Waiting, Dating & Mating

Written by: Daughter of The King

Have you ever wondered who invented dating? It’s such a common thing now a days that it seems like everyone is dating and those who are not are dying to start. That got me wondering about the purpose of dating, so as a Christian woman I went to the Bible to see what it had to say about dating, do you know what I found? NOTHING!

The Bible has a lot to say about marriage but not on dating. We think that dating is something that has always existed but it is an invention of the 20th century. The real purpose of dating is to help us select our future husband, back in Bible times you did not select your husband, your father did that for you. Now personally I’m glad our parents don’t chose our husband for us anymore but on the other hand dating the way its done today has gotten out of hand.

The problem is that dating has shifted from something we do to find our future husband to something we do just for fun and now the age at which girls start dating is getting younger and younger. And how about the actual date; back in the day when you were dating a guy he would take you on a picnic or to a carnival, he would buy you flowers, stuffed animal and maybe even write you a poem or love letters. It saddens me when girls tell me that guys don’t do those things anymore. There are two reasons why they don’t. The first reason is that since we’re starting to date so young they simply don’t have the money or skill to do them. The second reason is that they don’t have to; since it’s so easy to get a girl to out with you, make out with you, and maybe even have sex with you why would you bother spending money on flowers?

So, here’s what I’m suggesting ladies; take it slow. What’s the rush? You have a long life ahead of you and if you would just wait until the right time to do things you would enjoy them much more.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-5 says”There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain…”

Get the idea? If you’re no where near ready for marriage this is your time to wait but while you’re waiting you should be thinking about what kind of man you need your husband to be, do you want a man that is faithful? Respectful? Honest? Funny?

During this waiting time you should also be working on your own character, do you possess the qualities that you’re looking for? Also, the waiting period is a great time to get out there and have some fun with your group of friends; observe the guys, scope out who can potentially be a good boyfriend in the future.

The time for dating is when you think marriage could be in your near future (and 10 years is not the near future). I looked up “dating” in the dictionary and this is what it said “to make a date with; go out on dates with” well, it simply means to make an appointment with someone and that doesn’t sound very romantic me.

But, back in the day “dating” used to be called “courting” and that means “To try to gain the love or affection of someone, to seek to marry” isn’t that definition much more romantic? Another word that was used in the past for “dating” is “wooing” it means “to seek to achieve the affection of someone with the intent to romance” the way we date today robs us of good old fashioned romance and what girl doesn’t want to be romanced?

If you rather be courted or wooed instead of just dating there are a couple of things you can do. First don’t start dating too young and second don’t give yourself away. If a guy has access to your body (making out or any type of sex) romance goes out the window because there’s nothing left for him to achieve. But when you don’t give yourself away the right guy, a godly guy will respect and love you more then he will seek to earn your affection and that’s when the romance comes in.

The time for mating (having sex) is when you are married; ALL forms of sex should be kept out of dating and saved for marriage only. That’s what God commands and what’s best for us; sex outside of marriage clouds our judgment, burdens us with emotional baggage and can lead to unnecessary hardships like an STD or an unplanned pregnancy. God created sex to be sacred and when we do it his way (in marriage) it will be amazing!

Ladies, decide you’re worth waiting for; don’t’ get swept up in the dating craze
and don’t let past mistakes keep you from making a fresh start. You can do it!

I'm A Witch Cuz That's What I Am

Continued from Not Even God Can Help Me Pt2

Response: answer me something y did u request to be my friend? cuz u think i need help or be cuz u think u used to be like me............n im not spiritually looking for crap.............n im not a witch cuz i think that a spell will fill in the VOID in my heart. that is who i am.............and do yourself a favor stop acting like your doing Gods work. as if u can make a difference in someones life...............cuz some may take it worse then i did..............oh and another thing if i wanted your help i would of looked for it or asked for it................peace

Reply: We randomly friend requests girls letting them know that WeUsed2bu Girl Advice site exist and we're here if they need advice or encouragement. It's up to the girls to accept or not. You accepted and then began inquiring. So I must respond, especially when someone says that they’re too far away that not even God can help. You wanted to know what God’s plan for your life is, so I told you.

Yes, I do think I used to be like you. I had my own dark side and walls around my heart that I used to keep people out. I did not trust easily and I did not want to know about God. My life has not been easy because I was so stubborn.

Being a witch is not who you were meant to be. God has a better plan for you. This is a very destruction path that you are on. Those who follow the path of the magic arts are on a road that leads away from God. In one way or another, the end will be disaster. There was an evil Queen Jezebel who practiced witchcraft (2 Kings 9:22) bringing catastrophe on herself and all Israel. Over and over, God denounces those who "conjure spells" and those who practice witchcraft and sorcery. The Bible says that anyone who does these things is detestable to the Lord (Deuteronomy 18:10-12; 2 Kings 21:6; Micah 5:12; Isaiah 47:12; Ezekiel 13:18, 20; Acts 8:11-24; Leviticus 20:27; Exodus 7:11; Revelation 9:21; 22:15).

On your page I saw a little banner that gave me hope to keep pressing forward. It says, “Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.” I know that by sharing the love of Christ Jesus, God will use me to make a difference in other people’s lives.

I’m here for you if you need me..

Trophy of Grace


Have a question or topic idea?
Read Scriptures by Subject
Read our counselors' testimonies

He's Choosing Drugs Over Me Part 2

Continued from He's Choosing Durgs Over Me Part 1...

Response:
Thank you. But we always argue about it when we talk about it. I don't want to leave him I really don't. I have given him everything if you know what I mean!? i can't leave him. I don't have the strength to.

Answer:
It sounds like you are idolizing him. God should be your everything! You are clean and sober and he needs to respect that. You conquered your drug addiction and now you need to move on. As long as you have him, you will be constantly tempted to use again.

I remember leaving my husband because i didn't want my girls around drugs or the behavior. It pained me to hear them cry for their daddy. They were too young to understand. Don't let this happen to you.

You can do everything through Jesus Christ who strengthens you! You just have to believe and have faith. Pray to Him for the help you need and He'll be there. He is with you always.
Love,
Daughter of Destiny

Response:
Are you saying he isn't the right guy for me?

Answer:
What Im saying is this:
God has a plan for you. He's been mapping out your life since you were in your mother's womb. He knows the desires of your heart. If you seek Him first, He will bless you with the rest. God intended love to be patient, kind, understanding, and trusting. He created a man that serves and longs to please Him. This man will honor you and lift you up when your down. He will respect your opinion, feelings and beliefs. I'm telling you to pray about it. Really seek God out. Seek Him and He will revel Himself to you. You are not alone in this. Jesus is always knocking on the doors of our heart. Just let him in.
Love,
Daughter of Destiny

Have a question or topic idea?
Read Scriptures by Subject
Read our counselors' testimonies

I Need Help With My Brother

Hey Girls,
I have a brother that goes through a lot and I try to talk to him about God but it seems like he doesn't want to listen. Sometimes he feels like he wants to commit suicide but he doesn't. I do care about him. What should I do? I think he's gotten therapy. I just wanna know should I continue to talk to him about God and pray for him? He's not on drugs he's only 15. Thanks for your answer..

Response..
For a lot of people, its easier to share our faith with total strangers than someone we know and respect. An easy way to do it is to speak about your own testimony. Rom. 14:12
Share with your brother an example of how God helped you through a situation and because of Him you are freed from that.

Sometimes they don’t receive that message and continue to turn from what your telling them. Know that through you the Holy Spirit speaks and pulls the strings of their heart. Jesus stands at the door knocking always. Revelation 3:20

Continue to pray for them. Our God is a faithful God and always knows the desires of our hearts. He will come through. There are 640 recorded prayers in the bible and 450 answered ones! Remember that prayer has no limits or boundaries. God is always listening. Psalms 65:5

As far as hurting himself, he might be in a situation that he feels helpless in. This may be the only relief that he may think will help. Or the situation may seem impossible for him to get out of. I’m sure he doesn’t want to die as much as he wants to escape what is really going on. At that moment dying may be his only way out. This is all the more reason to continue to pray and continue to talk to him about the love God has for Him.

I’m going to search for some sites that will help you with your brother and help him with his suicide threats. We will be praying for you as always!

The Bible on Suicide

With Love,
Daughter of Destiny


Posted By Daughter of Destiny