Should I Forgive Others That Treat Me Wrong?

MySpace Friend writes..

Hello, it's me again. I have a question for u to ask so here i go. Lets say that I have a family member that I know most of my life and treats me bad, like not physical but emotional. I feel like I am not good enough. Even he says that I am not college material or I am not going to make it in school. I am enrolled as a full-time student to be become a RN so I took some honor classes while I was in high school the last four yrs. I was second in my class, involved in school events, never been in trouble in school and always called myself a bookworm because I study mostly everyday if i can, so "What kind of person treat me this way?" I pray about it many times and i forgive him but he keeps on say it when he gets mad at me for no reason. sometimes, i hurts to say. i don't know what to do? pray? God has a plan for everyone that i going to do well in the future?

Trophy of Grace responds

Don’t believe the lies that are being fed to you. If you apply yourself and diligently pursue your education you will achieve your goal. Don’t allow anyone to tell you different and hold you back with negative comments. They are meant to hold you back. If you believe these lies then you fulfill what has been spoken over you.

You remember what this scripture says now and always. God wants you to know this and believe it with all of your heart.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

The Lord has great things planned for your life. When we seek Him first, His will, and His way of doing things He will bless us above and beyond what we could ever ask Him for. You just have to believe what God’s Word says about you. Do not believe the words of those that persecute you.

There will be people that will put us down and say terrible things that are not true. That is when you have to allow the Word of God to rise up in your spirit and be the Truth that you receive no matter what.

Pray for this family member. Pray for God’s mercy on him. It is terrible what he is doing to you. He is obviously going through his own thing and needs someone to pray for him. So yes..pray for him with all of your heart.

The Lord wants us to pray for our enemies and those that persecute us because He does not want us to carry unforgiveness and bitterness in our hearts. When we can pray for God’s mercy and grace on our enemies our Lord accepts this sacrifice with so much joy. He knows that it is not easy to pray for those that are hurting us. Just think how He must have felt when they tortured Him and hung Him on that cross, but He still prayed for our heavenly Father to forgive them because they did not know what they were doing and to whom they were doing it.

We have to follow that example, but we can not do this in our strength. It is by the power of the Holy Spirit that we can do it. It is by knowing the Word and having Jesus’ Spirit living in us that we have the power and ability to do all things that He has called us to do. He has called you to forgive and pray for your enemies. He will give you the ability to do it. Trust Him..

One last thing..If you are a Christian then you need to know who you are in Christ Jesus. Once you know who you are in Christ then you will be confident and courageous. Read this article:

Do You Really Know Who You Are?

Garbage In Garbage Out

Written by: Conduit of Truth

Do Not Destroy Your Heart With Your Own Eyes

Be careful of what you intake through the eyes; such as looking at immoral magazines, indecent pictures, bad ideas and immoral movies and stories. There are some magazines, books, and movies that will instill doubt about your beliefs. There are some that will create images that can lead one astray. When faced with such reading material and movies ask yourself, “Will the information in this book/movie/magazine help me to be a better person? Will it help me to reach my goals? Will it draw me closer to Jesus?” If your answer is no, then why waste your time?

Use your time to read positive stimulating books. Read your bible often. It has an example of every life experience that you hope to go through and more.

Do Not Destroy Your Heart With Your Own Mind

One tends to become what you feed your mind. If you eat junk food all the time your body will soon show it. The mind works the same way. If you feed your mind with thoughts of evil, then it will produce evil actions. Immoral stories or movies will lead to immoral actions. This is a situation of garbage in and garbage out. In the bible in the book of Philippians it speaks of how your mind set should be. It says finally brethren what so ever things are true, what so ever things are honest, what so ever things are just, what so ever things are pure, what so ever things are lovely, what so ever things of good report, if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise think on these things. (Philippians 4:4-8)

Do Not Destroy Your Life With Friends That Will Pull You Down

It is said that birds of a feather flock together. Be careful of those you call friends. Do not hang around with ones that display bad attitudes, gives wrong advice, speaks against authority, and those with thoughts of evil and not of good. If you run with losers then you will become a loser on the run.

On the other hand associate yourself with the doers, achievers, and the positive life wires and you will stay motivated with love and peace of mind to do good for yourself and for others around you.

Words

Whatever your mouth says the most,
Whatever your eyes see the most,
Whatever your ear hears the most,
Will be what you heart stores the most.

The words stored in your heart will be your life.
Your life is in your heart.
So be careful about what goes in your ear,
Or, what comes out of your mouth.

What you hear
What you see
What you say
Is that what you are right now?
Are you really who you are?

By: PJ Schloss

Insults, Rumors & Gossip

Written by: Saved By Faith

“Did you hear? ...”
“You didn’t hear it from me but…”
“Someone told me that….”

We’ve all been there before, either saying it or listening to it. Gossiping, exchanging stories, talking about someone, whatever you want to call it. But what exactly did you get from it? Do you still see that person the same way, without judging them? Can that information be used to lift them up? Or did it damage their reputation? Hurt them? Or maybe hurt you?

… Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me…

We’ve all been here before too but how true is this statement? Let’s break this down:

Sticks and stones may break my bones… very true. That pain fades and the wounds eventually heal.

… but names will never hurt me… not true. Name calling or negative comments affect someone much longer than a cut, scrape or bruise. All it takes is for someone to say something negative, a sarcastic remark, discouraging word for us to be knocked down. It only takes one word to put a hole in your heart. For example, Karen Carpenter (from the popular 1970s duo, the Carpenters) died from anorexia at 32. Her obsession with her weight started after an article called her “Richard’s chubby sister.” 1 word had impacted her life and brought her to an early death.

What a lot of people don’t realize is that speaking badly to/about someone and gossiping, are sins. The bible clearly states that one of the steps we must take in order to stay rooted in His word is watching what or how we speak.

Proverbs 10:19
“Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.”

Proverbs 15:4
“Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.”

Our mouth is a weapon to be used with God’s intention – to uplift one another! To speak the Word, give Him praise, and share our testimonies with others. He did not intend for us to use our words to hurt one another, rather as a sword to cut at the enemy’s attacks. In this time of battle we must choose our words wisely. As Christians it is our responsibility to uplift our brothers and sisters, sharing in the joys that our beloved Father has given us. Rejoice in the Lord! Speak of His goodness! Help bring others to Him, leaving all insecurities, negativity, and problems at His feet.

Proverbs: 16:24
"Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones".

Please read: Psalm 34:13, Psalm 39:1, Proverb 13:3, Proverb 15:4, Proverb17:20, Proverb21:23, 2 Timothy 2:16