QUESTION:
Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 3months but we have known each other since elementery school. I just broke up with him last week because he goes out 7days a week and gets drunk, he dont have a job but he goes out every night. I told him from the begining that i didnt like that he goes out every night, that he should get up and look for a job, he has been looking for a job and he is a great person, he has a great personality, hes a faithful man and i havent found anybody else like him thats the only problem we have he just goes out too much. I told him to get things together and prove to me that he can do what he has to do and get a job because i wasnt taking care of no man. I told him we would sit down and talk this weekend face to face and maybe take it slow this time but that he has to prove to me that he loves and get his stuff together because i wasnt getting back with him to just waste my time. Do you think i was wrong for breaking up with him, should i take it slow this time..... Im confused and dont know what to do
ANSWER:
I think breaking up with him was for your best interest. You know in your heart that he’s not living his life how God intended (Galatians 5:18-21). Pray about it; trust the feeling God has given you. God is leading you towards Him, steering you away from the temptations of this world. Take this time apart to draw nearer to God. Take into consideration that God may have put this break up in your heart because He has to work on your ex… refocusing his life on more righteous living.
My ex and I had a very similar problem. It took me years to realize that I couldn’t change his ways… that was a battle that he & the Lord had to work through together.
Be there for him as a friend, as you’ve been since elementary school. Pray for him everyday. God willing, he will be able to refocus and get his life back on track. If he is who God intended for you, the Lord will lead you back together. In the meantime, work on building your relationship with the Lord. Through His word we find love, hope and joy.
Sincerely,
Saved by Faith
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