(Continued from Baby Daddy Drama)
MySpacer Responds..
My ex is always saying he's going to hell and there's no god. He wants to go there anyhow. If he doesn't want to embrace God or go to heaven he won't...will he? I've prayed for change in his life. I've prayed that God enters his soul and lets him see light. So far, I haven't seen anything different in him. I do hope he changes, but not for me...I want him to change for himself. How do I let go of all of this anger and resentment? I want to, but it's very hard for me. So lets say I do forgive him, and I personally tell him I want him to be happy and live a great fulfilling life. Does that mean I need to see him, or let him see the baby and I? I mean he hasn't done anything for either of us, and I don't want him to see our son...he doesn't even try. I guess what i'm trying to get at is can i forgive him and move on without letting him see the baby he does nothing for?
>Trophy of Grace Replies:
Hi,
I just read your message but I am getting ready to head out to visit some family. I have so much that I want to say to you. There is a Way that you can get through this and have the answers that you need, but I will tell you all about that later.For now please visit www.consecratedtohim.com . I have alot of articles on there that can help you.However it's most important first that you see this video http://consecratedtohim.blogspot.com/2008/06/kirk-cameron-john-macarthur-on.html .I will hit you up later. Once I can give you my full undivided attention.
Love,
Trophy of Grace
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My Space friend replies..
wow...i cant believe there is actually someone out there who is helping me thru all of this. thank you so much. God bless
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Trophy of Grace response to question..
I’m sorry to hear that your ex wants to go to hell. I’m sure he really has no idea what he is truly saying. That is obviously coming from the fact that he says that he doesn’t believe in God. The bible says that only a fool says in his heart that there is no God. (Psalm 14:1) In response to your first question, yes. He will not go to heaven if he continues to reject God. You are doing the right thing by praying for him. Even if you do not see a change right away you keep on praying.
Question #2 you asked, “How do I let go of all this anger and resentment?”
I know it’s hard, but you have to forgive him if you want to be free from this anger and resentment. Perhaps you feel like he doesn’t deserve it or he hasn’t earned your forgiveness. That’s where mercy comes in. If you are not merciful to others and willing to forgive then God will not forgive you either.
All of us need forgiveness. We are sinners. Everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. (Romans 3:23) All of us are guilty of breaking God’s laws. If God were to judge us by the 10 commandments we would be found guilty. (Exodus 20:3-17) The bible says that if we break one law then we are guilty of them all.
That’s why Jesus died on the cross for us, so that we can be saved from God’s wrath and anger. Jesus did no wrong, never sinned, but died a cruel death because he wanted to save us. Now we can have God’s forgiveness, even though we don’t deserve it.
Romans 10:9-10That if you confess with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you confess and are saved. 1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.
In order for you to be merciful and forgive your ex you have to understand that God has been merciful to you and receive His forgiveness. If you will believe in Jesus, repent of your sins, and confess Jesus is Lord God will forgive you. He will cleanse you and renew you. He will help you heal from the hurt and pain that you have in your heart. You won’t want to have that bitterness and anger in your heart because you will find that it hinders your relationship with God and others.
When you give your life to Jesus He will restructure it and help you make wise decisions. He will guide you and lead you every day. This wisdom and direction is found in the bible. You have to read the bible daily and allow God’s Word to renew your thinking. That old thinking has to go.
Do you let him see the baby? That is his son no matter what, even if he doesn’t support him. I personally do not believe in denying anyone their child. If he wants to see the baby I think you should let him. He may not be the best father, but he is the father. Set up a schedule for him to see the baby, even if it’s supervised visits. God will honor your sacrifice.
I am praying for you.
In Christ love,
Trophy of Grace
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