I Don't Know What To Do Or How To Do It

Anonymous said...
Ok i am right now facing pretty tough dicisions i am 18 years old and next year i will be graduating but i dont know what to do or how to do it God has given me a great talent with writing poetry and short stories but the problem is how do i incorportate that into college i really want to be an published author but i dont know where to begin and yes do you have any sugestions about this any advice would be a great help and one other thing thank you for listening to all of my stuff i know i have a lot but every time i come to you guys with my problems you always have words of encourgement God has given you guys the gift of discernment and yall are not letting it go to waste praise god for you i have only one other person in my life that gives me real encourgement and really means what she says i thank god for you guys and her thanks you will never know the impact you are having in my life

Trophy of Grace said...
Well thank you very much for your encouraging words. Glory be to God who has gifted and given us the courage to step out and serve you ladies through WeUsed2bu ministries. It is an honor and privilege to all of us to serve you. We love you all so much and want to help you in your walk with the Lord. Thank you for allowing us to be a part of your life. Sincerely…

I forwarded your question to Beloved by Him for her suggestions because she went to college for journalism and I knew that she would have good advice. So she says..

Hey--what a sweet girl. My encouragement to her would be to think about studying journalism/communications as well as English and possibly education. I would guess that one of the best places to get published would be a Christian magazine. She could contact a few and see what their publishing guidelines are. A few things you might want to stress to her are that it can be difficult to get a print job without a good education, so she needs to get a good degree. She may want to consider a Christian college, because I would think they have contacts with some of the Christian publishers out there. Also, because of the economy, journalism is becoming a tougher field, so she should pray about what else the Lord may want her to do in addition to her writing. If she is creative, then maybe she can think about becoming a teacher and fostering those talents in her students. That's not to say that she shouldn't be a writer. There are volunteer/freelance opportunities that will allow her to get published, but not paid. She could approach her local church (if they have a newsletter--or maybe she could start one) or community newspaper and ask if they use volunteer writers. There will also probably be internship opportunities for her in college. Long story short, if God gave her those talents, then He will provide opportunities for her to glorify Him with them.

Amen to her suggestions and especially that last sentence. Very good advice..

I would also suggest blogging. You can go to Blogger.com and start your own blog for free. Then you can share your literature with the world. You would be surprised what our Lord can do when you step out and faith and allow Him to use you. The possibilities are endless.

Pray and fast about the direction you are seeking for college and how the Lord would like you to start using this gift. He will give you clear direction. The gifts that He has given are to glorify Him so He will show you how to use them properly and where to start. All you need is a willingness to be used by Him and offer your gifts to His service and you will the favor of God on your life. He will begin to open doors and take you right where you need to be. So trust Him..

Sincerely,

Trophy of Grace

P.S.

Here are some Scriptures to meditate on:

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6

"Now therefore, I pray, if I have found grace in Your sight, show me now Your way, that I may know You and that I may find grace in Your sight." Exodus 33:13

"Your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, 'This is the way, walk in it,'
Whenever you turn to the right hand or whenever you turn to the left." Isaiah 30:21

"The mind of man plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps." Proverbs 16:9

"Cause me to hear Your lovingkindness in the morning, for in You do I trust;
Cause me to know the way in which I should walk, for I lift up my soul to You." Psalm 143:8

He Is Not the Spiritual Leader I Need. Should I End It?

Anonymous said...
I don't know what to do anymore...I am 21 and i can remember at church camp, a counselor telling the girls to write down ten qualities we wanted in a husband and to stick to them. For almost five years I dated a guy who had all of those qualities and more. Romantic, kind, and he was a spirtual leader in our relationship and he served in our church. We prayed together, did devotions together and he treated me really well but six months after we graduated high school he called and broke things off. I was devistated. I loved him very much but within a year he was married. I know that God did not promise an easy life but now I find myself wondering if things will every get better. The one man I really loved for so long is gone and his wife got the exact life I always dreamed of. I was very careful about who I dated after that. About a year ago I started dating another guy I met at work. He is a great guy and treats me well but I won't let myself get close to him. For one, he is nothing like what I dreamed of or wanted in man. He loves me very much and he feels that we are ment to be. I don't know though. He is smart, funny, and he loves my family which is very important to me. He treats me well but sometimes I wounder if I'm just settling. He is a great guy and everyone keeps reminding me of that. He is not the spiritual leader I need though. He loves God and plays in the band at church but when I have suggested we pray and do devotions together it only happens once and then not again. Should I try and work things out with him or should I just end things before they get any deeper?

Trophy of Grace replies..

I am sorry to here about your break up. I know that hurts you terribly. Don’t allow yourself to think that she got your life because she didn’t. She got her life. The Lord allowed this man to move out of your life for a reason. You have to trust His ways no matter what, remembering that everything that happens to us whether we see it as good or bad the Lord will always work out for our good. Instead of meditating on what could have been meditate on the truth that our Lord has good plans for your life, to give you a future and a hope. We know that His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts. They are so much higher and wiser. Since we know that He has good plans we must trust Him with everything and in everything. (Romans 8:28-30, Jeremiah 29:11-13, Isaiah 55:8-9)

If you feel like this young man let you down you have to forgive him and let it go. Pray for him and his marriage believe it or not it will help the healing process. I truly believe that is why the Lord wants us to pray for those that hurt us, persecute us, and talk about us.

Now for the new guy..Well, when I woke up this morning I was thinking about your question. The first scripture that came to mind is found in Matthew 7: 16-20 and it says:

“By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, and a bad tree cannot bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus, by their fruit you will recognize them.”

Just because someone plays in the band or sings in the choir doesn’t mean that they are in the Word, spiritual, or even saved. The only way to know whether a believer is a true believer is by the fruit that they produce in their life. I would say evaluate this young man’s fruit.

What have you seen in him over the past year? Does He read the Word? What comes out of his mouth? Words of life or words of death? Whatever you have seen already has made you determine that he is not the spiritual leader you need. That says a lot right there.

I can not tell you whether you should leave him or not. I will tell you that I think that the Lord is already speaking to you about what you should do. I believe it is time to pray and fast about this situation. The Lord is faithful to answer us when we call out for help. He will never lead us down the wrong path. I am going to be praying for you too.

P.S.

I don’t think that you should settle. There is no perfect man out there, but the Lord does have the perfect man out there for each of us. If those ten qualities that you wrote down in summer camp were based on the Word of God and inspired by Him then I would say allow them to help guide you.

Father,You see my sister’s heart and concern. She needs direction. She wants to have the man in her life that will be the spiritual leader of their marriage. Her heart’s desire seems to be a man that loves you. She wants him to pray with her and read the Word with her. She wants to know that she can trust Him because He is going to You and seeking Your direction. Your Word says that You will give us the desires of our hearts. This desire that you have put in her heart I believe comes straight from You. Hear her pray and give her clear direction in what she should do here with this young man. Give her the wisdom and courage to always do the right thing. We thank you. We praise You because You are Faithful and True to Your Word. We trust You and hope in You. In Jesus name..Amen

Sister I leave you with some scriptures. Meditate on them and trust His Word.

Isaiah 30:21 Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, "This is the way; walk in it."

Proverbs 16:9 In his heart a man plans his course, but the LORD determines his steps.

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.

Psalm 37:23 If the LORD delights in a man's way, he makes his steps firm;

Psalm 32:8 I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you.