Anonymous said...I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. He has had it pretty hard growing up; he's been on his own since he was 15. We are now in our mid 20's and I'm ready to get my career going. I haven't been to school in a while but I'm ready to get serious now. I see myself marrying my boyfriend the only problem is.. he is in major debt (that he pays no attention to) and he doesn't have a good paying job.I feel bad because he is paying rent, making his car payments, gas food, etc. But he even talks like he is going to stay where he is the rest of his life.I often pay for us to do things; which I don't mind but I do get a bit tired of it. I try to encourage him to go back to school but he doesn't have the time or the money. Some times I feel if he doesn't get his life right, I can't be with him anymore.If we marry I feel like I would have to support us for the rest of our lives. Please pray for us and do you have any advice on what I should do?
Trophy of Grace said...I will gladly pray for you..
Lord Jesus,
You are an awesome God who hears our prayers and answers our cry. I come to know on behalf my sister here. You see her concerns Lord and I know that you Word says that if we need wisdom and direction that we can seek Your face and you will give guidance. We trust you because we know that you work everything out for our good. Please help my sister..she needs wisdom and guidance. She needs peace to do your will. Help her to accept your will and your ways above her own. In Jesus name I pray…Amen…
Here is my advice to you..
“Lazy people want much but get little, but those who work hard will prosper.” Proverbs 13:4
“Just as the rich rule the poor, so the borrower is servant to the lender.” Proverbs 22:7
I think you should most definitely not ignore those feelings of concern about this relationship and where it may lead. His lack of motivation to get out of debt and progress in life will keep him enslaved to his debtors and if you decide to marry him you also will be carrying his burdens.
It concerns me that you feel that you will be the one providing for your family. That should be his main concern has your potential husband and head of household. The burden of supporting your husband and family should not be one that you are going into your marriage knowing that you have to carry. You should feel confident knowing that your husband can help support the family.
1 Timothy 5:8 (NIV)
8 If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
Marriage is a serious commitment and responsibility. It is covenant that you are making before God to honor, submit, and love one another for the rest of your lives. You must go into it sure that this man is the one that God has for you.
Explain to him your concerns. Be honest with him. See how he reacts and ask God to give you wisdom to discern if you should stay or go. You have to seek God’s face about this through prayer and reading His Word. He will show you which way to go.
“If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and He will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking. But when you ask Him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is as unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed by the wind. Such people should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Their loyalty is divided between God and the world, and they are unstable in everything they do.” James 1: 5-8
You will be in my prayers sister..
Love Trophy of Grace
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