Question:
hello! I'm going to go ahead and tell you my story! I hope you dont mind! im a small town girl, i graduated in December of 07. my best friend in 9th grade was a big influence on me. she was not a virgin and i was, i wanted to be like her and when i hung out with her she always had a boyfriend. the end of our ninth grade year we each dated senior for a month or so and i lost my virginity! i told myself not to hang around her because i knew i was getting myself into trouble but i did it anyways! the summer of my ninth grade year i met Kenny! i was so in love! we broke up two years later and last summer i met Kelly Fisher, he was a great friend and always made me smile. we had a lot in common and both were Christians! i told my mom that i thought i found a special guy! she was happy for me, and last year on the 4th of July we kissed. i didn't think he felt the same. we started dating and in august he cheated on me with his ex girlfriend. i was heart broken and he knew it. in December he called me and told me that his little sister wanted to see me and hang out with me(she is 6) it was Christmas eve and he asked me to go to church with him and his family also. he took me out on our first date since our break up, and we have been inseparable since then. he tells me that im his soul mate and he is sorry from the bottom of his heart. and swears he will never do it again! its hard to believe him but i love him. he is deploying in August and I'm scared for my life. I'm scared he is going to cheat again and i don't know what to think... can you help me?
Answer:
Yes we can help... so heres whats i think.. To me it sounds like he loves you very much and just really needs you to forgive him and trust him. Everyone can make a mistake. And if hes trying to please God give him a chance. I went thorough the same things. I'm married now (just 2 weeks) and when we were dating (for 8 years) my b/f hurt me several times. In fact we hurt each other. God touched our hearts and we dedicated our lives to Christ. He is now a wonderful man. We both repented and asked God for forgiveness. Please be quick to forgive. We are only human. I'm not telling you to let someone walk all over you, we must forgive and use wisdom in all our relationships. I know that its painful, I've been there. Sometimes forgiveness is hard to do. And to forget is even harder. But for the sake of this relationship to work you have to let it go. Pray for him as he goes off to serve his country. Pray that the Lord will keep him under the wings of angels and bring him home to you safely.. I will be praying for you here!
With love,
Daughter of Destiny
