My Ex Never Got Rid of the Indecent Pictures & Video of Me

Anonymous Wrote: Sister, I need your help and prayers. I was in a relationship with a guy for a year and in that year I also became a Christian. As a new believer, I did not listen to God as much as I should have. As a result, I ended up emailing my ex bf undesirable pictures and a video of me. It's been roughly a year since we broke up and we still occasionally talk. Recently I accidentally discovered a message he sent his friend about still having those files on his email and computer. I was terrified. I thought he had deleted them but I was deceived. How should I go about confronting him about it? Should I talk to him about it in person? How should I go about it? Please help me. I pray that God will erase my past sins and forgive my sinful deeds so that I made me made pure and innocent again.

Saved By Faith Replies:
Proverbs 5:21, “For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord.”

We know that God sees our heart, thoughts, and motives. He knows us from head to toe but in spite of that, God still says, “I will remember their sin no more.”
Bring your sins to Him and He will forgive AND forget.

“…and will not remember thy sins.” Isaiah 43:25.

“I will remember their sin no more.” Jeremiah 31:34.

“Their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more.” Hebrews 8:12.

If we’re saved, God has not only forgiven us of our sins but He’s also washed them in His own blood and has forgotten them. It is then upon us to forgive ourselves and not carry our sins around with us.

With that peace of mind, knowing how much our Lord loves us and how He’s forgiven us of our inequities and washed them away, we can now talk about your problem…

I think you should ask your ex to get rid of the pictures/videos. Don’t make it an argument or debate or heated discussion. Clearly let him know that you are a new person and would like him to respect the person you are NOW and delete the files. If he chooses to keep them then there’s nothing you can do; at least you made an effort to speak to him. At the end of the day, you know you are a new person in Christ. You know that God has forgiven you for your past indiscretions. Your past isn’t going to disappear. And might, at times, come back to haunt you. But it’s up to you to rise above that and remember that you brought your sins to God and ARE a new person in Christ!!!

I will pray for you as well.

Lovingly,

Saved By Faith

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MySpacer Responds..

My ex is always saying he's going to hell and there's no god. He wants to go there anyhow. If he doesn't want to embrace God or go to heaven he won't...will he? I've prayed for change in his life. I've prayed that God enters his soul and lets him see light. So far, I haven't seen anything different in him. I do hope he changes, but not for me...I want him to change for himself. How do I let go of all of this anger and resentment? I want to, but it's very hard for me. So lets say I do forgive him, and I personally tell him I want him to be happy and live a great fulfilling life. Does that mean I need to see him, or let him see the baby and I? I mean he hasn't done anything for either of us, and I don't want him to see our son...he doesn't even try. I guess what i'm trying to get at is can i forgive him and move on without letting him see the baby he does nothing for?

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Hi,

I just read your message but I am getting ready to head out to visit some family. I have so much that I want to say to you. There is a Way that you can get through this and have the answers that you need, but I will tell you all about that later.For now please visit www.consecratedtohim.com . I have alot of articles on there that can help you.However it's most important first that you see this video http://consecratedtohim.blogspot.com/2008/06/kirk-cameron-john-macarthur-on.html .I will hit you up later. Once I can give you my full undivided attention.

Love,

Trophy of Grace

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My Space friend replies..

wow...i cant believe there is actually someone out there who is helping me thru all of this. thank you so much. God bless
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Trophy of Grace response to question..

I’m sorry to hear that your ex wants to go to hell. I’m sure he really has no idea what he is truly saying. That is obviously coming from the fact that he says that he doesn’t believe in God. The bible says that only a fool says in his heart that there is no God. (Psalm 14:1) In response to your first question, yes. He will not go to heaven if he continues to reject God. You are doing the right thing by praying for him. Even if you do not see a change right away you keep on praying.

Question #2 you asked, “How do I let go of all this anger and resentment?”

I know it’s hard, but you have to forgive him if you want to be free from this anger and resentment. Perhaps you feel like he doesn’t deserve it or he hasn’t earned your forgiveness. That’s where mercy comes in. If you are not merciful to others and willing to forgive then God will not forgive you either.

All of us need forgiveness. We are sinners. Everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. (Romans 3:23) All of us are guilty of breaking God’s laws. If God were to judge us by the 10 commandments we would be found guilty. (Exodus 20:3-17) The bible says that if we break one law then we are guilty of them all.

That’s why Jesus died on the cross for us, so that we can be saved from God’s wrath and anger. Jesus did no wrong, never sinned, but died a cruel death because he wanted to save us. Now we can have God’s forgiveness, even though we don’t deserve it.

Romans 10:9-10That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved. 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

In order for you to be merciful and forgive your ex you have to understand that God has been merciful to you and receive His forgiveness. If you will believe in Jesus, repent of your sins, and confess Jesus is Lord God will forgive you. He will cleanse you and renew you. He will help you heal from the hurt and pain that you have in your heart. You won’t want to have that bitterness and anger in your heart because you will find that it hinders your relationship with God and others.

When you give your life to Jesus He will restructure it and help you make wise decisions. He will guide you and lead you every day. This wisdom and direction is found in the bible. You have to read the bible daily and allow God’s Word to renew your thinking. That old thinking has to go.

Do you let him see the baby? That is his son no matter what, even if he doesn’t support him. I personally do not believe in denying anyone their child. If he wants to see the baby I think you should let him. He may not be the best father, but he is the father. Set up a schedule for him to see the baby, even if it’s supervised visits. God will honor your sacrifice.

I am praying for you.

In Christ love,

Trophy of Grace

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The Good-O-Meter

Roots

Written by: Blessed and Highly Favored

As I was walking in my business the other morning, I looked down and noticed a little ant trail along the front window. Darn IT! I spray and spray and still they come back! OK, with all the rain, they just want to be in a safe place near some food; BUT NOT IN MY SHOP!

I walked in, set down my bag, turned on the lights, and grabbed the bug spray. I sprayed from one end of the store to the other, along the windows and to my neighbors’ store. As I was doing this, I made a mental note to get some weed killer. There are not a lot of them, just a few in the hairline cracks in the cement, but enough to make it look, well, not like I want it.

Then the Lord spoke to me, “See that little weed that is pushing its way out of that little tiny crack? It looks like it would be impossible for anything to grow there, but there is enough of an environment to allow the tiniest of a weed seed to thrive. Sin is like that. The seed of sin lies dormant until the right conditions allow it to grow. You passed by it everyday, not giving it a second thought, but I knew it was there growing, pushing its’ way out, not satisfied with being in darkness any longer. Sin in one area of your life will ALWAYS push its way into other areas. What is hidden will ALWAYS come to the surface. Your sin will find you out – Numbers 32:23.”

What’s the big deal about a little weed an inch in length??? It won’t stay that way!!!!! It’ll continue to grow until something stops it. Allowed to flower and bloom, it’ll give way to more seed affecting the environment around it.

It’s the cracks in our character that allows the sin weed to grow. We may fool the world, but inside the roots of unforgiveness, hatred, confusion, perversity, pride, etc., strangle our hearts and stunt our growth. So much so, we start to pull away from G-d because of our sin. And don’t think for a moment that once you’ve removed the evidence of the “sin weed” that it’s gone! NO! The root has to be dealt with, and pulled out of you. That’s where the Holy Spirit opens your heart (imagine open-heart surgery), and gets to work removing it inch by inch. But only if you allow Him to do that in that dark place.

We always have to guard our hearts not to allow the same stupid “sin seed” a chance to grow again. We are so much worse off when we deceive ourselves into such nonsense. Jesus said in Matthew 12: 43-45, “When an unclean spirit goes out of a man (or woman), he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none. Then he says, “I will return to my house from which I came.” And when he comes, he finds it empty, swept, and put in order. Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man (or woman) is worse than the first. So shall it be with this wicked generation.”

Sin seed is always being thrown at us. Shake it off and give it no place in your life for it to grow. Allow the Lord Jesus Christ to fill you, and show you the kind of person He wants you to be. Walk free, live free, and be free.

My Friend Is Hitting On Me

Anonymous wrote... im confused about my sexuality.... i believe in Jesus christ i am a good christian girl n i go 2 church im a virgin but mi bestfriend is coming onto me n fillin my head with sexual unpure thoughts n shes already tried to kiss me n... i dont no wut to do....

Answer...
Someone that is trying to fill your head with impure thoughts and has tried to take advantage of you at a moment of weakness is NOT a friend! Being a Christian, knowing and following the word of Christ means you have to see the enemy's temptations and steer away from them.

Although homosexuality has become more and more acceptable to society, it is still wicked in the sight of God. It is a lust forbidden by God.

Deuteronomy 22:5
1 Corinthians 6:9-10
Leviticus 18:22

When God created man and woman He intended that we respect the differences He made between male and female.

Genesis 2:24
Matthew 19:4-6

I think this "friend" isn't really your friend and you should distance yourself from this. Express your Christian values to her and step away from this situation.

I will pray for you to have strength and a clear mind to come out of this victorious.

Saved By Faith

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He Wants Me To Become A Polygamist Pt2

Girls' Reply: thank you so much i will do my best to leave and find another place to stay and if you will please keep me in your prayers

1 Blessed is he
whose transgressions are forgiven,
whose sins are covered.
2 Blessed is the man
whose sin the LORD does not count against him
and in whose spirit is no deceit.

3 When I kept silent,
my bones wasted away
through my groaning all day long.

4 For day and night
your hand was heavy upon me;
my strength was sapped
as in the heat of summer.

5 Then I acknowledged my sin to you
and did not cover up my iniquity.
I said, "I will confess
my transgressions to the LORD "—
and you forgave
the guilt of my sin.

6 Therefore let everyone who is godly pray to you
while you may be found;
surely when the mighty waters rise,
they will not reach him.

7 You are my hiding place;
you will protect me from trouble
and surround me with songs of deliverance.

8 I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go;
I will counsel you and watch over you.

9 Do not be like the horse or the mule,
which have no understanding
but must be controlled by bit and bridle
or they will not come to you.

10 Many are the woes of the wicked,
but the LORD's unfailing love
surrounds the man who trusts in him.

11 Rejoice in the LORD and be glad, you righteous;
sing, all you who are upright in heart!

Psalm 32

Response: thanks. I needed that.

Lovingly,

Saved by Faith

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He Wants Me To Become A Polygamist Pt1

QUESTION: k heres the thing i have a boyfriend and he wants me to be polygamist and i really dont believe in that and he doesn’t want to be with me if i am not that and i love him and if i do leave him i have no place to go i will be homeless what do i do i am so confused do i stay with him so i can have a place to stay or tell him that i do not believe that and move on and just be homeless please help me

ANSWER:
RUN AWAY FROM THIS SITUATION AND DON’T LOOK BACK!! Get away from this man. It sounds like he’s trying to take advantage of you because he knows that you have nowhere to go. Don’t allow yourself to be trapped in this immoral sin.
You are not a piece of meat. Don’t allow you to be used and abused by men.

I realize that you may be scared b/c you have nowhere to go, but pray to God for help. The Lord knows your fears and he sees your tears. He will help you if you will humble yourself before Him.

Do you have any friends or family you can call that are willing to help you? I know you may not want to go to a shelter but you cannot stay in this situation. If you give into his request, you might find yourself deep into a situation that you might not be able to get out of so easily.

1 Corinthians 6:18 reads that we are to “flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.”

Our body is a temple; a home for the Holy Spirit that lives within us. God doesn’t want us to be dirty minded and full of lust, but to be holy and clean. “Therefore, anyone who refuses to live by these rules is not disobeying human teaching but is rejecting God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.” (1 Thessalonians 4:8)

So I plead with you, please don’t stay with him…


1 Corinthians 6:13-20
1 Thessalonians 4:1-10

We will keep you in our prayers.

Sincerely,

Saved by Faith

continued... He Wants Me To Become A Polygamist Pt2

He's Dating 2 of My Friends

Helplessindahill wrote... Ok so i have this friend,best friend, and she was talking to me on the phone. We were planning to go see Batman this friday. Ne way she says "u kno i GO OUT with _______ now?" I was kind of bothered by this because this guy also goes out with my god sister.(my friend doesn't know about her) I had just seen them 2gether the day b4. B4 he got saved and started playing drums and keyboard for my church, he was known to be a player...my question is should i say ne thing to ne body or should i jus sit back and watch him play my god sister like that. She really REALLY likes him and has given up an education at a very well known HBCU in order to stay home closer to him, and he's tryin to go back to his old ways and play her. I want to kno what to do because my old self would of just put him on BLAST so every one would kno what he was doin. But now that i'm saved, i dk how 2 handle the situation!!!! HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! I can't just sit here and watch him play my best friend and my god sis....HELP!!!

Answer... I think the best way for you to handle this situation is by speaking with him directly. Let him know that you’re aware he’s dating both girls and give him the opportunity to handle the situation. If he doesn’t address it in a timely manner then speak with you’re best friend and God sister.

Remember not to address him with a judgemental attitude but remind him that, as part of the Praise and Worship Team, he is called to set an example.

Make sure you pray before you speak with him, that God will give you the words to speak and that He will touch his heart to receive your words.

1 Corinthians 5:12

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I Don't Think I Am Wrong! Pt1

Question..I am gay and I was wondering would that affect the way you look at me? Don't lie because God doesn't like ugly!

Answer..Absolutely not!! I do not look at you any different. I look at you through the love, grace, and mercy God has put in my heart. The only thing I see is a beautiful woman that is deceived by the enemy and trapped in bondage.

When I decided to do this ministry I knew that there would be people that have different beliefs, principles, and life styles than I do. I am not here to judge any one. My heavenly Father has given me a heart to love others. Like God, I hate sin because it only leads to destruction and death. I don't discriminate, to me, sin is sin. I especially do not like the sin of homosexuality and lesbianism because its not what God has created us for. Its goes against the laws of marriage.

I know that Jesus died for all sinners and all sin can be washed away by His blood. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives. The only thing we must do is believe in Jesus Christ, confess from our mouth that he is Lord, and we will be saved.

I will always be here to serve you, in the love of Christ, regardless of your sexuality.

Sincerely,

Trophy of Grace

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Part 2 - I Don't Think I'm Wrong Pt 2
Part 3 - I Don't Think I'm Wrong Pt3
Part 4 - I Don't Think I'm Wrong Pt4


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In A Relationship for 3 years, But I Like Girls

B asks..Let me tell you my situation. I have a boy friend that I have been with for 3years and I love him so much. We have a baby girl and she is my world, but I also like girls. I mean I really do a whole lot and I dont know what to do?

Answer..In your heart you must know that being a lebsian is not God's will for your life. He designed you to be with a man. That is why he blessed you with that beautiful baby. These desires are not ones that you were born with no matter how far back they go. This is an issue that many girls & women struggle with today. You are not alone. Society has made it seem like homosexual behavior is acceptable and normal. It is not..God has a better plan for your life.

If you surrender your life, your will, and your desires to Jesus he will make you a new creature. He can make you a vessel of honor if you let him, but you have got to seek God's help on this. My suggestion would be for you to pray-talk directly to God about these desires. He is faithful to hear our prayers. He wants to listen to you. He will give you all of the resources and guidance you need to defeat this temptation. I know you want help or else you would not have asked.

There is a website called Exodus International. They are the largest information and referral ministry in the world addressing homosexual isses. Here is a link where you can read real stories of other women who have battled the spirit of homosexuality. Take a moment and read some the stories and you will see that you are not alone. http://exodus.to/content/blogcategory/25/148/

One of my favorite scriptures is 1 Corinthians 10:13 and I love the way it reads in my bible because it reminds me that I am not alone in the temptations that I fight. It says, "But remember this-the wrong desires that come into your life aren't anything new and different. Many others have faced exactly the same problems before you. And no temptation is irresistible. You can trust God to keep the temptation from becoming so strong that you can't stand up against it; for he has promised this and will do what he says. He will show you how to escape temptation's power so that you can bear up patiently against it."I hope this helps..I will be praying for you.

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