Recently I have been asked for advice on relationships. I just felt so much sorrow for these women and young women involved in unhealthy and ungodly relationships. It has been weighing on me to write about strong healthy relationships with Christ as your foundation.
God created a perfect match for you. You don't have to worry about finding him. First you need to seek out God and He will do the rest. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33) A womens heart should be so lost in God that a man needs to seek Him in order to find her.
We need to know what kind of person we are getting into a relationship with before making a commitment. The most important thing is to find out if the person has been born again in the Spirit of Christ. God wants you to have a man that loves and serves Him. Does he have evidence of being a follower of Christ or does he act like the rest of the world? Why is this so important when finding a partner? This man will be so in love with God he will do everything that pleases God. He will honor, respect, cherish and adore you. He WILL NOT cheat, lie, hurt, and leave you abandoned. He will lift you up and hold you in your time of need. He will help strengthen your relationship with Christ. Also just think if you have children with an unbeliever or person of a different belief how confusing will it be for that child. Will your child be raised to love and fear the Lord? Or will your child repeat, suffer, or inflict the same hurt and pain that you once were in?
When you are in a committed relationship with someone, it is so important to remember to love the Lord above anyone else. When you say or believe that your “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” is your "everything" or the most important thing in your life, this is called idolatry. Your committing a sin. God tells us to put him first in everything we do. Jesus himself reinforced that when the disciples asked Him, "Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?" Jesus replied: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind." This is the first and greatest commandment. (Matthew 22:36-38)
I just got married almost two weeks ago. In this marriage there is three of us. My husband, myself, and Jesus Christ. We both know that this would fail if we did not both share in our belief, faith, and trust in Him. We did not always have smooth sailing. We had our ups and rock bottoms. We both committed sins against each other and hurt one another constantly. My husband surrendered to the Lord and he is a new creation in Christ. We love, honor, respect, each other. We are now more kind, patient, and understanding. We have learned the importance of listening and praying together. Now our love for one another shines for everyone to see.
I believe whole heartedly that this is the best way to secure a foundation for a healthy godly realtionship. It will benefit you greatly. If you do decide to marry make sure that Jesus is the foundation of your relationship. When two people marry, they cleave to one another and become one flesh, which should be permanent and inseparable through Christ.
Written By:
Daughter of Destiny
Jeremiah 1:5, Jeremiah 29-11, 2 Peter 2:20, John 3:3-8, Philippians 2:5, 2 Corinthians 6:14-15, Matthew 10:37, 1 Corinthians 6:9-13, 2 Timothy 2:22, 1 Corinthians 6:18, Romans 12:9-10, Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:5
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