Anonymous said...
Why is purity so important? I don't find anything wrong with having sex before marriage. Sex is about waiting until YOU and YOUR PARTNER are ready!
Beloved by Him said...
When we question why purity is important, what we’re really asking is if God’s Word is true. The Bible’s standards of purity haven’t ever changed (Ps. 12:6). What’s changed is society’s standards. Prov. 30:12 says, “There is a generation that is pure in its own eyes, yet is not washed from its filthiness.” What’s acceptable to the world is not what’s acceptable to God. He requires a completely different standard: “Be holy, for I am holy” (I Peter 1:15-16). Holiness is the real definition of purity.
So with regard to sex, what does purity look like in God’s eyes? Only one thing—marriage. Heb. 13:4 says that “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” Any sex outside of the marriage relationship is impure and sinful. This includes fornication (sex before marriage), adultery (sex outside of marriage), and homosexuality (same-sex relationships). These are all examples of what the Bible calls “sexual immorality”, and they are definitely not okay with God. He clearly defines His will for us in I Thessalonians 4:3-8:
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the Avenger of all such, as we also forewarned you and testified. For God did not call us to uncleanness, but in holiness. Therefore he who rejects this does not reject man, but God, Who has also given us His Holy Spirit.”
It’s important to look at verse six of that passage, where the terms “take advantage of” and “defraud” are used. Sexual sin is sin against our own bodies (I Cor. 6:18), as well as someone else’s. It robs a future spouse of something precious that should have only been theirs (Gen. 2:24). Plus, because a Christian’s body is literally the temple of the Holy Spirit (I Cor. 6:19), sexual sin defiles the dwelling place of God. There’s nothing good or beautiful or holy about sex under these circumstances.
The other point you make is that you feel you should be able to have sex when you feel you are ready. Dear sister, you don’t have the right to make the decision to have sex outside of marriage. I Cor. 6:13 says, “Now the body is not for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.” We belong to God, having been designed and created by Him in Christ Jesus to do the good works He’s prepared for us (Eph. 2:10). He wants to give us His love, eternal salvation, and all the benefits of His goodness (John 3:16, Ps. 103:2). This includes the perfect husband He has chosen for us. It’s our reasonable service to God to keep ourselves pure and wait for Him to bring that person to us (Rom. 12:1-2). He would never tempt us by bringing us the wrong person or even the right person at the wrong time (James 1:13). Choosing to have sex outside of marriage will never bring us real love or happiness—choosing to be pure in God’s eyes will. When we make the decision to turn away from temptation and trust in God’s perfect plan, He promises to bless us with all the things He wants to give to us: life, length of days, hope, joy, and His fullness (Matt. 6:33, Jer. 29:11, Eph. 3:19). Those things are what make purity worth the wait.
Why is purity so important? I don't find anything wrong with having sex before marriage. Sex is about waiting until YOU and YOUR PARTNER are ready!
Beloved by Him said...
When we question why purity is important, what we’re really asking is if God’s Word is true. The Bible’s standards of purity haven’t ever changed (Ps. 12:6). What’s changed is society’s standards. Prov. 30:12 says, “There is a generation that is pure in its own eyes, yet is not washed from its filthiness.” What’s acceptable to the world is not what’s acceptable to God. He requires a completely different standard: “Be holy, for I am holy” (I Peter 1:15-16). Holiness is the real definition of purity.
So with regard to sex, what does purity look like in God’s eyes? Only one thing—marriage. Heb. 13:4 says that “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” Any sex outside of the marriage relationship is impure and sinful. This includes fornication (sex before marriage), adultery (sex outside of marriage), and homosexuality (same-sex relationships). These are all examples of what the Bible calls “sexual immorality”, and they are definitely not okay with God. He clearly defines His will for us in I Thessalonians 4:3-8:
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one should take advantage of and defraud his brother in this matter, because the Lord is the Avenger of all such, as we also forewarned you and testified. For God did not call us to uncleanness, but in holiness. Therefore he who rejects this does not reject man, but God, Who has also given us His Holy Spirit.”
It’s important to look at verse six of that passage, where the terms “take advantage of” and “defraud” are used. Sexual sin is sin against our own bodies (I Cor. 6:18), as well as someone else’s. It robs a future spouse of something precious that should have only been theirs (Gen. 2:24). Plus, because a Christian’s body is literally the temple of the Holy Spirit (I Cor. 6:19), sexual sin defiles the dwelling place of God. There’s nothing good or beautiful or holy about sex under these circumstances.
The other point you make is that you feel you should be able to have sex when you feel you are ready. Dear sister, you don’t have the right to make the decision to have sex outside of marriage. I Cor. 6:13 says, “Now the body is not for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.” We belong to God, having been designed and created by Him in Christ Jesus to do the good works He’s prepared for us (Eph. 2:10). He wants to give us His love, eternal salvation, and all the benefits of His goodness (John 3:16, Ps. 103:2). This includes the perfect husband He has chosen for us. It’s our reasonable service to God to keep ourselves pure and wait for Him to bring that person to us (Rom. 12:1-2). He would never tempt us by bringing us the wrong person or even the right person at the wrong time (James 1:13). Choosing to have sex outside of marriage will never bring us real love or happiness—choosing to be pure in God’s eyes will. When we make the decision to turn away from temptation and trust in God’s perfect plan, He promises to bless us with all the things He wants to give to us: life, length of days, hope, joy, and His fullness (Matt. 6:33, Jer. 29:11, Eph. 3:19). Those things are what make purity worth the wait.
