Anonymous said...
I have an urgent question. My three friends and I decided to sing in church, something we have been hoping to do for a long time. Our youth leader gave us a week to practice a song. We realized we were pretty good except for one thing, the girl who is most enthusiastic and excited about it is also tone-deaf-she can't not sing at all and has never had any singing experience. She does not understand it and sings the loudest and makes us sound terrible. We are supposed to sing in two days, and we need to let her know gently somehow (that we would like her out). She is a long time friend but gets mad easily. What should we do?
Trophy of Grace said...
O man..I feel so bad for all of you. You must feel so torn. The very first thing I would do is get on my face, literally, before our Lord and ask Him to give me wisdom on how to handle the situation.
I’m not sure if you are trying to form a group or if you’re trying out for the choir. I guess if your trying out for the choir then wouldn’t that be on the youth leader or choir leader to decide who makes it on the choir?
If you are forming a group then her ability to be able to carry her tune would most definitely affect your music.
Either way, you have to talk to your friend. It will not be easy. Pray that our Lord prepare her heart to receive what you have to say and may He give you the words to speak in love. Be sensitive and understanding.
Maybe you should try recording yourselves and playing it back for all of you to hear. Perhaps she will hear herself and decide to step down.
I wish I could be more helpful bu the truth is that there is not going to be an easy way to tell your friend that you would like her to stand down.
Let me pray for you all..
Dear Heavenly Father,Lord you see this situation and how it troubles these girls. Please comfort their hearts and minds. Give them wisdom and direction to handle this situation correctly. They do not want to hurt their long time friend but they want to do well in this audition. If their friend is truly not a good singer and not meant to be part of the group as a vocalist then may they use the correct words to tell their friend. Let their friend receive their words without flying off the handle. Let your will be done..In Jesus name..amen.
