Situation: im living with my fiance and his parents. they drink vodka and get druk every night. his dad doesnt bother me at all. he is awsome. his mom i cant stand. last night when i was in the shower my engagment ring went missing. i left it on the counter while i showered and when i got out it was gone. the only person that came in was her. i thouht maybe it got knocked down. i searched the whole house and even in the sink drain trap. he tells me to ignore her and he will get me a new ring but i just want to scream at her. we woke her up and asked her what she did with it and she called us names for accusing her of taking it but we know she did it.
Response: I’m sorry to hear that you lost your engagement ring. The thought that your mother in law could have stolen it is just terrible. I’m sure you feel betrayed and angry. Hopefully it turns up. If it does not there is really no point in arguing or accusing your mother in law. It is only going to cause more problems and make your living situation even more stressful. This is one of those situations where you just have to “let it go”. I know that it seems easier said than done, but if in fact your mother in law did steal it, what can you really do about it. Chances are she will not admit it. At least your fiancé has offered to buy you a new one.
In the past when I have had something stolen from me my initial reaction is anger, but then I cool down and I say to myself, “They must have needed it more than me? So they can just have it. God will bless me with a new one.” Then I quickly forgive because getting angry or trying to get even takes too much energy and it will only make the situation worse.
Here are scriptures that help me when I have been hurt or offended by someone.
I am reminded that I need to forgive my offender.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32
“But if you do not forgive people their offenses, your Father will not forgive your offenses.” (Matthew 6:15)
I need to forgive and forget.
“Then he adds: “Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more.” (Hebrews 10:17)
I do not need to plan revenge.
“Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. (Romans 12:19)
“Be angry, yet do not sin.” Do not let the sun set while you are still angry. (Ephesians 4:26)
I believe your problems go so much further than the lost engagement ring. It sounds like you are living in a very destructive household. I would suggest that move out of that house as soon as possible; even if that means that you can not move back in with your fiancé until you are married with your own place. That is not a healthy home for your relationship to grow and I am sure that your fiancé feels some what caught in the middle of you and his mother.
Pray about it and seek God’s will about the entire situation you will see that He will give you the direction and wisdom you need to make the right decision.
I will be praying for you and that entire household.
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