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How Do You Figure You Used To Be Me?

How Do You Figure You Used To Be Me?

Anonymous Wrote: not to be a smart but how do u figure u used to be like me.............im curious
Response: It's ok...WeUsed2bu in a sense that.. collectively we've experienced different life's circumstances that many teenagers and young women may go through at some point in their life.
insecurities,relationship problems,doubting or questioning what parents say,peer pressure,questions about our identity,learning who we are and our purpose in life,drugs and alcohol,gang activity,teen pregnancy,abuse, & occult activity. Click here to continue reading

How Can I Tell My Parents About My Boyfriend?

How Can I Tell My Parents About My Boyfriend?

Anonymous Wrote: i really need ur help i have a big situation...i think im falling in love with a boy =] =[ the problem is im not allowed 2 have any boy friends but i made an exception for him. i just wish my parents would no that im wise enough to have and handle a boyfriend i really want to tell them and my boyfriend want me to 2 but i just cant so that. Its like when i talk to them about boy or even try to they dont listen to every thing. all they listen to is the boyfriend part i say… they may not no that but i no...plezz help what do i do!!Click here to read response

Baby Mama Drama

Baby Mama Drama

Anonymous: I have been with my boyfriend for two years. We are both Christians and recently made the decision to be obedient to God and to keep in His word daily. I love the fact that we are growing together and encouraging each other when times get tough.
My boyfriend has a three year old son that we pick-up on the weekends and I love him to death. When it’s us three we have a great time together. The only thing is I feel that my boyfriend is trying to keep me away from his son’s family. He doesn’t like to tell me when he talks to his son’s mother and seems to make calls over there secretly to keep me from finding out.Read complete Q & A

Partying & Clubbing

Partying & Clubbing

Lil Bro asks..What does the bible say about partying and clubbing?
Answer..The bible says “Don’t do it!” The bible refers to partying and clubbing as part of our “sinful nature” and goes on to say that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.(Galatians 5:18-21)
Romans 13:12-13 says, “The night is almost gone; the day of salvation will soon be here. So remove your dark deeds like dirty clothes, and put on the shining armor of right living. Because we belong to the day, we must live decent lives for all to see. Don’t participate in the darkness of wild parties and drunkenness, or in sexual promiscuity and immoral living, or in quarreling and jealousy. Read Complete Posting

Addiction to Pornography & Masturbation

Addiction to Pornography & Masturbation

I am a young female and i have a horrible addiction to pornography & masturbation and no matter how much i pray or try to stay away from this temptation i continue to fall. It's horrible and i know that it hurts the Lord when i do it and its also having bad affects on my self-esteem & self-worth. It gives me feelings of worthlessness, guilt, & shame. And it's also affecting my relationship with a good friend of mines because everytime i fall i take out my frustration on him. This problem is horrible because i know its wrong but i cant stop. Read Complete Q & A

This Is Not The Life I Wanted For Myself

I Like Him But He's Not Christian

I Like Him But He's Not Christian

A MySpace Friend Wrote: I'm writing to you because I've read your bulletines and they've helped me...but now i have this problem & seems harder than what i really thought.Almost all my life i was raised in the gospel,i know right from wrong. I know that God is our only true love.We've always been taught, keep yourself pure until the day you get married, do not set eyes on an unbeliever, watch what you do and say at all times and respresent Christ in everything you do. That never really seemed like a problem until now that I started college. Click here to continue reading

I'm 13. My Mom Won't Let Me Have A Boyfriend

He Had A Fling & She Got Pregnant Too

He Had A Fling & She Got Pregnant Too

Anonymous said... Ok so..here goes...My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years. Not being obedient, we had a daughter, now shes 7 mos. However, now we broke up for about one month, and he had a fling with another woman and she got pregnant as well. Our daughters are 6 weeks apart.I love him a lot, however, even though we were officially not together, I feel betrayed. Not to mention the conviction I feel for not keepin my temple holy. Any who..He's a great father two both girls, and is really considerate of my feelings about the situation, He constantly apologizes. He's saved, and I forgive him..but why do i feel so insecure? I believe he is my husband, however, I don't want to deal wit' the baby mama drama. I feel like I have a choice, take care of me and my daughter, or stick it out with my potential husband. I've prayed, and prayed and prayed...I don't know what God wants me to do...what do you guys think?
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My Ex Never Got Rid of the Indecent Pictures & Video of Me

My Ex Never Got Rid of the Indecent Pictures & Video of Me

Anonymous Wrote:
Sister, I need your help and prayers. I was in a relationship with a guy for a year and in that year I also became a Christian. As a new believer, I did not listen to God as much as I should have. As a result, I ended up emailing my ex bf undesirable pictures and a video of me. It's been roughly a year since we broke up and we still occasionally talk. Recently I accidentally discovered a message he sent his friend about still having those files on his email and computer. I was terrified. I thought he had deleted them but I was deceived. How should I go about confronting him about it? Should I talk to him about it in person? How should I go about it? Please help me. I pray that God will erase my past sins and forgive my sinful deeds so that I made me made pure and innocent again.
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Monday, June 30, 2008

He Wants To Hang But Doesn't Want To Commit. Help!

Anonymous asks..I have a guy that I like and am interested in. We both have past of being hurt and are afraid but I am trying to follow Gods will. This guy wants to take his time and I totally respect that but at the same time he is scared with being honest with his feelings and it is very hard to not get tempted in this situation.He likes to hang out with me and want to see what happens but does not want to make a commitment. HELP!!!

Answer.. You are a daughter of the King! Your heavenly Father wants the best for you. He will send you the man who is for you and only you. He does not want you to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever or a man that claims to love the Lord but does not have evidence in His life.
He knows that you have been hurt in the past and that you are afraid. Don’t force this relationship. Perhaps you both need more time to heal before moving forward in new relationships.

Take a couple of steps back. The more time you spend with this guy the more confusing it will be for both of you. Confusion is not of the Lord. Confusion comes from the enemy to keep us distracted so that we can not see where God is trying to direct us. When this happens it is best to stop and seek God. He says that if we want to know what His will is all we have to do is ask in faith and don’t doubt that He will really answer. Then when we pray about our situations we will begin to have peace which surpasses all understanding protecting our minds and hearts as we trust God.

Don’t be deceived by the enemy our Heavenly Father gives good gifts. He wants to bless you with a healthy relationship. He will give you a man that:

• Loves Jesus

• Obeys God and puts Him first

• Loves you

These things will be evident in this man’s life because as a princess child of the Almighty God he has only the best for you. So don’t settle for less. You are royalty now and you deserve to have a godly man by your side that will love and cherish you. He will be sure that you are for him and will honor you because of his love for God. He will respect you and your desire to do God’s will. He will not lead you into temptation.

I will be praying for you to be strong and determined to follow God’s will.

Sincerely,

Trophy of Grace

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DON'T EVER GIVE UP

DON'T EVER GIVE UP

The Creator of Heaven and Earth as good plans and a purpose for your life. You are not an accident. Our God made all the delicate, inner parts of your body and knit you together in your mother’s womb for such a time as this. He made you so wonderfully complex! You are His marvelous workmanship. He watched over you as you were being formed in utter seclusion, as you were woven together in the dark of your mother’s womb. He saw you before you were born. Every day of your life was recorded in His book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. He has wonderful and precious thoughts about you. His thoughts toward you cannot even be counted because they outnumber the grains of sand! When you feel lonely or like you’ve lost your way remember that Jesus is just a prayer away. Don’t ever give up! (Psalm 139:13-18)

Insults, Rumors, & Gossip

Insults, Rumors, & Gossip

Written by: Saved By Faith
“Did you hear? ...”“You didn’t hear it from me but…”“Someone told me that….”We’ve all been there before, either saying it or listening to it. Gossiping, exchanging stories, talking about someone, whatever you want to call it. But what exactly did you get from it? Do you still see that person the same way, without judging them? Can that information be used to lift them up? Or did it damage their reputation? Hurt them? Or maybe hurt you?Click here to continue reading

What's Love Got To Do With It?

Show Me A Sign

Written by: Saved by Faith
Just as God created trees, He created us to be rooted too. Rooted in His word. Rooted in His faith and love. Many are quick to question whether or not He's there for them. Many say, "Well, if God was there then why would he let that happen to me?" Sometimes we have to go through certain struggles in order to continue on the righteous path. Sometimes these struggles are used to humble us or remind us of the walk we should be taking as Christians. In order to truly survive these trials, we must be firm in our walk... Click here to continue reading

Do You Think I'm Beautiful?

Do You Think I'm Beautiful?

Written by: Trophy of Grace
A friend gave me a book to read called, Do You Think I'm Beautiful? written by Angela Thomas. She said that she thought it would be good since I am doing the WeUsed2bu ministry and so many girls and women ask, “Do you think I’m beautiful”. Since this is a question that I have asked on several occasions I was determined to see what this book had to offer on this frequently asked question. I could never imagine the blessing that was in store for me. I know now that it was most definitely our loving and sweet Lord who put it on her heart to give me this book to read.Click her to continue reading

"Do Over"

Written By: Trophy of Grace
“For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard.” Romans 3:23
Recently I have been thinking about how many believers allow themselves to be tormented by feelings of guilt and condemnation when they sin and fall short of our God’s glorious standard. They get so down on their selves when they realize that they are still susceptible to sin. We must remember that we are going to make mistakes as long as we are here in these sinful bodies living in this world full of sin and temptation.Read complete posting

What is Truth?

Written by: Daughter of the King
Recently I was at a Christian concert for teens handing out brochures; these brochures contained biblically accurate information and advice for Christian teens about some of the tough issues they face today, issues like abortion, sex, pornography and homosexuality.
For the most part I had a great time sharing this information with many teens and young adults, they were very grateful that we took the time to answer their questions. But then a group of girls came along and they picked up some of our brochures and after reading them one of the girls said that she didn’t agree with me, so I asked her what was it that she didn’t agree with. She replied that she didn’t agree that abortion was wrong, I told her that the fact that abortion is wrong (a sin) is not my opinion but God’s opinion and really the only opinion that matters is not mine or yours but HIS. I reminded her that through out the Bible God tells us that HE creates all life and all life is sacred, then I asked her “Are you a Christian?” “Are you saved?” what she said next surprised me; she said, “Yes, I’m a Christian but I don’t believe everything that’s in the Bible”.Read Complete Posting

Locked Up Memories

Locked Up Memories

This article is for mature audience; Graphic in nature; Not for the weak or judgemental

Written by: Blessed & Highly Favored
My mother died four years ago and I’m still having a hard time going through her stuff. In fact, there are boxes in my possession that I haven’t gone through since March of 2004. The boxes are full of papers, pictures, letters, etc.
I really loved my mother and I miss her terribly. I know she’s in heaven and I’ll just have to wait to see her again.
Now, my father…I hated him. He molested me for years as a child, forcing me to perform oral sex on him, and fondled every part of my body. He made me fear him, fear my feelings, and sowed the seeds of distrust. I didn’t know what love was, only that I was exploited for his pleasure. And I never told my mother. I thought I was the one who was being bad, almost asking to be abused. As so this is how a child thinks.Read complete posting