Should I Forgive Others That Treat Me Wrong?

MySpace Friend writes..

Hello, it's me again. I have a question for u to ask so here i go. Lets say that I have a family member that I know most of my life and treats me bad, like not physical but emotional. I feel like I am not good enough. Even he says that I am not college material or I am not going to make it in school. I am enrolled as a full-time student to be become a RN so I took some honor classes while I was in high school the last four yrs. I was second in my class, involved in school events, never been in trouble in school and always called myself a bookworm because I study mostly everyday if i can, so "What kind of person treat me this way?" I pray about it many times and i forgive him but he keeps on say it when he gets mad at me for no reason. sometimes, i hurts to say. i don't know what to do? pray? God has a plan for everyone that i going to do well in the future?

Trophy of Grace responds

Don’t believe the lies that are being fed to you. If you apply yourself and diligently pursue your education you will achieve your goal. Don’t allow anyone to tell you different and hold you back with negative comments. They are meant to hold you back. If you believe these lies then you fulfill what has been spoken over you.

You remember what this scripture says now and always. God wants you to know this and believe it with all of your heart.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

The Lord has great things planned for your life. When we seek Him first, His will, and His way of doing things He will bless us above and beyond what we could ever ask Him for. You just have to believe what God’s Word says about you. Do not believe the words of those that persecute you.

There will be people that will put us down and say terrible things that are not true. That is when you have to allow the Word of God to rise up in your spirit and be the Truth that you receive no matter what.

Pray for this family member. Pray for God’s mercy on him. It is terrible what he is doing to you. He is obviously going through his own thing and needs someone to pray for him. So yes..pray for him with all of your heart.

The Lord wants us to pray for our enemies and those that persecute us because He does not want us to carry unforgiveness and bitterness in our hearts. When we can pray for God’s mercy and grace on our enemies our Lord accepts this sacrifice with so much joy. He knows that it is not easy to pray for those that are hurting us. Just think how He must have felt when they tortured Him and hung Him on that cross, but He still prayed for our heavenly Father to forgive them because they did not know what they were doing and to whom they were doing it.

We have to follow that example, but we can not do this in our strength. It is by the power of the Holy Spirit that we can do it. It is by knowing the Word and having Jesus’ Spirit living in us that we have the power and ability to do all things that He has called us to do. He has called you to forgive and pray for your enemies. He will give you the ability to do it. Trust Him..

One last thing..If you are a Christian then you need to know who you are in Christ Jesus. Once you know who you are in Christ then you will be confident and courageous. Read this article:

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My Dad Threatened Violence Against My Boyfriend

Anonymous writes… ok heres my question my boyfriend when he was 17 had a relationship with a girl who was 13 he got in trouble for it. but came out of that a strong Christian and a better person. i am very much in love with him i plan to marry him. the problem is my father (im 20 years old by the way)he is a reserve cop and because of my boyfriend's past has threatened violence against him if he enters the house. my father is not a Christian. i feel that god has led me to my boyfriend and that he is the one i was meant for. he strengthens me and has helped me in times when i have doubted my own faith. i haven't had the easiest life myself i lived in a house of abuse in LA with my mom and her husband for six years until i was 18 and able to move in with my father. i continue to pray for strength to get me through this. i dont understand my fathers anger because my boyfriend has never been any thing other than kind and polite to any member of my family. nor has his family who are strong Christian people. i would love some advise HELP

Saved by Faith replies… Everyone has sinned in their life, and in doing so, many have paid their debt for these consequences. I know many people, including some of my relatives, that went into prison as one person and came out serving the Lord. In accepting Jesus Christ into our lives gives us a clean heart and a new spirit within us. As Christians we must not judge, and we learn to forgive and forget… but that cannot be said for those not of the faith; and this is where your father lies.

Your dad is trying to protect you out of his unconditional love for you. As a parent, we pray that our children find a love that is perfect in every way, even though we know that no one is perfect (with the exception of Jesus Christ). Your dad wants the best for you and is blinded by the past hardships that your boyfriend has experienced. He does not see the diamond in the rough.

Luke 6:37
"Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.

Deuteronomy 1:17
Do not show partiality in judging; hear both small and great alike. Do not be afraid of any man, for judgment belongs to God. Bring me any case too hard for you, and I will hear it.

Job 5:2
Resentment kills a fool, and envy slays the simple.

I know how difficult it is to be in a relationship that others don’t approve of. If it’s a sound, Christian relationship, you must endure the trials. You have to remain strong and continue to pray that your father will see him in the same light that you see him… as a devoted Christian, set in a new way of life; someone that loves God and is serving Him; as a man that loves you. Try to break the wall your father has built; try different approaches to speak to him in a loving manner. At the same time, let the bond you & your boyfriend have continue to run its coarse as a Christian valued relationship… it will emit the grandeur of our Lord.

Continue to pray for the strength and pray for your father… pray that his hardened heart melts to one of love and acceptance. Pray that he finds the Lord and is able to release this resentment.

Ephesians 1:18-20
I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength.

Saved By Faith

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I Want To Be Saved

MySpace Friend asks: How did you become saved? I always have wanted to be saved, but there's this thing that I've been doing and its hard me to stop.

Response: Well..I have been saved for about 13 years, but I was not surrendered to the Lord. When I realized that my life was a mess and that I was on the wrong path I knew that I needed a Savior. I asked Jesus to be my Savior but I did not start really having a relationship with Him until I was sentenced to prison almost 12 years ago. I started reading the bible alot and I realized that God had good plans for me and that I could be a new and different person with His help and Holy Spirit. You can read my story in our blog section on our myspace..or you can click this link.. http://weused2bu.blogspot.com/2008/05/tropy-of-graces-testimony.html

As far you wanting to be saved..All you have to do is believe, repent, and confess Jesus and you will be saved.

If you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. (Romans 10:9-10, 1 John 1:9)

As far as whatever is keeping you from accepting Jesus. You will find that as you learn to know God more by reading His Word, praying, and going to church; you will learn to love Him. Loving Him will make you want to obey Him. Plus He gives you the power to obey Him and the way out of temptation when we feel like we just can't resist it. (1 Corinthians 10:13) Don't let anything stop you from coming to Jesus. One day He will return for His people to take them away and save them from the judgement that is going to come upon this wicked and sinful world. You don't want to be left behind..trust me..

Sincerely,

Trophy of Grace


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Insults, Rumors & Gossip

Written by: Saved By Faith

“Did you hear? ...”
“You didn’t hear it from me but…”
“Someone told me that….”

We’ve all been there before, either saying it or listening to it. Gossiping, exchanging stories, talking about someone, whatever you want to call it. But what exactly did you get from it? Do you still see that person the same way, without judging them? Can that information be used to lift them up? Or did it damage their reputation? Hurt them? Or maybe hurt you?

… Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me…

We’ve all been here before too but how true is this statement? Let’s break this down:

Sticks and stones may break my bones… very true. That pain fades and the wounds eventually heal.

… but names will never hurt me… not true. Name calling or negative comments affect someone much longer than a cut, scrape or bruise. All it takes is for someone to say something negative, a sarcastic remark, discouraging word for us to be knocked down. It only takes one word to put a hole in your heart. For example, Karen Carpenter (from the popular 1970s duo, the Carpenters) died from anorexia at 32. Her obsession with her weight started after an article called her “Richard’s chubby sister.” 1 word had impacted her life and brought her to an early death.

What a lot of people don’t realize is that speaking badly to/about someone and gossiping, are sins. The bible clearly states that one of the steps we must take in order to stay rooted in His word is watching what or how we speak.

Proverbs 10:19
“Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.”

Proverbs 15:4
“Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.”

Our mouth is a weapon to be used with God’s intention – to uplift one another! To speak the Word, give Him praise, and share our testimonies with others. He did not intend for us to use our words to hurt one another, rather as a sword to cut at the enemy’s attacks. In this time of battle we must choose our words wisely. As Christians it is our responsibility to uplift our brothers and sisters, sharing in the joys that our beloved Father has given us. Rejoice in the Lord! Speak of His goodness! Help bring others to Him, leaving all insecurities, negativity, and problems at His feet.

Proverbs: 16:24
"Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones".

Please read: Psalm 34:13, Psalm 39:1, Proverb 13:3, Proverb 15:4, Proverb17:20, Proverb21:23, 2 Timothy 2:16

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All have sinned and deserve God's judgment. God, the Father, sent His only Son to satisfy that judgment for those who believe in Him.

Jesus, the creator and eternal Son of God, who lived a sinless life, loves us so much that He died for our sins, taking the punishment that we deserve, was buried, and rose from the dead according to the Bible.

If you truly believe and trust this in your heart, receiving Jesus alone as your Savior, declaring, "Jesus is Lord," you will be saved from judgment and spend eternity with God in heaven.

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