Anonymous said...HI I JUST NEED SOME ADVICE :)
I REALLY LIKE THIS GUY AND HE IS A MAN OF GOD AND HELPS ME OUT ALOT. BUT I HAVE A PROBLEM, I HAVE A TENDENCY TO GET JEALOUS ALOT OF TIMES. I KNOW THAT I CAN TRUST HIM BECAUSE HE HAS PROVEN THAT TO ME AND I KNOW THAT HE TRULY CARES ABOUT ME AND LOVES ME. BUT THERES A GIRL AT CHURCH THAT LIKES HIM AND SHE IS HIS EX FROM SO LONG AGO BEFORE HE EVEN WENT TO OUR CHURCH. NOW I KNOW HE DOESNT LIKE HER BUT THERES TIMES I JUST CANT HELP COMPARING MYSELF TO HER. THOUGH I KNOW IM NOT UGLY AND I KNOW SPIRITUALLY I AM MATURE AND A GREAT HELP AND SUPPORT FOR HIM. THERES TIMES I STILL GET A BIT JEALOUS AND OVER-PROTECTIVE WHICH HE NOTICES AND I THINK IT UPSETS HIM TO KNOW THAT I SOMETIMES FEEL THIS WAY. PLUS SHE CONTINUALLY FLIRTS WITH HIM AND ALWAYS BOTHERS ME BY ALWAYS ASKING FOR HIM AND WANTING TO KNOW ABOUT HIM. PS. SHES ONLY 16 AND WERE IN OUR TWENTIES SO I DO UNDERSTAND HER AND I NEVER TREAT HER WITH DISRESPECT OR GET ANGRY AT HER. BESIDES I KNOW IT WAS IN THE PAST BUT I JUST HAVE WORRIES SOMETIMES.
ANY ADVICE WOULD BE NICE :) THANKS!
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There are several issues at play here, but let's focus on the primary reason for sending the question.
Jealousy is a real emotion arising out of bitterness, envy and rivarly, either real or imagined. The Bible says in Proverbs 27:4, "jealousy is dangerous." It can and will makes us do and say stupid things. I have to ask you, how much time do you allow the Lord to renew your mind and regenerate your spirit? (Titus 3:5)
It is my hope at least, if not more time, than you are spending with this guy. By allowing the Lord to work on your heart and mind, flushing it of insecurities, can you "cast down this imagination and bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ." (2Corinthians 10:5) If you have your eyes fixed on Christ, you are being transformed and the actions of others just seem not to matter anymore.
From your post, you "like this guy"....."and he helps you out alot." Also, "you know he truly cares about you and loves you." Is this "relationship" real or imagined? Has he told you exactly that or are you assuming if you're feeling this way, then , of course, he must be feeling this same way too?!?
Every committed, serious relationship has boundries, but both people have to know what they are. A teenager has an entirely different idea of what a relationship is, as opposed to an older, responsible adult. You being the adult, has to recognize this, and not allow your emotions to run back to the high school daze and let yourself get all tripped up by immature thoughts. Now if this guy you're hanging around welcomes this girls inquiries and attention, then time to move on and wait on the Lord to present to you the MAN He has for you.
Always focus on God; He always has the VERY BEST for us.
Sincerely,
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