My Husband Looks Like He's Pregnant

Anonymous Asked... How do I tell my husband that he needs to work out? He looks like he has been pregnant with twins for 2 years now? I've tried to tell him..but He thinks he's hot!!

Answer... I think it’s great that your husband feels comfortable and confident with his body. :) If his weight has become an issue, try to approach the conversation differently. Instead of straight up telling him that he needs to hit a gym, try suggesting it to him in a loving way. Maybe it’s something that the two of you can do together? If you have a family to tend to, maybe it could be a quick set of sit ups at home. Or maybe a trip to the gym with any friends or family that already go.

Either way you have to reassure him that you love him, past and present… better or worse, thick or thin. Your love for him gives you a desire to look your best for him, pleasing to your husband. And loving, compassionate, compromising partners, he should desire to do the same for you… maybe a sit up or two. Or ten. Or two sets of ten. Daily. Not too much but something to get the blood pumping and motivate him to want to do more exercising on his own.

I’ve heard this subject is kind of touchy with married couples so I will pray the words that come to you are out of love and are genuine to his feelings. Best of luck!

Saved By Faith


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He Said I'm Ugly...

QUESTION: ok in 6th grade i met this boy... mi first boyfriend who treated me bad... ithought... he never wanted to be around me wit his friends n called me names but i relly like him.. he was my first kiss n so i thought at the time love.... we went on n off datin about a year... n then he just dumped me... i was heartbroken.... for nights i cried myself tosleep he hurt me that bad... i thought that this was the way all relationships are... i have garded my heart ever since... then next year this guy liked me so i let him do what he pleased.. i kissed him when he wanted me to n i let him fill me up... i was hurt n confused... i tryed to use him to get over this guy... i dated a many guys since him... once i made the biggest mistake n stayin wit a guy who beat on me... just becasue he made me feel beautiful... i dumped him when i couldnt take it n e more... i dated many guys since him...but i gaurged my heart not to get attached...i even got to the point where i didnt want a guy to tuch me... i wanted a boyfriend but i was afraid if i kissed him or somthing hed say i was wrong or i was ugly or not good enough... recently my first crush from 6th grade got back intouch wit me... he told me that he thought i was ugly back then so he dumped me... n he still thinks that... i dont no y but i give him so much power.... help... i told him it doesnt bother me but it does

ANSWER: I think you should take some time for yourself. Really get to know you and accept and love yourself exactly as you are. God created you as a beautiful treasure. In His eyes, you are more precious than anything on Earth. And that is something you should always remember. Surround yourself with positive friendships. I suggest you go on a “no boyfriend” fast and just take time to draw closer to the Lord. The word of God tells us that if we seek the things of God first… His righteousness, His peace, His direction, His comfort, His will for our life, His kingdom… everything else we want & desire will be given to us b/c as a result of seeking him, our desires will line up with His will for our life.

I would suggest that you reexamine your commitment to Him. He does not desire that you spend your time looking for love from ungodly men that are just going to use and abuse. You are a child of the most High God. Your body is the temple of God and is meant ONLY to be shared with the man that God has for you, your husband. If you keep on this path, you may end up pregnant, unequally yoked with some guy that’s never going to love and appreciate you or your child. You don’t need baby daddy drama. Focus on your studies. Forget about boys for now. Take this time to allow God to help you develop into a beautiful Godly woman, secure with herself & her faith because of what Christ Jesus has done for us.

James 4:8
Hebrews 10:22
1 Corinthians 3:16
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
1 Thessalonians 4:1-8
Ephesians 5:3
Song of Solomon 1:15
Zechariah. 2:8

Sincerely,

Saved by Faith

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Our Appearance

Written by: Blessed and Highly Favored

Am I really trying to be all that?

The other day I was channel surfing with the remote, so bored with what was supposed to entertain me. I decided to peep at MTV real quick. I used to watch it a lot, especially when it first was broadcasting (yes, I am that old). Anyway, about 15 seconds into a video I was so shocked at what I saw. This is NOT the MTV I remember! My goodness, these women, I mean girls were dancing around looking like monkeys, ready to shake their booty and their racks for any dude in baggy pants who happened to cruise by. I had to check the cable, ‘cause maybe I made a mistake and got the Playboy pay-for-view channel, or something. Nope, this is MTV now. So I decided to flip it VH1, and don’t you know I saw the same video playing AGAIN! What are the chances? Flip to BET and there’s the same “artist” supposedly doing a different song, but it looked all the same. I just turned off the TV. I couldn’t watch it anymore.

What kind of culture we have become?If I was from another planet, and had no frame of reference as to the people from earth, except from what I saw on TV, what would my opinion be? First, that females on earth, hardly wear any clothes, are so skinny a cannibal would pass them up, have messed up hair, dance like having sex, booty shake and gyrate on and about usually one or two of the ugliest dudes who need a trip to the store to find some Granimals and a belt. I saw women as entertainment; no different from dancing monkeys. I didn’t see their minds, their hearts, their souls, their education; all I saw was a sacrifice of flesh being laid on the altar of advertising.

See here’s the deal. The people who make the decisions about the videos think you are all pigs. And pigs will eat anything you put in front of them. These producer’s kids go to exclusive private schools in other countries, far from the pig trough they want you to fill up on. They have bodyguards and security details to keep you far from them because you might contaminate them with their own stuff. And it doesn’t stop there. They bring on designers, and fashionistas to shape perceptions directly related to the videos. “Be like Mike” wear his shoes. “Be cool like P Diddy” wear Sean John. “Smell like J-Lo.” Oh for real???? Why is it so important to be like someone else?

Now girls, my head is not in the sand, and I’m not talking about putting burlap sacks on y’all and having you wear boots. God has created in us all the beauty we need; but it comes from inside, not from a bottle or a store. His Holy Spirit who dwells in us is a light, a spiritually dynamic force and is very attractive. As we submit to Jesus Christ, His Spirit develops in us character, and fruit. He wants us to seek His approval, not the approval of MTV, VH1 or BET! We are not pigs, or animals for that fact.

Jesus has a much higher calling for us that does not require us to give ourselves away for the sake of being eye candy. Respect yourself! Be Holy! (Leviticus 11:44, 1 Peter 1:15, 16) It’s okay to wear make-up, and to dress NICELY. Just be modest and remember you are a daughter of the Most High G-d, heavenly royalty, being cultivated into the kind of woman G-d wants you to be from the inside out. Let Him do His work, you be obedient, and TURN OFF THE TV!



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