QUESTION: ok in 6th grade i met this boy... mi first boyfriend who treated me bad... ithought... he never wanted to be around me wit his friends n called me names but i relly like him.. he was my first kiss n so i thought at the time love.... we went on n off datin about a year... n then he just dumped me... i was heartbroken.... for nights i cried myself tosleep he hurt me that bad... i thought that this was the way all relationships are... i have garded my heart ever since... then next year this guy liked me so i let him do what he pleased.. i kissed him when he wanted me to n i let him fill me up... i was hurt n confused... i tryed to use him to get over this guy... i dated a many guys since him... once i made the biggest mistake n stayin wit a guy who beat on me... just becasue he made me feel beautiful... i dumped him when i couldnt take it n e more... i dated many guys since him...but i gaurged my heart not to get attached...i even got to the point where i didnt want a guy to tuch me... i wanted a boyfriend but i was afraid if i kissed him or somthing hed say i was wrong or i was ugly or not good enough... recently my first crush from 6th grade got back intouch wit me... he told me that he thought i was ugly back then so he dumped me... n he still thinks that... i dont no y but i give him so much power.... help... i told him it doesnt bother me but it does
ANSWER: I think you should take some time for yourself. Really get to know you and accept and love yourself exactly as you are. God created you as a beautiful treasure. In His eyes, you are more precious than anything on Earth. And that is something you should always remember. Surround yourself with positive friendships. I suggest you go on a “no boyfriend” fast and just take time to draw closer to the Lord. The word of God tells us that if we seek the things of God first… His righteousness, His peace, His direction, His comfort, His will for our life, His kingdom… everything else we want & desire will be given to us b/c as a result of seeking him, our desires will line up with His will for our life.
I would suggest that you reexamine your commitment to Him. He does not desire that you spend your time looking for love from ungodly men that are just going to use and abuse. You are a child of the most High God. Your body is the temple of God and is meant ONLY to be shared with the man that God has for you, your husband. If you keep on this path, you may end up pregnant, unequally yoked with some guy that’s never going to love and appreciate you or your child. You don’t need baby daddy drama. Focus on your studies. Forget about boys for now. Take this time to allow God to help you develop into a beautiful Godly woman, secure with herself & her faith because of what Christ Jesus has done for us.
James 4:8
Hebrews 10:22
1 Corinthians 3:16
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
1 Thessalonians 4:1-8
Ephesians 5:3
Song of Solomon 1:15
Zechariah. 2:8
Sincerely,
Saved by Faith
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