Anonymous Question Posted: Im 13 yrs old and my mom won't even tell me about anything like dating. She also wont let me walk around a store with my friends by ourselves! I want to go out with this boy at school and i even know where he lives but if i even mention i know where he lives my mom will kill me! then she'll give like an hr long speech on why i cant date or have guy friends untill im like 20...im so pissed!!!
Trophy of Grace Replied... I'm sorry that you are going through this. I know you may feel like your mom does not understand you and that she's being unreasonable. However, she is being protective over you because thirteen is still quite young to be thinking about dating or having a boyfriend. She wants the best for you.
I have a thirteen year old daughter who is very mature for her age. She is a great kid. She has had her share of crushes, but she is not allowed to have boyfriends either. I want her to focus on her studies and growing into a young woman without the complications of a boyfriend.
There is too much unnecessary temptation that comes with dating and having boyfriends. Why start so young?
I realize that alot of other kids are moving fast doing the whole dating fade and the movie stars as well as the sitcoms make everything look so wonderful, but it isn't all roses. Relationships are alot of work and commitment.
Don't resent your mother for caring for you. She doesn't want to allow you to be in a situation where you are forced to make grown up decisions so young.
Although you may not agree with your mother's rules you still have to trust that she knows what's best for you. She has lived longer and experienced more. She may not really know all that she has been through. Don't despise her wisdom and knowledge.
Obey her and honor because she has your best interest in mind and she is your mother. Most importantly you should obey her because God has commanded that you must. He promises that if obey and honor your parents that you live long life here on earth.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth, EPH 6:1-3.
COL 3:20 says, "Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord."
I know that this may not be what you want to hear but you have to learn to leave things in God's hands when they are out of your control. Your time will come when you will meet the man that God has for you, but until then keep yourself pure so that you can present your body to your future husband and only him.
Forget about the dating scene and don't fight with your mom about it because it's only going to make the situation more.
Also, I wrote an article called 'I Wish I Had A Mom!' Read it when you get a chance. I wrote right after I went through something similar with my own daughter. Here's the link weused2bu.blogspot.com/2008/09/i-wish-i-had-mom.html
I will be praying for both you and your mom. God bless you.
Trophy of Grace
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