Anonymous said...
I need advice… I am 23 years old and have been with my boyfriend for two years; he is my best friend and we have so much fun together when we aren’t fighting. We are both Christians and go to church every Sunday. He has a 4 year old son with another girl (which was upsetting for me because of her behavior towards me but we have gotten past that). He is satisfied with his relationship with God, even though he doesn't keep in His word (God's word) and only goes to church when I ask him to. I have trust issues with him because of what we went through with his ex in the past and the longer that we are together the harder it is for me to trust being so far from him (he lives an hour away). I know he loves me, he says he wants to marry me but we aren't obedient to God and although I am in charge of my own actions he does influence me a lot. On top of all that he doesn’t have his priorities straight, instead of paying off his bills he wants to put more money into his car. I wish he was more concerned about his career and his walk with God than tattoos and his car. I love him so much but I want to be with someone that loves God with all his heart. The fights we have tell me that maybe God doesn’t want us together but then again we have so much fun together. Should I stay in this relationship and trust God will help work things out or should I trust the tiny voice in my head telling me to just let go and move on?
I need advice… I am 23 years old and have been with my boyfriend for two years; he is my best friend and we have so much fun together when we aren’t fighting. We are both Christians and go to church every Sunday. He has a 4 year old son with another girl (which was upsetting for me because of her behavior towards me but we have gotten past that). He is satisfied with his relationship with God, even though he doesn't keep in His word (God's word) and only goes to church when I ask him to. I have trust issues with him because of what we went through with his ex in the past and the longer that we are together the harder it is for me to trust being so far from him (he lives an hour away). I know he loves me, he says he wants to marry me but we aren't obedient to God and although I am in charge of my own actions he does influence me a lot. On top of all that he doesn’t have his priorities straight, instead of paying off his bills he wants to put more money into his car. I wish he was more concerned about his career and his walk with God than tattoos and his car. I love him so much but I want to be with someone that loves God with all his heart. The fights we have tell me that maybe God doesn’t want us together but then again we have so much fun together. Should I stay in this relationship and trust God will help work things out or should I trust the tiny voice in my head telling me to just let go and move on?
Answer..My sweet sister in the Lord.. That tiny voice in your head is the Holy Spirit. He loves you so much. He has seen all you've gone thru in this relationship and like you said He is telling you to just let go and move on.
I would say based on everything that you have said you know what the right thing to do is. Be obedient to the leading of the Holy Spirit. He will never lead you the wrong way.
You know not everyone who says they are Christians are truly Christians. We are called to test the spirits. As Christians we are suppose have a personal relationship with Jesus, spend time with Him, read the Word, be doers of the Word, and go to church. Not because of a religion but because spending with Jesus reading the Word brings us knowledge and wisdom. This is how we become prepared for helping others and we become equipped to live a successful Christian life. We go to church because we need to be around other believers. Not only because they share the same faith, but because we need accountability. We need other strong believers to help us become strong too.
With all that being said..if the man you love is not doing the things above and claims to be a Christian..then he probably is not. God does not want us to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. He wants us to be with True Christians that love and serve Him.
Don't be lead by your emotions. Be lead by the Spirit of God. He knows what is best for you and has already put in your spirit what you should do. He will help you heal from this relationship. Trust me..the hurt won't last forever.
When you get a chance go to this link...
http://www.seekgod.org/bible/spiritguides.html
There are many scriptures there on the Guidance of the Holy Spirit...read them and be encouraged.
I would say based on everything that you have said you know what the right thing to do is. Be obedient to the leading of the Holy Spirit. He will never lead you the wrong way.
You know not everyone who says they are Christians are truly Christians. We are called to test the spirits. As Christians we are suppose have a personal relationship with Jesus, spend time with Him, read the Word, be doers of the Word, and go to church. Not because of a religion but because spending with Jesus reading the Word brings us knowledge and wisdom. This is how we become prepared for helping others and we become equipped to live a successful Christian life. We go to church because we need to be around other believers. Not only because they share the same faith, but because we need accountability. We need other strong believers to help us become strong too.
With all that being said..if the man you love is not doing the things above and claims to be a Christian..then he probably is not. God does not want us to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. He wants us to be with True Christians that love and serve Him.
Don't be lead by your emotions. Be lead by the Spirit of God. He knows what is best for you and has already put in your spirit what you should do. He will help you heal from this relationship. Trust me..the hurt won't last forever.
When you get a chance go to this link...
http://www.seekgod.org/bible/spiritguides.html
There are many scriptures there on the Guidance of the Holy Spirit...read them and be encouraged.
In Christ Love,
