was hanging out with everyone, enjoying myself when this really gorgeous guy Darren comes up and I looked into his eyes and we connected. We had a great weekend and exchanged numbers. We’ve had some deep talks on the phone. We write each other and he is worried that I love another guy... I do... I think. I told Darren that I love someone else and that didn’t go to well.. I think I messed that up and I really like him.... but I think he will stick with me and work this out. But there’s still Andrew... he keeps calling. He wants me to go out to his farm with him during harvest to keep him company... and I can’t say no.... I’m lost... fer reals


ANSWER: I read your email a couple of times to make sure I fully understand your situation. I think the first thing you should take into consideration is respect… respect given and respect received. Respect given is self respect and the respect you give others. Self respect is very important because it sets a foundation on how you will and will not allow others to treat you. God created you out of His undying love for you. Before you were in your mother’s womb He set forth a life and love for you that you must cherish. “He shaped us in our mother’s womb, and we are marvelous inside and out!” (Psalm 139: 13,14) God’s love combined with prayer should inspire you, give you the insight and self-respect and love you need in order to make sound decisions in every area.

Deut. 7:16; Song of Solomon 1:15; Zech. 2:8

The drama with Noah sounds like he lacks self control. Although you built a friendship with him originally, he seems a little unstable. God wants His children to be stable… to be rooted. The bible uses the analogy of building your house on rock or sand (Matthew 7:24-27). Let me briefly explain:

If you build a house on sand and a terrible storm comes, you’re house is going to fall apart because it wasn’t built on a strong foundation. But if you build your house on the rock, it will last through the storm.

For Noah, his careless ways are like building his house on sand. Eventually, it’s going to fall apart. Situations like this are when you really have to evaluate your friendships. I suggest that you pray for him. His being out of control at his ex’s house shows that he’s allowed the enemy to work in his life, taking full control. Pray that Noah finds love in the Lord and is able to settle his ways in order to better provide for his children and himself. Be positive, stay focused, and pray for his salvation. It is very important that we pray for not only our friends and family, but also for those who have hurt us.

The best gift anyone can give to another is to pray for him or her. We live in a sinful world where bad things happen to people and people are tempted to sin. Praying for another person not only helps that person find God in the midst of trouble, but also helps us recognize the blessings that God gives us daily!

1 Timothy 2:1-5; James 1:13-15

Andrew and you seem to be caught in a yo-yo effect, going up and down. This is also not a healthy situation and is like you building on sand too. His blatant lack of respect should serve as a reminder for you… God intended you to be with someone that is respectful, that loves you wholeheartedly, and has a growing relationship with the Lord. I would suggest you not go to the farm to visit Andrew. Take some time to yourself. Meditate in the Word. Read and really try to understand the good things our Heavenly Father has planned for you. He will bring you someone that does not cause so much despair.

"May the Lord direct your hearts into God's love and Christ's perseverance?" (2 Thessalonians 3:5)

Darren is new and exciting. New and exciting should still be taken at a slow pace. Love is something very serious and isn’t shared with just anyone. It takes time to build your relationship with God so why wouldn’t the same apply to a guy?? Develop a friendship with Darren, don’t rush into anything. Always work on your relationship with the Lord first, making sure you are rooted in your faith. God will bring your mate in your life in His due time. Be patient.

We just wrote an article that might help you… My Heart Skipped A Beat

Sincerely,

Saved By Faith

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My Lustful Desires

QUESTION: im 18 n im not a virgin ne more n sometimes i get these overwhelming desires to just hook up w/ ppl i start gettin to kno.....is that normal??

ANSWER: Humans were created to have sexual urges and these urges are natural. However, acting upon them is a different story.

God created us to have sexual pleasure in a member of the opposite sex, but not with just anyone… only with a spouse. He didn't make us to satisfy our desires from person to person, stranger, boyfriend or fiancée. Desiring someone who doesn't belong to you in marriage causes frustration and strays away from what the Lord wants for you… true love and true intimacy.

One of the enemy’s goals is to use a cheap imitation of God’s perfect plan of marriage’s true love and intimacy by using LUST. Lust is a longing that is uncontained and uncontrolled. It is the opposite of self-control, which is one of the "fruits of the Holy Spirit" (Galatians 5:23). Jesus wanted to set us free from these fleshly desires. God will allow us to fulfill these desires with a spouse in His good timing. Until that time, we must learn to control our sex drives.

Draw closer to God for the strength and self-control you need. God is our source of strength and the only defense against the enemy's attacks of lust. Building a relationship with God will give you a desire to please Him more than your own flesh desires.

James 1:13 -18

Be strong in the Lord! Study God's word and seek His will. Remember that the devil's temptations are always deceitful: he may offer you pleasure now but it comes with a horrible price to pay sooner or later.

John 8:34-36

Saved By Faith

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