Anonymous writes… ok heres my question my boyfriend when he was 17 had a relationship with a girl who was 13 he got in trouble for it. but came out of that a strong Christian and a better person. i am very much in love with him i plan to marry him. the problem is my father (im 20 years old by the way)he is a reserve cop and because of my boyfriend's past has threatened violence against him if he enters the house. my father is not a Christian. i feel that god has led me to my boyfriend and that he is the one i was meant for. he strengthens me and has helped me in times when i have doubted my own faith. i haven't had the easiest life myself i lived in a house of abuse in LA with my mom and her husband for six years until i was 18 and able to move in with my father. i continue to pray for strength to get me through this. i dont understand my fathers anger because my boyfriend has never been any thing other than kind and polite to any member of my family. nor has his family who are strong Christian people. i would love some advise HELP
Saved by Faith replies… Everyone has sinned in their life, and in doing so, many have paid their debt for these consequences. I know many people, including some of my relatives, that went into prison as one person and came out serving the Lord. In accepting Jesus Christ into our lives gives us a clean heart and a new spirit within us. As Christians we must not judge, and we learn to forgive and forget… but that cannot be said for those not of the faith; and this is where your father lies.
Your dad is trying to protect you out of his unconditional love for you. As a parent, we pray that our children find a love that is perfect in every way, even though we know that no one is perfect (with the exception of Jesus Christ). Your dad wants the best for you and is blinded by the past hardships that your boyfriend has experienced. He does not see the diamond in the rough.
Luke 6:37
"Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.
Deuteronomy 1:17
Do not show partiality in judging; hear both small and great alike. Do not be afraid of any man, for judgment belongs to God. Bring me any case too hard for you, and I will hear it.
Job 5:2
Resentment kills a fool, and envy slays the simple.
I know how difficult it is to be in a relationship that others don’t approve of. If it’s a sound, Christian relationship, you must endure the trials. You have to remain strong and continue to pray that your father will see him in the same light that you see him… as a devoted Christian, set in a new way of life; someone that loves God and is serving Him; as a man that loves you. Try to break the wall your father has built; try different approaches to speak to him in a loving manner. At the same time, let the bond you & your boyfriend have continue to run its coarse as a Christian valued relationship… it will emit the grandeur of our Lord.
Continue to pray for the strength and pray for your father… pray that his hardened heart melts to one of love and acceptance. Pray that he finds the Lord and is able to release this resentment.
Ephesians 1:18-20
I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength.
Saved By Faith
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